Author	Thread: Good guy vs. Bad Guy who wins out
Admin	Good guy vs. Bad Guy who wins out Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 12:25 PM Giirls say they want a strong christian nice man. However, I often see them attracted to the "bad" boy type image. Or a nice guy with an edge. Often times these bad boys end up hurting the girls emotionaly. And girls seem to go back to the bad boys and the good strong christian men get ignored. What do you girls think? Post Reply
View Profile History	Good guy vs. Bad Guy who wins out Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 03:34 PM You are right on with your evaluation. All of us are looking for that Christian man but with scewed psychology working within us is we look towards the significant male figure that failed us as a child. It could be in the father figure that failed us therefore causing the first failed marriage because of our lack of understanding creating the domino effect in future relationships; we are attracted to the wrong type of man in the first place...the type of man who may have abandonned as a child. We will look for someone very simlilar to the one who hurt us before; this time we say it will be different but the truth is it won't be until we search for the one God wants us to be with. The man who probably gets our attention is the very one we should stay away from. The one who we say to ourselves this time will be better (a big caution sign should be up but it isn't). The truth is if we aren't in communion with the Father in heaven we will make the same mistakes many times until we are filled with His love and no longer settle for less...only my opinion for whatever it is worth. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Good guy vs. Bad Guy who wins out Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 08:23 PM The biggest problem is that the vast majority of the time, the "good" guys are not strong leaders. They are boring, weak, passive men. There's only so long a woman can deal with a doormat of a guy and dull conversation before she starts looking elsewhere for the kind of man she craves. If "good" guys become less passive, more active leaders who are willing to take risks, they're going to win over a lot more women. Post Reply
View Profile History	Good guy vs. Bad Guy who wins out Posted : 22 Jun, 2011 12:48 PM I think the answer for the "Good" guys here is to evaluate the type of woman they want and what that woman is looking for. Generally a Bad Boy will attract a bad girl, but at the same time I don't want a woman that will be totally subservient and let me make decisions all the time. I don't get any pleasure from hurting a womans feelings but I am alive and have interests which allow me to express other areas of my personality ( such as martial arts ). If anything the arts have given me more respect for my fellow man, I also realise that when you know how to fight you don't need to. I don't train to be a bad boy ( alright I like the image a little ), I have the body of a child anyway lol. I will hopefully be able to carry on learning as long as I'm alive. Physical exercise and discipline of training is good for prayer and meditation, that's one reason the Budhist Monks did it so that they did not fall asleep during their meditation. The mind, body and soul are as closely linked to one another in us as God the father, the Son and Holy Spirit. If one suffers they all suffer. Who's won what again? Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Good guy vs. Bad Guy who wins out Posted : 22 Jun, 2011 01:38 PM Tulip has it. Women want a strong leader, regardless of whether he's good or bad. Ultimately him being good or bad doesn't factor into their decision at all. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Good guy vs. Bad Guy who wins out Posted : 22 Jun, 2011 04:17 PM yes, we like "bad boys" but...as we get older and get knocked around a bit, we (hopefully) come to the realization that the "bad boy" isnt for the long haul. we want a wise and mature man of God who is strong in his relationship with the Godhead, but humble and not puffed up. Post Reply
View Profile History	Good guy vs. Bad Guy who wins out Posted : 24 Jun, 2011 11:37 AM This is true many women are attracted to the bad guys! However, when we are truely walking with God we know not to settle for them. Move on to a mature Man of God. I have past up a couple of bad guys I was attracted too, because I had sense enough to know, they were not a good mate for me. :angel: Post Reply