Thread: A wifes submission, the beauty and good it brings.
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A wifes submission, the beauty and good it brings.
Posted : 20 Aug, 2012 03:52 AM
Brothers and Sisters,
We get all confused as to what submission is in the bible, right?
I was just posting on a thread and I had to hit the submit button. Anyone here have to hit the submit button as well?
What are we doing when we hit the submit button?
We are offering freely our thoughts and feeling on a certain topic, right?
It makes sense now and this has been my sucess in my relationship my with feincee.
She offers her advice , opinion, feelings etc to me and because I love her I consider and listen to her submitted thoughts.
Could submission be as simple as this? YES
But also from a mans point validating her submitted thoughts and from her point submitting thoughts that will easily be recieved.
Many times we out of our great need to be heard try to force our thoughts on another. This is not submission. Like here their are guidelines we are called to follow in comunicating.
For me in my relationship I want to hear her thoughts because i love her. My problem is that she many times holds back on her thoughts because she is fearful of hurting me. She tries to protect me from her feelings. I had this problem with my previous relationship.
This time I am a strong man and once she shares with me I (do not) react out of pride or feeling of rejection to her and can show her compassion and love instead.
Whenever she withholds sharing with me, she limits my being able to express love to her in what she is feeling.
Also God has called a mans wife to be his helper and if she holds back in submitting her thoughts how can she be his help?Being a Husbands helper is not going and doing it by your self. That breakes down unity and seperates you from oneanother.
But women have to remember your words need to come to us with ((((((respect)))))))). Many times your words come in derission or in a form of a command. When you come to a man without respect you will never be heard but you will only push away the man you seek to help. Your attitude toward him is everything.
This I believe is the leading cause of abuse in relationships a woman who does not know how to approace a wounded man. Women who put their men on the defense and ultimatly at war with you.
Its the difference between telling ( trying to be powerful over him) or in submission( gently submitting your advice and thoughts) A angry abusive man is a man who has been belittled all of his life and his wife belittles him as well. A abusive man is so insecure and despretly needs help from a good woman, his wife.
His abuse is his way to feel powerful because deep down in side he feels powerless. But he is to afraid to look at his powerlessness. If you ladies understood the motive behind abuse maybe you could be a better helper to him.
Its not to late to be his helper, The helper God has called you to be...
You can go to your man and ask forgiveness for your continues rejection of him and ask forgiveness for your dissrespect to him.
Men you need to go to your wife and ask forgiveness for being abusive due to your insecurities and weakness.
If a Husband or wife starts here, their is hope for you. If you need further help just ask me and i would love to do so.
A wifes submission, the beauty and good it brings.
Posted : 25 Aug, 2012 08:36 PM
Michael,
I've always made it my policy not to share my personal and private life with others. Tonight, I decided it was necessary here.
Thanks to your responses, I probably won't do so again in the future. Why? Because folks like you seize on it as an opportunity to promote the fact that you are well beyond people like me in our understanding and maturity. When or if I someday arrive at your ledge on the mountain of life, I will then discover that you were right all along. That's the best of what you had to offer me for my honesty and humility.
Thank you and please pray for me till I get there.
A wifes submission, the beauty and good it brings.
Posted : 25 Aug, 2012 09:58 PM
WillBDunne,
Listen to your words...
"Thanks to your responses, I probably won't do so again in the future. Why? Because folks like you seize on it as an opportunity to promote the fact that you are well beyond people like me in our understanding and maturity."
Thank God Almighty you wrote this big bro, because this is where we all need to be careful with others on this site. The Good Samaritan didn't argue theology with the guy he helped lying in the road�he didn�t ask him what he believed at all. Jesus didn�t question the woman wiping His feet with her hair and tears what she believed in either. Yet there is little doubt that both of these people had faulty beliefs at the time mercy was shown to them.
This site is chalk full of broken, spiritually crippled people who will double cross you in a heartbeat. People like Mephibosheth. Yet when David returned to Jerusalem, he didn�t question Mephibosheth. Why? Because it didn�t matter. Like Christ, he brought Mephibosheth, crippled, disloyal, and sinful, as we are, to his table, to live and eat with him forever.
For my age, the Lord has blessed me with some amount of understanding, but sometimes, I have to leave my suit behind on Sundays along with my understanding, in order to become all things to all people, so that I may by all means save some.
Instead of theology, here�s what many of the people on this site need, and in the following order��and when he saw him, he felt compassion, and came to him and bandaged up his wounds, pouring oil and wine on them; and he put him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn and took care of him.�
Instead of concentrating on where someone�s wrong, pray the Lord would enable us all to build upon what they�ve got right.
A wifes submission, the beauty and good it brings.
Posted : 25 Aug, 2012 10:16 PM
Little bro,
If somebody is physically sick or hurt by the side of the road, their theology is not relevant.. you help them as a good Samaritan would.
If someone is spiritually sick or dying... you also help them..
But how? The true Words of God divided rightly - theology This is how you show compassion, this is the oil that is poured out on their heads. This is the healing balm of Gilead that must be applied.
Proverbs 20
20: My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings
21 Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart.
22 For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh.
Ps 107:
19 Then they cry unto the LORD in their trouble, and he saveth them out of their distresses.
20 He sent his word, and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.
21 Oh that men would praise the LORD for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men.
And how do we know what to do in either case - the physical or the spiritual? That's right because we have right theology. We have heard the word and are doers of it.
A wifes submission, the beauty and good it brings.
Posted : 25 Aug, 2012 10:36 PM
Look, I agree that God's Word is spiritual, healing oil, which without, one cannot truly heal, but I do not believe that's what saved the thief hanging on the cross next to Jesus. I believe that some of the broken people on this site, need to be encouraged for the effort they've shown by simply showing up, regardless of their beliefs - an emphasis placed on the individual, over and above their current beliefs, many of which may be similar to the beliefs of the thief next to Christ and the woman wiping Jesus' feet with her hair.
