So I came back on CDFF after about two years of giving online dating a break. And basically the same thing is happening. When it comes to sending a young lady a message I'm interested in and getting a response, I get none. I don't send everyone a message, just someone I may be interested in. They look at my profile and read my message but I get no response. I can't even begin to tell you how many times this has happened. I'm not sure why they don't respond, maybe I do. Is it my profile? Is it too wordy? Do I sound too wierd to talk to? Obviously location is important. But I just don't know what it is and why nobody really responds and says hi in return. When I do send a message it's usually "Hi there, how are you" or "How's it going." Maybe it's that? Maybe they don't like "hi, how are you?" I don't know but I need help!! lol. Any advice for a guy? How can a guy get a lady to say at least hi in return :)
If you aren't comfortable having a photo of youself on your profile, you might try sending one with your individual message. Looks are not everything, but they do count for something.
I haven't read your profile, but my advice would be to respond to something on her profile in your initial message 1. This shows her that you've read it 2. It will give her a chance to talk about the things that interest her.
Sometimes even a "how was your day?", which sounds like a thoughtful thing to say, can come off as the burden being shifted to her to develop the conversation.
First, post a picture, people don�t like it when you don�t have a picture. People don�t post pictures for different reasons, some for security and others because they are not comfortable with the way they look. If you are not comfortable with the way you look, let me suggest that you post the picture anyways. She is going to find out what you look like sooner or later, so it is best just to let her know up front.
Second, if all you are sending out is a �hey, how you doin�� message, you will need to rethink that. The object of sending a message is to get a conversation going and to find out a little about a person. Ask her two or three open ended questions that she can answer.
Try reading this article from Oktrends.com. This site analyses data from the okcupid site. It has some interesting information on first messages. I would ignore the part where it suggest you become an Atheist.
Photo... I'll say it again.. Photo. Now you hear the "they should like me for who i am not for what i look like" well then if that is how one really feels, then they should walk around with a paper bag over their face everywhere they go! Its unfair to think such things! But i'm gonna assume you don't think that way, and if you don't... bravo :)
Post a photo of yourself, me, I would never respond to someone I do not have a photo of, cos I am brave enough to post a photo of myself i'd expect the same thing! I want to know who i'm talking too... it takes more caution to talk to someone online, so make it easier for them by letting them know what you look like! Especially that you are on a dating site looking for love! Eventually they are going to have to see you, so why not now! So go on, and post a photo of yourself! :)
Add a photo. I know you said (in your profile) that you tried, but try again.
Also, you might explain a little bit about what you mean by "non-denominational" in your profile. I know a lot of people put that, but it's actually a bit of a red flag to me unless someone explains what they mean by it. I know this isn't exactly an accurate idea of a non-denom church, but I usually think of them as either 1) very charismatic, 2) a church that doesn't teach much of anything, 3) has really strange ideas, or 4) is a "we promise we won't say anything to offend you" church. When I see someone who claims to be non-denominational on his profile, I often wish that he would explain "my church is non-denominational, but it's basically a Baptist/AoG/Pentecostal/etc. church".
Other than that, your profile looks fine. I agree with what has been said about your messages, though. I probably wouldn't answer them either, especially since you don't have a picture up. You would get the standard "we wouldn't make a good match" reply. Add a picture, and you might get an "I'm fine thanks...you?" Explain about non-denominational, and you might get a real reply.
I'm having so much trouble getting any good sized picture to post on here. I have a droid and I took several dozen pictures to post on here but this website is saying its too big. Yeah right, just look at my profile and you will disagree on that. I've tried to resize the pictures and put them on the proper format, I really don't know what else to do. I've tried to change my settings on my droid but I don't think that worked either.
This is an old site, so it can't handle larger images. To upload pictures straigt from a camera you would need about an 1/8 Megapixel camera.
On the upload picture page there are links to a few websites that will resize the images for you. Or, if you want, I can give you my email address and I will resize them for you.
