What will it take you to somehow give a benefit of a doubt if a fellow guy wants to persue you,
And maybe you are interested BUT he doesn't meet this one particular requirement and it kinda shakes your grounds as weither should you bother giving a try,
Or not
This question is inspired by 2passages i'm currently reading (for my other personal interest, that trigured this question)
The first passage is Genesis 27 (when you read it all)
Its when Jacob was being blessed by he's father and therefore running away to Laban's place since Esau he's brother wanted to kill him for betrayal.
The 2nd one is 1 Kings 17 (when reading it all again)
Its when Elijah reflected the fullness of poverty (though in he's case it was for a righteous purpose hense fed by ravens commanded by God)
Both these guys ladies had two things inconmon:
Blessings-while having nothing tangible to present as prove that they won't sturve you as much as reflecting lackingness right now
Initiating the relationship-both of them had to break the ice inorder to have a relationship.
Little did the widow know that by accepting this man of God, he has abundance enough to even restore the child's life when her baby died, let alone her bin of flour not running empty in the season of drought and poverty
Same goes for Rachel when bringing Jacob home to Laban, they didn't know that their wealth was gonna be countlessly multipled to a point of jealousy when Jacob had to take what was due to him before leaving to face he's brother Esau.
Come my ladies let's share our thoughts on this
Relating to our personal seach (I know that poverty is so not our potion, we all want a comfortable life for our kids in mind, not lacking.....)
after the break up i prayed to GOD,,that i would still want a guy who got same faith with me.and a mature Christ believer.. even if the relationship with a christian failed.
as for me what matter's most aside from him being a real " CHRISTIAN" is sense of responsibilty. economic stability though is a factor its fine with me i am stable anyway. as to how to give him the benfit of the doubt..its ok if his not Ph.d/doctor/engr. they were my ideals anyway jsut as long as he respected and value me..and LOVE GOD above all everything will follow..
and if he really wants to pursue me i guy should not let himself down he would do everything to make him worthy of the girl's i do..
GOD BLESS everyone.. keep praying for GOD's guidance
after the break up i prayed to GOD,,that i would still want a guy who got same faith with me.and a mature Christ believer.. even if the relationship with a christian failed.
as for me what matter's most aside from him being a real " CHRISTIAN" is sense of responsibilty. economic stability though is a factor its fine with me i am stable anyway. as to how to give him the benfit of the doubt..its ok if his not Ph.d/doctor/engr. they were my ideals anyway jsut as long as he respected and value me..and LOVE GOD above all everything will follow..
and if he really wants to pursue me i guy should not let himself down he would do everything to make him worthy of the girl's i do..
GOD BLESS everyone.. keep praying for GOD's guidance
Money is of no relevance to me. I have a decent job. I found this list of NON-negotiables and I stick to it.
The Husband List:
1. He is a practicing believer.
�Do not be yoked together with an unbeliever�For what agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?� 2 Corinthians 6:14-16. Issues and conflict are bound to rise in marriage, so it is crucial that there is a common foundation on which to hold the marriage accountable. The last thing you want to be fighting about is your faith, whether or not to pray and your viewpoints on religion. Believe me, I�ve been there before. It is exhausting.
2. God is the center of his life.
He seeks God�s wisdom in all the decisions he makes.
�With wisdom are riches and honor, enduring wealth and prosperity. My fruit is better than fine gold; what I yield surpasses choice silver.� Proverbs 8:18-19
3. He has integrity and does not put himself in tempting situations.
He guards me against harm and protects the relationship. �Keep to a path far from evil, do not go near the door of that house, lest you give your best strength to others.� Proverbs 5:8-9
4. Seeks mentorship and counsel.
It is important that a man is wise in realizing he can�t carry the weight of the world on his shoulders. When he is surrounded by men who are older than him who can offer advice, prayer and mentorship, he can be a better husband to you. �The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice.� Proverbs 12:15
5. He is slow to anger.
There is peace in knowing a man holds an even temperament even when he is provoked. A man who allows his feelings, emotions and anger to determine his actions typically has tarnished relationships and is not a healthy place for you or a family. �A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.� Proverbs 15:18
6. He holds strong conviction on the sacredness of fidelity.
A man is wise when he understand that infidelity and looking for pleasure outside of the marriage only brings strife. God actually calls him to rejoice over you all of his days. �May your fountain be blessed and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth�May you be ever captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress?� Proverbs 5:18-20.
7. He is honorable of my heart and emotional well-being.
I hated when a guy I was dating exposed my embarrassing moments or the private matters of our relationship with his friends. Picking on you may seem cute and funny at first, but it will get old after a while. You should feel honored and safe knowing you can always trust your husband to cover and speak well of you. �Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers,� Proverbs 5:17.
�Love each other deeply because love covers all wrongs.� 1 Peter 4:8.
8. He is disciplined in living a life of integrity.
Watch how he handles temptation or sticky situations that test his character. Does he choose to do what�s right even when no one is watching? It is imperative to observe these things because it will indicate if you can trust his decision making. When you�re married, almost all of his decisions impact you. �He will die for lack of discipline, led astray by his own great folly.� Proverbs 5:23
9. Has solid work ethic.
�A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest- and poverty will come upon you like a thief and scarcity like an armed man.� Proverbs 6:10-11.
10. He pursues and loves you passionately.
The man you marry should make you feel loved like you�ve never felt before. Safe, accepted, desired, nurtured, protected and comforted. Jesus loves us deeply, he loves us so fiercely, that he willingly gave up his life to save us.
Pursues: �So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days.� Genesis 29:20.
Loves: �Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.� Ephesians 5:25.
11. Romances you.
I know women who feel guilty or wrong for desiring romance in their relationship, as if they don�t deserve it. But God desires for your heart to be romanced, just as He longs to romance us. �Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth� for your love is more delightful than wine.� Song of Solomon 1:2
�Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.� Song of Solomon 8:6.
12. He is humble and can admit when he is wrong.
There is nothing worse than a petty conflict blowing out of proportion because your partner refuses to admit they were wrong. Taking responsibility for his actions and apologizing for his mistakes is the sign of a real man. �Pride comes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall.� Proverbs 16:18
