Author	Thread: For Some Reason....
Admin	For Some Reason.... Posted : 28 Nov, 2009 06:09 PM ...I have the hardest time trying to get girls to notice me, and I don't really understand why. I'm on a college campus of nearly 20,000 people, and I don't ever notice girls looking at me. I don't necessarily think I'm an ugly guy. I try to run 2 miles a day and try to stay in shape because I'm studying to be a police investigator. But yet, I don't ever get looked at by the fairer sex. Is it the way I dress? The way carry myself? My voice sound funny or something? Do I smell? What is it that gets the attention of girls, because I'm in desperate need of it. - Kyle Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 30 Nov, 2009 03:25 PM How about showing up at one of your meetings with enough food (brownies from home? Christmas goodies? Garlic toast? 2L soda?) to feed everyone at the meeting. Just say you were starving and wanted to share - be sure that's true, however. If your lady eats, she should say thanks. You reply. Conversation is started. P Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 30 Nov, 2009 04:02 PM Kyle, that's why I said to get to know her in a non-date setting. Club meetings, volunteer events, mixers, etc. all make good places to talk to us girls without making us uncomfortable. Don't get in her face and force a conversation, don't tell her right off that you think you'd like to get to know her better because you'd like to date her, and in general don't be too intense at first. Just get to know her like you would any person you might meet (girl or guy, old or young), and if you still like her, ask her out. One more word of advice: don't worry too much about being single and not catching a girl's attention...you are REALLY young to be worried about that. Wait until you are really old like me!!! :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 30 Nov, 2009 05:57 PM Thanks Sista BCpianogal, for your comment was very appreciated... Kyle it is very clear that you are somewhat bashful and quiet (and it's nothing wrong with that to a certain extent)... But just as you step out of your comfort zone to answer a question in class or as-like here on the site, you must seek that same effort for someone that captures your eye... If she happens to give you a negative response,she really wasn't for you anyway... For you never want to be unequally yoked or with someone that will disrespect or not take your feelings under consideration (whether they are a potential friend or soulmate)... Furthermore, a real lady admires a man that can communicate and express his feelings of deep attachment (but you don't address sexual desires on the first approach or date), because the first encounter will always leave a deep impact or impression of a person... The first approach or date, is a time to learn each others interests & dislikes (it opens the door for communication & understanding of each other)... But you must step out of that comfort zone and love yourself enough to know what you want out of life (just as you are doing with your education), for you're not letting anyone detour you from that... However, start with loving yourself and find out what pleases you... An the next time you see that person that has made you feel so awkward in the past, observe their behavior and ask yourself if they would have truly been all of what you expected them to be. 99.9% of the times you will find that they didn't have what it takes to satisfy "you"... Ultimately, what God has for you "is for you"... So those past incidents evidently was meant to be in your life.. But most women, would love for a man to be upfront and without having to feel as though he has a hidden agenda... So start with a basic and friendly conversation and go from there... AnotherChance2:waving: Post Reply
likeabigail View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 5 Dec, 2009 10:30 PM Kyle, Your last statement was incorrect at least for me. Speaking for myself only- I DREAM of a guy coming up to me and talking, instead of just staring with their tongue hanging out. Take a little rejection here and there, and it will pay off in the end! Chances are she may be wanting the same thing you do. Especially if she happens to be "popping up" where you are many times in the day...get it? Be brave!!! Post Reply
Kelaray View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 18 Dec, 2009 10:39 PM Hey, I can tell you that I've felt that way before too. Whether it be that you may not get noticed as often or that you don't see that they notice you...It may be God just protecting your heart in a way. Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 02:49 AM kyle, the ladies here have posted some good advice. BUT, remember this...the woman has to do her part and make herself approachable. I say that because there is a thin line between wanting a man to approach her, and playing games. Dont think that you have to blindly approach a lady without some type of signal from her, GOD wouldnt do that to you. Its ok to be nervous about approaching someone, but when its uncomfortable, think twice about. No real woman is going to make you feel uncomfortable about approaching her, especially if you have caught her eye also!! GOD BLESS Post Reply
Christiancowboy1 View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 21 Jun, 2010 04:55 AM Kyle, I first want to say I comend the girls for not acting in worldly ways. Next i say to you as a Christian man and brother. Do not worry about girls looking at you or trying to attracked girl. Worldly ways, get worldly results. If you desire a Christian Marriage in time, Then you must follow the path of the Lord that he has laid out for marriage in him and his ways. In time the Lord will make clear who you are to be with. In the meantime just focus upon the will at hand that he has you doing. Another truth is, do you just want a girl to like you for what you look like? Develope your heart for the Lord and follow his ways. If you honor the Lord's ways for a wife and all things, he will bless you. What I am trying to share with you is to focus upon who you are in the Lord right now and direction he has you going. Learn your own gifts in him. Let him use this time to grow you in truth and knowledge about being equally yoked in him and the qualities in the Lord you would be yoked with someone in. Those are things of which will truely be lasting and bring honor to the Lord. I write and share these things with you because i did not understand about being equally yoked or how to allow him to prove all things in time. I made mistakes because i did not understand. Now it is my hearts desire to share truth with others, in hopes they can see the truth and follow his ways and not worldly ways for relationships and marriage. Its like this. You say you want to be a police investigator. You are first having to go to school to gain the knowledge to learn how to be one. The same holds true with a relationship and marraige in the Lord. Learn truth first, before you do anything. Blessings Always, David Post Reply
benjaminlove7 View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 18 Nov, 2011 07:15 PM just be yourself buddy. when i find myself not trying to get a women attention, they always try to get mines (my intention isn't to get women to chase me though). i try to be humble as i can so people want feel intimidated by me or anything, then by that, it can give me a better opportunity to get to know that person better and then share with them about jesus when ever i'm led to do it. But never seek people approval bro because everybody aren't going to like you, especially if you are a follower of Jesus Christ, and that is just a fact. I had to accept that myself down the line in my walk with God. buddy stay focus on pleasing God and the rest will fall in place, but it will not always work out as you plan it though, but as God wills. Much love. Post Reply
benjaminlove7 View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 18 Nov, 2011 07:19 PM wow...i just realized how old this forum is...i'm super late lol... hope it still help though Post Reply

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