Author	Thread: Follow-up question to "Seperated" as a status post
Admin	Follow-up question to "Seperated" as a status post Posted : 12 Jun, 2011 08:51 AM Hello Everyone, Thanks to all that responded to my first post regarding "Seperated" as a status. It confirmed what I suspected to be a huge issue with many of the women on this site. Your responses to my question were honest but very hurtful. The home page of this site states: Christian Dating for Free is a fun and unique way for Christians to meet and get to know each other�and it�s free! If you are just looking for a like minded companion or are ready for a serious relationship, you�ve found the best meeting place on the web for Christian Singles. I was very encouraged when I read this, and created a profile in kind. I am wanting to meet and get to know Christians. I am wanting to become friends with Christian Women that are wanting a serious relationship. As I stated in my profile, I am wanting to make friends first...I would hope that this is the approach that everyone is taking on this site. I must say that before our plans to divorce, neither my wife nor I felt compelled to exclude anyone from possible friendship because they were a Christian and wantint to meet someone with hopes of a serious relationship in the future. I would guess that this is the mindset of most of the people on this site. My question is: How should I proceed in this endeavor? I am a Christian man who is currently seperated from his wife...we are divorcing. I wanted to work on my marriage (felt compelled due to a covenant I made between God, my wife, and myself)...but my wife is unwilling and we are divorcing. She has met the man she intendes to marry, and is making plan to do such as soon as they are able. I on the other hand would like to meet some likeminded Christin to get to know as friends...women who would like to eventually be married to a Christian man. At this point in time...that is all I am looking for. I sure could use the friendship in light of what has happened, but my "status" as a "seperated" Christian man seems akin to be part of the "untouchable caste" in India, or like being a leper...unclean, in biblical times. What should I do? I have contacted several women on this site, who seem to share many of the same interests, hopes, and dreams as I, but are probably (in some cases) not responding because of my "status" of seperated. My profile was honest, I would simply like to meet some likeminded Christian women to become friends...who knows, if it is God's will, in the FUTURE, perhaps more. I guess I could just wait out the next several months, without any companionship of friends, but I was hoping for some meaningful communication and friendship. Ladies of the CDFF forum, What would you suggest? Thanks for entertaining my hurt ramblings, I do appreciate it. -P Post Reply
View Profile History	Follow-up question to "Seperated" as a status post Posted : 12 Jun, 2011 09:30 AM Nothing wrong with making new friends, Pete. Cheer up! I'm sure the ladies will be stopping by your profile to chat.. God Bless Ya! :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Follow-up question to "Seperated" as a status post Posted : 12 Jun, 2011 09:44 AM Thanks for the words of encouragement...they are "right on time" Peter Post Reply
View Profile History	Follow-up question to "Seperated" as a status post Posted : 12 Jun, 2011 11:00 AM Hang out here in the forums. :) It's akin to meeting in a public place and as you've already seen, you've had quite a few women talking to you! Haha! Plus..you can meet new male Christian friends too! :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Follow-up question to "Seperated" as a status post Posted : 12 Jun, 2011 12:56 PM Thanks for the reply. Peter Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Follow-up question to "Seperated" as a status post Posted : 12 Jun, 2011 04:49 PM Definitely hang out on the forums and contribute as much as you want to! It's a great place to meet people, make friends, and establish yourself on the site. There are also the live chat rooms (which I've never found to be very welcoming) that some people enjoy. When your status changes to "divorced", you may find that many more people are willing to communicate with you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Follow-up question to "Seperated" as a status post Posted : 13 Jun, 2011 04:25 PM Thank you so much for the encouraging words. Perhaps I should just "bow out" for a while. You have been very kind. Peter Post Reply
View Profile History	Follow-up question to "Seperated" as a status post Posted : 15 Jun, 2011 01:44 AM Hi Peter.... ...Nothing wrong with making new friends...Its brilliant to be honest and keep it..if you still "separated" please never say your status are divorced until your status real divorce.... :peace: Post Reply