I have been a Christian all my life... Got real serious though one night on the battle field, yea really... You tend to pray in the true sense of the word when you don't know if your going to live through next hour... Well, I made a deal ( i'm still alive) and I'm keeping my end of my promise... but I'm finding it really hard to appreciate a lot of women who seem to be not religious but more fanatical, God is a very loving and forgiving and understanding being and I've noticed some women on here are as fanatical as some of the nut jobs we've been at war with for 2 decades now... they just call it being Christian... I'm venting because I read one profile that just put me over the top she said simply if you are a divorced man for what ever reason she is not interested because a re-married divorced man is committing adultery... huh? I don't get that, would someone please enlighten me on that one? Yea, I'm divorced, I was handed a piece of paper one day at work and shortly there after lost everything I've worked for my whole life including half of my military pension... It wasn't my choice, We never argued, I'm not a violent man, I don't even raise my voice, but during the marriage I was frequently deployed for a year at a time... She found someone else, whatever. So I'm being told by this person that I am forever committing a sin that was not of my control... how can I ask forgiveness for something I haven't done? basically, I took it as I'm going to hell and there's nothing I can do about it... as we all know that is so wrong... I've been divorced for 5 years, made it through the dark times without booze or drugs. Am I saved? God saves me everyday, I should be dead and/or crazy many times over by now, but by his grace I'm still standing... Praise God and thank you Lord for that... I'm ready to start anew... I don't do the bar scene and if some of the girls on this site is a sample of what is in store for me... I'm going back to being happily single... oh yea, and for all you girls out there that refuse a man because he smokes... That's fine, personal preference is a great thing, but don't say because the body is a temple and if you can't respect that why would she.... of course, Cheese burgers are just as bad as cigarettes, so look in the mirror, does your "temple" consume to many cheese burgers? Get real ladies... Some of you actually say you want "anything" as far as what do you want from this site.. and then you want to meet man that are not as old as you are... I mean you want younger men not even the same age as you, so it's really obvious what you are after... I will be leaving this site soon... Christian sites are like churches, you just have to keep looking for one that is right for you... I think the next one I'll actually pay for and see if the quality there is different... That was mean, sorry... God bless you ladies and I hope you find what you need...
Wherever you go you will find sanctimonious people. In church, out of church; in any denomination. You are always going to find someone who says something that really ticks you off.
Just don't paint with such a broad brush, brother. No, not all women think to be divorced and then marry again is to be an adulterer. No, not every woman has a pius-sounding description and then is obviously looking for someone younger.
All the things you mentioned --- I have seen all that and more on men's profiles I have looked at on this site. I don't for a minute believe all men are like that. Sometimes something I see or read ticks me off -- but that is part of life.
Hold up what you see/read to the Word. If it doesn't match, then throw it out and ignore it and don't let it worry you.
Just my encouragement for you, brother. Good luck in your searching.
Hey G. Changing sites won't change anything. I have yet to find a Christian site or any other site that doesn't have women on it that you can't get along with. You will have to decide what you want and look for it. Ignore the women that you don't agree with or who appear to be sanctimonious, ok? To be honest I have found many of the women here to be very serious about their faith and most of them know what they are looking for. Just be honest about yourself, stick to your beliefs and be patient. It's easy to make friends here and not everyone you talk to has to be more than an on-line friend.
By the way, thanks for your service on the battlefield.
Thanks brother, your right, I probably shouldn't have painted with such a broad stroke,,, it's just frustrating... I know there are real women out there... you just have to look past the make up and the self rightious attitudes to find them sometimes... oops there's that broad stroke again...lol
If I knew how long it's been since you've ETS'd (retired), I would have a better idea a to where your head is at. It is a "shock" having to deal with the "Real World" after being "in service" and it is even harder having to deal with those that have never been asked to "step into harm's way" for Love.
I've been here since Oct of 09 and there are some Outstanding Women here. Some are Warriors even. Real Soldiers for Christ. So...tighten your straps...check your gear and continue with your Recon and be aware of "Friendly Fire".
Unfortuneately, the person you were talking about is ignorant of what the Bible actually says about divorce and adultery. The only Biblical grounds for divorce is adultery. The person who commits adultery and is then divorced cannot remarry because not only would he/she be committing adultery again, the person he/she married would also be committing adultery.
The man/woman who's spouse commits adultery is free to remarry. That applies to everyone except ministers, deacons, and officials in the church, who are to be the husband "of one wife". They cannot have more than one living wife, even though they are divorced from one (or more) of them.
Matthew 5:31-32
31It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
1 Timothy 3:1-13
1This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
2A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
3Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
4One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
5(For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
6Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.
7Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.
8Likewise must the deacons be grave, not doubletongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre;
9Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience.
10And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being found blameless.
11Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
12Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
13For they that have used the office of a deacon well purchase to themselves a good degree, and great boldness in the faith which is in Christ Jesus.
There are many walks of life and I try to see each person with the love of Jesus Christ. I know sometimes it gets difficult and sometimes we let our own human nature take control and get frustrated. When I am approached with something that doesn't agree with me I go to Jesus and ask Him what He wants me to see or is teaching me. So G try to look at it as a learning experience through God.
I tried a couple of paying sites last year for the first time and found it more difficult to find people who are Christ centered and I have met many here that are. I pray that the Lord will guide you in the right direction.
Bet you didn't think you would get this much of a response to one question. LOL. I wanted to try to explain what is going on in that person's mind, so maybe you will feel sorry for her instead of angry.
You may be aware of this, but as we start to learn about God and start reading our bibles, we all go through a serious legalism stage. Usually it only lasts a few months until the scriptures start to open up for you and you realize what it is really saying. Until then you are stuck with only the surface meaning f the scriptures.
What Jesus was really teaching in the scripture she was referring to, is, If we cause another to sin, we will bear the burden of punishment for that sin. You see, she just doesn't have her eyes to see yet.
dear g, welcome to the forums .. id like to say thank you for your service..
and that i am really sorry to hear about your divorce.. thats never an easy thing to go through..
what i see though is youre allowing the preferences and the actions of a few to dictate your actions towards many.. and in that many im right sure youd find many innocent victims..
you knew you was bein mean because you stated that was mean sorry.. yet you hit post anyways.. hehe
were all human though and we do say things sometimes that maybe arent so becoming to us..
ya know folks can make changes as in change churches and change sites..change jobs,change spouses,change gf, change bf ect ect ... , but ive found the best changes folks can ever make come within themselves.. through the help of JESUS CHRIST.. least i know my best changes came there..with the help of JESUS CHRIST..
sorry ur having a hard time.but u will get that every where.
I have heard ppl say that about being divorced too but i just dont believe the God i serve will punish u for something that is out of ur control. but i dont think he is happy when ppl just get tired of one another and just give up because they dont want to try.
As far as the smoking i dont dog anyone who smokes, i have fam who does, but that dont mean i want to date someone who smokes for me i just stinks and i know if u r a somker u probaly think im full of it but it really does. in saying that i dont go on about the body being a temple because u r very right if u r not healthy then u need to do what the Bible says and pull the plank out of ur eye before u worry about ur brother.
I do hope u will keep trying. The ppl i have met on here for the most part are very nice ,but just like anywhere u have to becareful, there r crazies everywhere.
