Author	Thread: Break ups
fiferic View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 19 Mar, 2012 12:22 AM I have been talking to this girl and we have been talking almost everyday this week. I want to ask her out but would like to know because her ex bf just broke up with her last week. How long should I wait to ask? Post Reply
View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 19 Mar, 2012 12:30 AM Patience is a virtue, and we wouldn't want you to be a rebound guy. My advice is to give it a couple more weeks at least, and, if you haven't already, maybe find a way to "test the waters" about how the break up is affecting her and whether or not she feels ready to give dating another try. Best of luck! Post Reply
fiferic View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 19 Mar, 2012 02:15 AM I agree with what you are saying. How could I "test the waters?" Post Reply
View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 19 Mar, 2012 10:35 AM I think honesty is best. Ask her how's she's coping, if she's healing well. I'd make sure to be clear that you have intentions toward her, though, to keep yourself clear of the "friend zone." Anyone else have advice for our friend? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 20 Mar, 2012 05:58 AM Couple questions before offer any advice... 1) Is this someone you know in person, or an online acquaintance? 2) Were you talking and texting before the ex bf broke up with this girl? Post Reply
fiferic View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 21 Mar, 2012 10:36 PM This is a offline. I work with her. I have had only one conversion with her before they broke up. Also, an update...The other day she did say that she wish he wasn't an ex, but today she said she was stressing about boys not boy. But of course she has other male friends beside me so idk. I have given up trying to understand women. Post Reply
View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 22 Mar, 2012 06:05 AM Honestly, I would show her you are interested. That would pave the way to conversations about whether or not she's ready for a new relationship. FIF, eric? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 22 Mar, 2012 08:13 AM OK, you might be running the risk of being a rebound guy...but I think since you do actually know her and see her frequently, it would be acceptable to ask her out if she seems ready to move forward. Just be aware of the fact that she may have started talking to you more since her break-up because she's lonely...not because she's interested. You won't know unless you ask her out, though! Post Reply
fiferic View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 22 Mar, 2012 10:12 AM She is coming over to watch a movie next Friday (as a friend) and maybe a couple of her friends. I guess I will see how things go then. I have never asked anyone out before for fear of rejection. Please I dont want to lose a friendship if they say no. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 22 Mar, 2012 11:05 AM If you never ask anyone out because you are afraid of being rejected, you will be single for LONG time. You won't know if she'll say "yes" or "no" until you ask her. By the way, since this is a relatively new friendship, don't feel like you need to rush into asking her out. Don't want so long that you because just a good friend and have no chance for anything more, though! Get to know her a little, spend time with her (even if it's in a group setting), and then get up the courage to ask her out. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Break ups Posted : 22 Mar, 2012 11:06 AM Ugh...I hate that I can't edit posts on here! I meant to say... "Don't WAIT so long that you BECOME just a friend." Post Reply

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