Author	Thread: Missing a Message?
Admin	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 01:59 PM Hello Ladies. I have a confusing question here that maybe some of you would have great insight into. Lets say a guy REALLY liked a girl, and that girl seemed to clearly have the same feelings for him. They enjoy e-mailing and speaking with eachother very much, but every single time they speak for a bit, the girl says "I'll be right back", or "I need to do something real quick" and doesn't contact the guy for a day or two in any form. What do you think the reasons could be? Is the guy missing a message here? Hoping for some helpful input and clarification here. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 02:43 PM I don't know. She might just be really ditsy and honestly forget that she interrupted a conversations to go do something "really quick." Or she might stay so super busy that she really doesn't have time to come back and respond sooner than that. Or she might be hoping the guy will just go away. Or she might want him to chase her a little bit. Bottom line: who knows. This guy might just have to ask her about it rather bluntly. Personally, if I'm interested in a guy, I don't disappear for days at a time. I don't interrupt a conversation unless it is REALLY important that I do so. And if I say, "I need to do such-and-such really quickly", I make it as quick as possible and come right back to the conversation. Post Reply
View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 03:00 PM Hehe. Thanks bcpiagonal. :laugh: Too many possibilities!:goofball: She's not ditsy. It doesn't seem she's trying to get rid of me. I don't think she's the type that would try to manipulate a chase out of me. She must be really, really busy. Which she said she was busy, I just don't understand what kind of busy can keep you that busy for days, over and over repeatedly. I did ask her. I made the message as nice as I could while letting it say what I needed it to say. I'm afraid it still seemed too rude, and the last thing on earth I want to do is hurt her or blow my chance with her. Believe me, I'm rather confused and nervous about the whole situation. Post Reply
View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 03:30 PM well, you have the right to ask her kindly why shes keeping you on hold for so long, cos usually when a girl or a guy like somebody they don't keep them on hold for a long time... heres the thing, I also liked a guy who liked me alot too, and he would put me on hold alot, and forget about me, and would sometimes not contact me until a few days went by after saying "brb" or he would say he was busy... so i realized that I felt he was taking me for granted that I would wait without saying anything! So, I decided "he probably has NO idea hes doing this, and I want to be respected and I don't like this... so i'm going to bring it to his attention" and I did, and you know what? He had no idea he was doing this and stopped after that! So when he said "brb" he meant it, if he put me on hold cos he had to take a call hed ask if he can call me back, etc... Don't be afraid to voice something, better to voice it now wisely then keep it in out of fear of the other person not taking it well! Thats just my thoughts :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 03:38 PM That is a very similar situation lilo. I appreciate your input. I already talked to her about it once a little bit, but I sent a message after the last couple times that more clearly said how I was feeling about it i think. I miss her like crazy, especially when I don't ever get to say goodbye!:goofball: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 04:43 PM I know what you mean about not getting to say goodbye. The other night, I was talking to a guy friend of mine on Facebook, and I when we finally wrapped up the conversation, I told him "Well, I need to head to bed, so Goodnight!" He didn't answer me at all, even though I waited for about 10 minutes. Needless to say, I was rather disgruntled at that...he'd never ignored me before. The next time we talked, I asked him what had happened and why he had ignored me. He didn't know what I was talking about. He had responded with "Goodnight, I'll talk to you tomorrow.", but I never got his response. Stupid FB Chat! These online communications are just rough, ya know?!? :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 05:02 PM LOL. I have talked with her in more detail now, and she is actually extremely busy, with family member illness......so, completely understandable state of affairs. I trusted she was busy, just didn't know what could make you THAT busy, and i think taking care of an ill family member HUGELY counts. Thankyou for your input though folks.:bow: Post Reply
Ivory_Guitar View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 05:42 PM @bcpianogal Speaking of ditsy, I remember I told this one girl I liked her at college one time. She gave me the biggest smile I had ever seen, because she felt the same way. She said "I really like you t... OH LOOK, A PUPPY!" and then she went over to pet the puppy that was on campus... I just stood there awkwardly, lol. Post Reply
View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 05:45 PM I think you need to consider another possibility. She is married. This has hapened to me (more than once!) with a man. I don't automatically assume he is married when he says "I'll be right back" and then I don't hear from him in a couple of days. But when someone is married there is an accumulation of little clues that add up. They might deny they are married (the men I talked to did) and/or say they are busy. They give plausible excuses. But the excuses and abcenses add up. You know, I'm a busy lady but I always get back to someone I am talking to, even if it might be hours later or the next day. To do otherwise is rude and non-Christian. A quick email does not take much time. I'm just saying -- it is something to consider. Go about it prayerfully and carefully. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 06:39 PM Ivory, haven't you learned that puppies ALWAYS win out over guys? LOL! I'm just kidding. That was definitely very ditsy of her, or either ADD. I have a friend who does that all the time. He'll be right in the middle of a sentence, and get distracted. He's pretty good about coming right back and picking up where he left off, but it's very amusing. And it was a little annoying until I got used to it. Post Reply
Ivory_Guitar View Profile History	Missing a Message? Posted : 17 Jun, 2011 07:44 PM Haha, yeah... I know now that puppies always win. Do you have any friends that space out on you when you're talking to them? I have a problem where I space out, but then I snap out of it when I realize I'm spacing out. Post Reply