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nightfarmer

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Posted : 24 Aug, 2011 04:16 PM

as it is obvious in this site divorce is very common,,but the explinations almost none.,,

AS some one whos never been married or experiaced it..

Iam curious if willing people would explain the reasons for there divorce and if they feel it could have been avoided or not?

this is not to judge any one but the object is maybe we all can learn if we share our experiances, hope to also put this topic in as a guy as well,,

hope we can all learn something:angel:

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Posted : 24 Aug, 2011 05:42 PM

The number one cause of diverce is marriage. :ROFL:

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Rabbit32

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Posted : 24 Aug, 2011 07:26 PM

:ROFL: :ROFL: :ROFL:

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nightfarmer

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Posted : 24 Aug, 2011 09:05 PM

such words of wisdom ,i guess were going to learn alot here:zzzz:

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Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 01:54 PM

I will respond with our cause. I say "our" because seldom is anything one sided.



My husband had always been a party guy. He would tell you that he told me on the day he asked me to marry him (when we were teenagers) that he would drink beer and smoke pot til he died. I was a starry-eyed girl in love, so did not see a problem.



Thought I could change him or live with it. I did live with it and we produced 6 outstanding, amazing kids. But his drinking and drugging got worse. Then he cheated as well, several times.



My part in it. I was too submissive, weak, dependant, whatever, to put my foot down and draw a line. I loved him so much I would get angry about the drinking, drugs, other women, but always forgave him, with little to no consequences to him. Well I grew a spine when pregnant with #6, prayed for months for God to help me to stop loving him, and left him with the other children a month before babe was born.



So the reasons were, alcohol, drugs, and my co-dependence. I believe now (hind-sight is 20-20 right?) that if I had been less submissive years ago he may have slowed down in his addictions and not be as bad now. I am not sure he would have ever stopped though.



But aside from all that, if it had never happened or if I had left earlier I would not have my wonderful gifts from God, my children.



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Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 01:59 PM

The have been other Posts on the Forum concerning

divorce for Christians. So very good posts explaining

the scriptures that say it is Ok for a divorced person to

remarry, if he/she gets a Biblical divorce.



Unfortunately, People do not divorce for Biblible reason, which are Adultry and desertion. So sometimes, a person

may not want to explain, why they got a divorce.



And, if they do not want to explain why, I would just move

on and not consider them for a Mate.



Many people online do not want a spouse anyway they

just want to date someone. Even on these Christian sites.

From my experience of talking with serveral men.

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Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 02:41 PM

cobbler I saw the Lord smile at that one.

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Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 02:46 PM

angel most Christians are not real Christians-they are cultural Christians. They claim the title but live the lifestyle of the world. And each and everyone of them shall hear the following words spoken from the lord : " Be gone I never knew you!" The older I get the more I understand that we the true believers are but a small remnant.

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Posted : 26 Aug, 2011 10:02 AM

Statistically, divorce comes from lack of education, marrying too young, and not dating long enough. A 30 year old and a 27 year old, both with college degrees, who have dated for two years before they get engaged are about as unlikely to get a divorce as it gets. On the other hand, an 18 year old and a 16 year old, both high school drop outs, who have been dating for less than six months are all but guaranteed to get a divorce.

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Posted : 26 Aug, 2011 09:29 PM

Statistically you're right Tulip. Biblically, divorce comes from "hardness of hearts".

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Posted : 27 Aug, 2011 07:44 AM

Smili, would you please back that up with some "biblical" evidence since you're proclaiming it is biblical?

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