ok ladies I am not understanding this. what is stalking? I was a computer geek for 15 years and never understood how you can "stalk" some one online. just block their access. or on here send a "we are not a good match" note/ part 2 if there is no contact and all you do is look at their profile how is that any kind of a threat or stalking? please educate me
Strange really! Especially when we ignore one username,they come back again n again with different usernames. Lol. But their tone of language is usually unmistakable:)
I just want to thank you G for asking this. I also wanted to thank the women for answering it.. I have also be wonder what's the deal. Not with just online stalking but the whole system that seems to be geared against men and over supportive of women. I better explain this because I already I feel like some of the women reading this are going to take my statement out of context and go on a manhunt against me. I'm sorry if I oftened anyone.
First, Women have the power to chose who they date, sleep with, love, marry etc etc. and normally it's the Guy asking the big questions (BTW it's a very stressful experience to leave your comfort zone and ask a life changing qeustions like that... especially if they say no) but with women -- No, means no and if some stubborn hard headed guy continues to pursue the girl weather he's hoping she'll come around or for any reason . The law backs the girl 100% regardless of weather the girl sent signals or mislead the Guy in anyway.. not only that but most women walk in public with these designer dresses or clothing that screaming for attention especially to any lonely man. They basically wear things that say look at me, look at me -- I'm practically naked. And when a Guy looks in that direction it's oh you're a creep, stalker etc. But moving on, if a man even lays, or gives a woman any unwanted attention... according to the law -- it's jail time, fines, or worse like a prison sentence. When a woman gets pregnant.. she has complete control over weather to have an abortion or not. Even though it's a man's child too. If she should have the child and leave the man. Women almost always get custody and men get to pay child support... sometimes for a child or children they aren't even allow to see. I just don't get why women would need so much power over men. They didn't like it when men basically used the law of that time against them but their sure use the law against a man now. In fact some women will manipulate and blackmail men by threatening to go to the authorities and tell them that the man raped them.
I'M NOT AGAINST WOMEN but I am for Equality!! and instead of giving more rights to women it seems the culture only lowered the rights of men. So there I explained it and I'm aware some are going to hate on me anyway but can't make everyone happy. God bless everyone :)
Not hating on you, but we have to admit there are issues/problems with both sexes. I agree with the looseness of woman. It seems that some women aren't satisfied unless they have tempted a man and that's the way the WORLD turns.
It's immoral and sinful. But on the other token what can you say the males/females who videoed and took part in a 2 1/2 hour gang rap of a HS girl a couple of years ago. I'm stil not over this one.. maybe that's part of the problem, we get over things too easily.
I really don't think it matters what she was wearing, what she drank or how she acted. Society is sick, and I think we are just seeing more and more of it as Jesus' return gets closer and closer.
Change "no means no" to "Did I say yes?"
I had a first date for dinner, conversation. The guy picks me up and drive to a hotel. At which point I got out of the car and went home.
I often wonder what exactly do most men think woman are here/created for?
I Have always found The female perspective interesting. Since I am a male and I love a different opinion -- it keeps my viewpoint open to see something in a different light then I saw it before. I think it's horrible that a HS girl got gang raped any sexual assault is wrong normally rape is largely a female problem but it does happen to guys too but when it does it's normally downplayed with saying like oh "he probably enjoyed it" or when a female teacher raped a male student in her class in Florida -- even the news joked around saying things like "it was probably good for his development" or "wish I had her for sexual education". My outrage isn't against women like I said, I love women but why does the law have to place women above men or men above women? But This teacher got paid leave and no jail time?! There's even a news article about a woman who avoided prison time simply because she told the judge "I'm too pretty to go to jail" and apparently the judge agreed. That was my point that women are in power, so what's to fear?
As for what What do men think women are created for? It depends on the perspective and where they got it from... the worldly men think women are for passion, fun, and pleasure. The whole relationship normally turns out what the women is doing for the Guy. From the Biblical man's perspective depending on the woman either should be praised. (Proverbs 31:30) or avoided ( note the story of Samuel. ) women can either be obedient to God's word and givers of life or they can be seductive thefts who steal life. Which is why beauty and charm are warned about in Proverbs because in those days... when it was written men would pick their wive straight by asking the father for the daughter's hand in marriage. If the father agreed then they would be married for life. Most people today don't understand why they had it this way and some even say it was enslavement but really who knows a Man's heart and his own daughter better then a father. But back then they cared enough about the family name that divorce was less common. Because no one wanted to disgrace their parent's decision... it definitely took all the confusion we have today because what Guy would send a thousand messages to your dad ladies? I really don't think most dad's would stand for such nonsense. Anyway thanks for replying and God bless. Oh and I'm not hating on you either :)
I was stalked before. It was after I was drugged and then raped by an older woman with a child. After that first night, I tried to tell her I wasn't interested, that we weren't boy and girlfriend. But she persisted.
She had money, and lived in a nice home. I went there because I was on a bus and got off and my wallet was gone. She got off with me, and said I could go to her house and call them and she could help me.
Anyway, after that first night, she threatened to kill my girlfriend (whom she found out I had) and to blackmail me if I ever tried to escape. So, I lost hope. I was drugged and raped, over and over, and used as a big brother for her son. After a few days or about a week, I threatened her, saying, "If you don't stop and let me go, I will call the police. I will have you arrested."
She mocked me, saying, "I'll just flash my eyes and tell them how this youngster came into my home and took advantage of me. How he raped me and misused me even though I fed him and took so good care of him." I backed off. Later she tried to grab me while I was not drugged. I grabbed her arms and said, "You will not do that to me. I don't want you to touch me." She became infuriated, and screamed,"Don't you EVER do that again! I will have you arrested!" and so forth. I didn't grab her hard, or hurt her in anyway, was just trying to keep her back.
At night sometimes she would interrogate me while drugged or other things. I still have the marks on my body.
Finally, after awhile, she took me to church. Oh, I begged and begged to go. When I there, I was too scared to tell anyone, but I prayed fervently. And then God filled me, and I felt His comfort. I resisted the hardest I could against the sex. I would firmly but gently tell her I didn't want it, over and over.
Well, then I got away. And even though she didn't know where I was staying, she stalked me and knew wherever I was staying and called me at those places for about a week. She would call them over and over.
I went back to that city, but hoped she wouldn't know when I would arrive, then I could get on a plane and get out of the country. That's what I hoped. IT would've taken all my money, but I would rather live homeless than be with her. But when I got to the train station, she was there with a camera and her son. I felt so trapped.
You ask, why didn't you tell your parents? Because, she had my e-mail information (another thing she got out of me one night after a long drugged interrogation).
Then, I used the scars on my body as an excuse to say I thought I had a sexual disease. Hah! that kept her away from me for about a month. Then we were tested. I had nothing. IT was the week of my birthday, and she was clawing at me trying to get me. At this point, I knew not to drink what she offered at night. But that didn't stop her madness, I could only struggle for so long. And that was when I was again raped so badly. But I became so peaceful on the outside, but stubborn on the inside. I found out how to contact my brother and then delete its history when she was in the shower. through this, me and my family schemed my escape. Right, we would be so nice to her and get her to accept me to go home to see my ailing grandma who was going to die soon. And then, I would return home. We were so great and nice toward her. So willing to work with her. My mom was a saint, she acted so pleasant.
So, I got on the plane, and I flew away. Once home, she called MY CHURCH and asked for me on New Year's Eve, in front of all the church. I was waving my hand, "No, tell her I'm not here." Fortunately, my dad was the one to answer. But, I was shaky from it. I knew I had to see a psychologist, which I started to after a few months home. And I got better. I had to delete my e-mails and everything.
Online stalking I think is when someone finds out information about it, possibly even hacking into your site. Someone who throws up a random message on a blue moon or looks at you, that's not stalking, that's just a hopeless person. But if they write you obsessively over and over and over everyday, even though you tell them you aren't interested, that's obviously a stalker. Or an obsessive personality that could become your stalker. This is why you shouldn't give your address out on these sites. Make sure you don't have a name that is traceable or they could use to find you on facebook, myspace, etc. But make sure you tell someone you aren't interested, this is the key to know if they are a stalker or not (I think).
Actually, just this weekend, I had a guy randomly poke at my private part. I don't know why, and it was someone who I thought was a Christian and knows the guys I'm staying with (I am sharing a house with two guys who were suggested to me from my pastor. This happened there.
I just moved down here.)
He apologized later, he had been drinking earlier in the night, and I forgave him. But I keep my room locked. I have two weeks to be here. I told one of my housemates about it.
I can't provide protection or security for a woman.
Oh well, praise God I'm alive and well. And no matter what, I have Christ with me. Even if I should be single all my life, better to have nothing in this world but to have Christ than to have everything in this world, but not to have Christ. He always has a purpose, and He can make beauty out of the ugliness us humans cause. Take care and God bless, everyone.
