Author	Thread: Curious on the mindset of women
Admin	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 3 Sep, 2011 03:00 AM Help me out ladies if you will be so kind... I see alot of profiles of women in their mid to late 30's through their late 40's. In many of these profiles their desired age ranges are 10-15 years younger than they are and 1-3 older or not older at all but younger only. Now though I expect to hear the old "it's a preference jag" I'm looking for the honest answers. To me it seems that women, but mainly women here in the U.S, do not desire a strong, mature man in the Lord but are looking for a kid to train, to mold an immature guy into what they want a guy to be. Does it make women feel better about themselves if they can find a younger man or even a boy that will show an interest in them? Common ladies, if there is no shame about the directness of these questions, please share a bit of insite... Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 4 Sep, 2011 11:37 PM @super On a wide varied site like this, even under a unified christian banner, one can and must expect totally other, and sometimes even full opposite, views and opinions. The more deep (read sensitive, delicate, controversial etc etc) the topic of the thread.... the higher the chance that you will get reactions with an emotional "touch". Yet I have still to meet someone on this board who is led by the devil :ROFL::ROFL: We are all hindered by our limitations. Some show inexperience, others scars of deep damage, others desperately try to be funny, (and no doubt you have noticed that am playing a psycologist now :laugh:) etc. etc. but in general nobody means to harm.... in fact all mean well (and that includes me). Try to see through minor slips of the tongue and the appearances some posters try to keep up, and then you will see how wonderful and interesting these people are and how much you can learn from them. Now as to the topic at hand Women in their mid 40 who are divorced are interrupting their natural - and I think Godgiven - caring course of life, which is respectively, being a mother (care for children), a daughter [in law] (care for parents) and a wife (care for husband) and grandmother (care for grandchildren and their parents!!). Yet this caring aspect is, as I see it, the most underestimated aspect by men. Men think - mostly because most men have wonderful mothers - that the caring aspect is normal and many take it for granted.... until they lose it (in their 40ies) Then you see that (divorced) men are LOOKING mostly for the caring aspect, as that is what they miss and long for most. Both genders try to be subtle and creative in their profile about these deeper desires (men longing to receive this care, and women wanting to postpone this care) but the observant reader extracts it very easily.... I would not judge women who point out a younger age range egocentric though. After all, they want to postpone a little the heavy duties of three or four dimensional caring... they do not want to escape from that! Perhaps it is naive... but who would not want - after the headaches of a failing marriage and divorce - want to enjoy the delights and innocence of this wonderful dating period, that priors all marriage.... all they want is that experience again, yet this time with Mr. Right And again, the motives for men wanting younger women is a totally different issue. Perhaps worthy of another thread?? :waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 11:05 AM SOS, Yours is a Valid point and I would submit that there are many other reasons why anyone would want a younger Spouse. My Point Being that I found Umbrage with Super�s Thread Post because of the WAY he Stated it. He Begins by STATING that the Majority of the Women�s Profiles he has Viewed on this Site want men that are ��10-15 years younger than they are�. (Super�s Words) I see alot of profiles of women in their mid to late 30's through their late 40's. In many of these profiles their desired age ranges are 10-15 years younger than they are.� (End) He then goes on to say (Super) �Now though I expect to hear the old "it's a preference jag" I'm looking for the honest answers.� (End) What else can you call it but��One�s Preference?� He does not want to �Hear� that �Jag� (?)�he�s �Looking� for �Honest� Answers. What does that mean? It can Only Mean that what Super wants to �Hear��other than �The Preference Jag� is what he says Next (Super) �To me it seems that women, but mainly women here in the U.S, do not desire a strong, mature man in the Lord but are looking for a kid to train, to mold an immature guy into what they want a guy to be.� (End) This is�The �Honest Answer��that Super was Looking For. Any Answer OTHER than this one (to him)�is not a VALID HONEST Response. To Top it Off�He Chastises Women for the Reasons He Gives (Super) �Does it make women feel better about themselves if they can find a younger man or even a boy that will show an interest in them? Common ladies, if there is no shame about the directness of these questions, please share a bit of insite...� (End) :toomuch: LOL�What really makes me Laugh is that Last Sentence�� Common ladies, if there is no shame about the directness of these questions, please share a bit of insite...� :ROFL: Now there is a Person that is in TOUCH with Reality! (and can Speel) :buddies: If Super had just came out and Voiced his Opinion� �I Think�Blah�Blah�Blah and left it at that and THEN�be able to take the good with the bad and Offer Valid Rebuttals�it would have just been some LameBrain Mouthing off. :dunce: What IRKED me was that it was like having a Sixth Grader come on this Forum and have him Lecture us on OUR RESPONSE! LOL! Analyze That! :rocknroll::dancingp::rocknroll: Post Reply
View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 12:03 PM SOS, because of the attempts at intellectualism, not in reference to anyone specifically, we are skewing farther of topic. I will however indulge a bit with you as you do seem to have a desire to converse conserning the topic. That being said I both agree and disagree with your last reply. Where I disagree is that you say most people are generally good. Why I disgree is that scripture being written over a period of 1600 years refutes your opinion. In my own life I did terrible things befoer coming to serve the Lord. during this period of time I met many who also did terrible things. In my time serving the Lord I have met many who claim Christ but do not serve Him. In Ephesians chapter 5 there are there, two kinds of what I would say, Paul is describing christians as being. Those who are in the Spirit and those who are in the flesh. Not saying that those who are saved cannot slip into occational deeds of the flesh. But if one lives in the deeds of the flesh how can they have Christ within them? SOS, if you will kindly notice the deeds of the flesh in verses 19-21 those deeds revolve mostly around strife, disputes, dissensions, outbursts of ange and so on. If one has a personality that continuosly displays these traits, would you call them good people? The bible would and does not, neither do I. Make no mistakes, I am in no way claiming that I am good as I am in personality and sanctification much like the apostle paul, who wrote. For nothing good dwells in me, that is in my flesh. For the willing is present in me but the doing of good is not. So, SOS, though you may not see things the same way that I do, if we are both walking in the Spirit, we are capable of agreeing to disagree without living in the deeds of the flesh. Some are not capable of doing this and it is obvious to some that they are not. We can serve God or satan, not both. We can walk in the Spirit or the flesh, not both. SOS, if we display the deeds of the flesh, over and over, whom do we serve? It is not only satan that is the enemy, it is the world and the flesh which is trained in and by the world as well. The flesh is always in oposition to the Spirit and to the things of the Spirit. I would hope that you see or will come to see the truth of this. Be blessed... Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 01:20 PM Where do I say that all people are good??? All I say is that in general nobody means to harm, in fact they all mean well... quite different from what you try to tie on my shoes.... :zzzz: Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 01:34 PM You do not have to justify yourself to me Arch. I have had the privilege of dialoguing with you on several occasions. I have good memories about that. :hearts: Post Reply
View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 03:25 PM SOS, lets not mince words ok? Meaning well is more or less saying GOOD intensions, can we agree on that? To say that most mean well is more than just an optomistic approach. I still pray that if you truely believe that most "mean well" that the enemy doesn't use that to harm or destroy that which God wants to build for you and in you. I choose to walk cautiously, mabey you don't. I choose to gaurd well that which God has entrusted to me, mabey you don't. Thats ok SOS. We must choose the path, but God directs a our steps. Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 6 Sep, 2011 03:07 AM I have no problem with what you say Super... yet when you wave a whole argument on disagreeing with somebody, you at least should base it on what they say (those exact words) and not what you think they mean, or what they could possibly mean as well. to be good and to mean well is not the same. Period. Moreover, I was clearly referring in my post to members on this board and not to the human race or people in general. :waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 6 Sep, 2011 09:51 AM Super, Let�s not �Chop� and �Dice� or �Mince� words here�OK? Let me try to Ed-u-ma-cate you. You seem to have a Disdain for Intellectualism (You Wrote) ��because of the attempts at intellectualism�� (End) I want to make sure that you Understand what it means. in�tel�lect noun ˈin-tə-ˌlekt Definition of INTELLECT 1a : the power of knowing as distinguished from the power to feel and to will : the capacity for knowledge b : the capacity for rational or intelligent thought especially when highly developed 2: a person with great intellectual powers It seems that a Person�s Intellect is what is Involved in �Rational or Intelligent Thought� You see Super�you would think that you�d WANT some Rational�Intelligent �THOUGHTS� in these Conversations � otherwise you�d have Irrational �Incoherent� Illogical�Misspelled --- and Very Difficult to Understand -- Premises and or Responses. Don�t you Agree? Instead of Rebelling against people here in this Forum�you might Try to �Listen� to their �Critique�. You just might �Learn� something that will make you a Better Person. Not to Psycho � Annal � My � Lies�but�your past may be Influencing your Present. Perhaps you are taking things a bit personal (well�from me it is Personal�but everyone else is actually Trying to Help you). Super�Even I am trying to help�Albeit in my Own �Special� Sarcastic�Sardonic�Sagacious (that was the last (S) Word I could think of�I KNOW � Self Serving!) WAY! May I Suggest Something? I May! Good�here�s my Suggestion: �Just be yourself�keep it Simple�don�t try to Use Big Words (like INTELLECTUALISM).� Talk the way you would to your Buddies. Reread whatever you Post. Does it say what you Intended it to say? Could it be �Misunderstood�? Are there any Misspellings? And Perhaps what I consider the Best one �Admit your Mistakes!� Some of the best Things I have LEARNED�came from My Mistakes. Whenever someone Points Out an Error of Mine�I Thank them! I Thank them because they Just Taught me something NEW. Anyway�I want to Appologize for calling you a �Bobble Head�. Wait�I didn�t call you a �Bobble Head�? Whoops! Post Reply
View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 6 Sep, 2011 05:31 PM I like this thread. No guesswork or flirty games. True colours showing through. What's that word Paul uses... thlipsis? The pressured used to squeeze the oil out of olives or the juice out of grapes. Good job guys! :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Curious on the mindset of women Posted : 8 Sep, 2011 12:06 AM sigh. . . . sounds like a case of what mom calls "Athlete's Mouth". Let me quote Archimedes: "Next Time...Censure and "Proceed with CAUTION" when dicussing Past Peccadillos (no...they don't come with cheese). As you were." Basically- "DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL" :ROFL: unless it's proper to do so. Seeing that I've suffered a case twice or thrice myself, I'll give some advice: 1) a healthy dose of 1 Corithians 13:4-7 2) Mouthwash Post Reply

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