Author	Thread: Age.
Admin	Age. Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 08:39 PM Does age matter, and how much does it matter? I asked the women because I know they probably have strong opinions on this. There's instances in the bible of older men marrying girls who were quite a bit younger than them. Isaac had sent his servant and his servant prayed, and God had given Isaac a wife, and Isaac was a lot older than Rebekah when they wed, and I think Boaz was a bit older than Ruth. Well, I could come up with at least a few instances. What do you think about a younger women marrying a man maybe 10 or even 20 years or so older than her? Rachel Post Reply
View Profile History	Age. Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 09:22 PM Your just a posting machine today. Haha. Personally, I don't want want to marry a girl older than me, but if I really liked the girl, then I would be able to deal with at few years older. Well, the younger thing I wouldn't want to marry someone less than 5 years younger than me... for one because I am 23 it would be illegal, haha. The real reason though is that I feel like I would be old enough to be their dad almost. That's just my view. I am sure that many other people have different views on this. Post Reply
View Profile History	Age. Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 09:52 PM Nathan! I am a posting machine that will soon be off to bed, but thank you for your input, I think that is how most guys normally feel about that sort of thing. Rachel Post Reply
View Profile History	Age. Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 10:13 PM I like girls that are closer to my age if not a little older. Younger are like blank slates and you don't really know how they're going to turn out when they experience more of life and the world and what the test of time reveals about their character. Post Reply
View Profile History	Age. Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 10:19 PM Yes, it matters, but it's certainly not the most important thing. It is one consideration among many, all of which must be taken to the Lord in prayer, I think. We do well to keep in mind that our ideas and reality are sometimes very different. I may have a picture in my head of Prince Charming, but is it really that realistic to expect to meet someone who matches that picture in my head exactly? To a certain extent, all relationships are a compromise, in that we let go of things we thought we wanted and choose to deal with things that we never anticipated. Age is one of those things. We're all flawed (and, no, I'm not saying that any particular age is a flaw) and there is no such thing as meeting a perfect person. For example, I was raped last summer, and the repercussions from that will be with me forever. Sure, there is healing and redemption, but that doesn't mean that the impact of being raped will fade completely. Whoever I marry will choose to accept this part of me and choose to deal with it, even though I rather doubt that there is any guy out there who is thinking, "I sure hope that I meet a girl who's been raped. It would be my dream come true to marry someone like that." In the same way, I'm not sitting around thinking that I want a guy who is younger than me or substantially older, but, if it were to happen, I'd be open to it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that there should be a yielding here, in which we're willing and able to turn our desires over to the Lord and seek His will rather than our own. And that was much deeper and wordy then this question really warranted, eh? =) Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Age. Posted : 30 Mar, 2011 11:25 PM After your third older girlfriend in a row tells you that she doesn't date younger guys, you realize two things: 1) Age doesn't matter if she really, really likes you 2) Maybe you like dating girls who are a couple years older than you I don't know if that pattern will hold true for the rest of my life, but at least for now, I tend to like 'em older. I've never dated anyone more than 4 years older than me, but recently I met a girl who is like 5 years older who I get along really well with. At the same time, I also met an 18 year old I sort of like. Basically, I'm looking for maturity and complementing personalities, not an actual number. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Age. Posted : 31 Mar, 2011 05:43 AM As a girl, I wouldn't want to date/marry a guy who was more than about 5-6 years older than me (ideally no more than 4 years older) and no more than 2-3 years younger than me. I've tried to think of why I have those particular age ranges in mind, and I think I've finally figured it out somewhat. It has to do with life stages. The younger or older a guy is (compared to me), the more differences we'll have in our goals, lifestyles, careers, expectations, etc. Of course, there are always the exceptions -- I've met guys in their mid-30s who are far too "young" for me (young = immature), and I've met guys in their early 20s who are as mature as most 30 year olds! In general, though, I'm pretty firm on those age ranges. I can definitely relate to what Pixy said, though. My idea of my Prince Charming may be far different from what he'll actually be! For example, I've always found myself attracted to a certain type of guy...they usually look similar, act similar, have similar jobs, etc. A couple months ago, however, I met a guy through friends who is nothing like those other guys. At first I wasn't at all impressed. As I've gotten to know him a little bit, though, I've found that I might actually be attracted to him. That really surprised me. (NO, we aren't dating, and as far as I know, he might already be taken...I obviously don't know him very well!) So, whether it be an age issue or just someone who is not my idea of Prince Charming, I'm trying to keep an open mind. My prayer is that when the right guy does come along, God will show me His will...even if He has to slap me up 'side the head with it!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Age. Posted : 31 Mar, 2011 07:15 AM I am in my 40's and have no children. So, yes I would marry somebody a lot younger to have kids. I also am a mature adult which helps. That brings stablity in a relationship. 15 -20 years younger is not a problem for me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Age. Posted : 31 Mar, 2011 10:25 AM I would prefer someone my age. Beyond 5 years in either direction would be kinda tough to handle. Post Reply
View Profile History	Age. Posted : 31 Mar, 2011 10:43 AM Age matters only to each individual person and couple. I personally can not see myself dating someone more than 3 years younger than me. The oldest I prefer to date is someone about 5 or 6 years older than me. Now, I might date men a few years older than that, depending on the man. However I probably would not date men that are more than 3 years younger than me, simply because I have this hang up. Post Reply
View Profile History	Age. Posted : 31 Mar, 2011 11:14 AM Wow, thank you everyone for your input, I agree, everyone likes something different, and it matters to the person. @Dennis - A very honest answer, so cool that you leave the door open for God's plans. Rachel Post Reply

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