Help me out ladies if you will be so kind... I see alot of profiles of women in their mid to late 30's through their late 40's. In many of these profiles their desired age ranges are 10-15 years younger than they are and 1-3 older or not older at all but younger only. Now though I expect to hear the old "it's a preference jag" I'm looking for the honest answers. To me it seems that women, but mainly women here in the U.S, do not desire a strong, mature man in the Lord but are looking for a kid to train, to mold an immature guy into what they want a guy to be. Does it make women feel better about themselves if they can find a younger man or even a boy that will show an interest in them? Common ladies, if there is no shame about the directness of these questions, please share a bit of insite...
Thank you iheartdogs, your reply was not only the kind of insite that I am looking for but was also short and to the point, thank you also for your service.
Thank you djk255, though your reply merged a bit off topic you brough up other valid relational concerns that as a man I am also concerned about. Which is the difference between being a part of a relationship and being mearly an addition to an exsisting one.
Relationships are no longer simplistic in nature as they were many years ago. I began this topic, though some may think from bais motives, to gain insite on that which I believe is lost today. I began this in hopes that men and women may once again see the importance of at least attempting to understand how the opposite gender thinks, we do not think as we once did. Have we as the body of Christ skewered away from purity of thought concerning our interactions with the opposite genders? I believe so...Paul wrote to the Romans this, the name of Christ is blaphemed among the gentiles because of you. Why did he write this? We should all research the reasons as it was due to the lack of purity in the church, due to the culture infecting the church with immoralities, idolitries and self gratification. Paul saw that the purity of interactions between genders was being destroyed. . I have high hopes that this topic will spur greater interactions among men and women here on CDFF, that deeper discussions will occure concerning the relational concerns of both genders. God's will be done in this...
(Your Words) ��Now though I expect to hear the old "it's a preference jag" I'm looking for the honest answers.� (End)
You got a �Very� Honest Answer�but you didn�t �Like� it and got all �defensive like�.
In your Profile you wrote
��I am a bit shy and reserved until I come to know you��
I have to say�Super�for someone that is ��shy and reserved�� � you sure know how to ask Very Personal Questions. Or did you write that because you thought that a woman might like to �Hear� that and she might write to you. ��if there is no shame about the directness of these questions, please share a bit of insite...�
Also�Super�did you really Mean and Believe that Scripture that you have on your Profile?
Rom.15:7 Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God the Father...
Why would you have that Scripture on your Profile and then �Chastise� Women for Desiring �Younger Men?
��if there is no shame about the directness of these questions, please share a bit of insite...�
I�m just saying�you asked a Question�then Proceeded to Answer your Own Question and then get Upset if the Answer from People on this Forum were not to your LIKING! What�s with that? Would you answer that Question? ��if there is no shame about the directness of these questions, please share a bit of insite...�
And Finally�(You Wrote) ��To me it seems that women, but mainly women here in the U.S, do not desire a strong, mature man in the Lord but are looking for a kid to train, to mold an immature guy into what they want a guy to be�.� (End)
Where are you getting that from? Did you count the number of women on this Site that are asking for a Younger Man? Or is this Based on your �Feelings�? ��if there is no shame about the directness of these questions, please share a bit of insite...�
I mean Super�do you really Think that a Mature Strong Christian Woman wants to �Raise� another CHILD again? That she wants to �Train� a Man? To �Mold� him�� into what they want a guy to be�.�? Seriously?
Are you seeing where you might have come off a little�how shall I put this? OFF?
If you had just Stated your Opinion�as many have on this Forum�that would have been a different story�but to �Phrase it� like you have�expecting some Woman to �Feel this Horrible Shame� and fall on her knees and CONFESS to SUPERNOVA that she has been a �Bad Girl� and that Yes�You�SUPER NOVA have so Cleverly Seen through her Fa�ade! And that Yes�she wanted a Younger Man to Mold and Shape and Train to ne her �Little Man�.
)I am Trying so hard not to laugh!( Let�s see how many come forward and Confess�hey�you might just get one or two.
Rom.15:7 Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God the Father...
Arch, I was wondering how long it would take you to chime in with your usual psycological breakdown of how people phrase their posts. Sometimes we choose to spend so much time on what we assume people are saying that we miss everything else. It is the people of the world who create people like this, it is not God or His word. What is always missed is the true intent because it is masked by opinion. I notice that some people never ask someone who my have not chosen the correct wording, of course that opinion varies, what there intent was. They act on what the world has trained them, what secular education has taught them to do, analyze and refute. Many who do this also do the same thing with God's word, which is you seem to enjoy doing as well. This is done because enjoyment is found in the manufactured faults of others. God's word is twisted so those who treat others like this can feel justified and comfortable with who they really are inside. Do you really enjoy bouncing from post to post analyzing every word someone writes? You must, as yes, this is why I was expecting your assault, I have seen you do this to many, MANY! I wont do what others allow themselves to do, and that is to feed into that which you enjoy doing. Questions are different than exeptence, excepting the person isnt the same as excepting there motives or actions. Excepting the person is godly, excepting the sin which one comitts, especially toward others, is not.
This is the one and only response that I will ever offer you arch, no matter what you may accuse me of and no matter how many times you disrupt the conversations of others with your analytical imput and the twisting of the words of others. Stay in Gods word until Gods word stays in you...
I just put your last Response thru the Universal Translator (I had quite some difficulties Understanding what you were saying) and it Finally came back. It is Impressive that you can Speak Klingon! It would have been nice though�if you�d mention it to us or Provided a Translator.
Look Super�You�re from Klingon and I�m from Mars. Your Brain works differently than my Brain. I just Pointed out some Inconsistencies in your Profile and your Thread and I also felt that you were being Disingenuous as to your Motives.
But How Dare you say that I actually take the Time to Think about what I read and to take some more Time and Formulate my Response and then THINK some more about just how I am going to Word that Response and then make sure I have the Spelling Correct and that my Logic is Sound and�
How Dare You say that I Analyze People�s WORDS!!!
I must Complement People like you Super�that do not think about what they are saying and just SAY IT! How Refreshing that is!
Say�are you and Rabbit Related?
I do wish you would Speak to me just One More Time�because I have a Question. The Universal Translator could not come up with a Translation for this sentence
��excepting the person isnt the same as excepting there motives or actions. Excepting the person is godly, excepting the sin which one comitts, especially toward others, is not.�
The closest the Universal Translator could come up with is
�You can Accept a Person (?)�but that is not the same as Accepting their Motives or Actions. Accepting a Person is Godly�Accepting the Sins they Commit (especially towards others) is not.
Or
Were you being Existentialistic? Were you Really saying
�You can Eccept a Person�but that is not the same as Eccepting their Motives or Actions. Eccepting a Person is Godly�Eccepting the Sins they Commit (especially towards others) is not.
Were you Expounding Your Philosophy that Emphasizes
The Uniqueness and Isolation of the Individual Experience in this Hostile and Indifferent Universe�
where Human Existence is Unexplainable,
and You were merely Stressing that Freedom of Choice is God Given
and that Mankind is Responsibile for the Consequences of their Acts?
whoa..... bitter postings up and down between males about the mindset of women on the ask a girl forum......:excited:
Perhaps I can join this delightful discussion...
The reasons for a man wanting a younger woman are, as I see it, not the same as for a women wanting a younger man.
Women have and always will have a caring duty... as a mother, but also as a wife. The care for an older man are simply "heavier" than for a younger man, and women who are looking for a new relationship in their 40�s (after a divorce for instance) do not want to start this new start with a dominating caring role all at once. They would like to postpone this phase a little. Start with a relatively easy relationship, where they can do & enjoy things and time together before this "caring" phase starts.
Men looking for younger women usually have other motives (mostly those Super attributes to women) but that is another topic.
thanks sos, a realistic view which I agree with. As you eluded to men at different ages, just as women at different ages have varied reasons for choices in age ranges. I also understand about the "another topic" you touched on. I know that this topic can be a touchy one. How can we as christians discuss things like these in a productive way, but still discuss pertinent points on oposite gender relations. Oh and yes, though i apologised for my initial wording of posting but there are those who enjoy virwing themselves as some kind of a psycologist. I refuse to let the attacks of satan, through these people interfere with the possibility of progress or the potential to learn critical information from true sisters in the Lord. I did respond once each to these individuals but have seen there attacks on others throughout the forums. I just skip over their comments now, becausee I know that there are some who reason only from a worldy perspective. Since there is no humility with them allow me to apologize both for my own one time responses to them and for theirs as well. Sorry everyone...
