Author	Thread: Sex before marriage...that was then this is now?
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	Sex before marriage...that was then this is now? Posted : 15 Oct, 2012 03:29 PM I just read a post on the subject above on the single parents forum (though I have no kids)....am I the only woman who has to tell Christian men she dates that she does not engage in premarital sex? I always thought this was a given but it's not.....some are surprised, some honestly tell me they cannot live that way and others get angry and ask if I am perfect and without sin..... I usually have this chat in the beginning, when we decide we want to date so there is no confusion. Post Reply
View Profile History	Sex before marriage...that was then this is now? Posted : 15 Oct, 2012 04:26 PM It should be a given. Some "christians" think it's okay to give yourself away physically to everyone they feel like doing so with. Post Reply
View Profile History	Sex before marriage...that was then this is now? Posted : 16 Oct, 2012 01:12 AM Yeah, unfortunately that happens to be how too many so called "christians" happen to think these days. However, there is one difference on this issue that I would like to point out. For example: In my case, I have rock-solid beliefs that are built and based upon the original union in the Garden of Eden. In other words, I don't believe in signing a marriage certificate or being declared as "married" by a preacher. Why? Because only God has the power to declare a man and a woman as married. Plus, I won't need a marriage certificate due to the fact that I've never had any intentions of sleeping with a woman unless my commitment is already finalized in my heart. Speaking of which, I literally don't know what I might do to myself if a woman takes away my sexual purity and then walks away. That's actually how serious marriage is to me...it always has been, and always will be. I guess you could say I have "the heart of a dove" when it comes to marriage. Doves choose their partners for life...and because their commitment is true, they don't need a piece of paper or anything else to bind them together. Their commitment is written inside their hearts, and that's how it should be! :) I've seriously got to find myself a snuggle dove to share the rest of my life with. I just can't stand being alone. Life is so boring without that wonderful female beside me. I've thought about her so much over the past several years that it makes me sad because I still don't have her with me. I can barely wait to hold her hands, cuddle, kiss, and what not. Hehe :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Sex before marriage...that was then this is now? Posted : 21 Oct, 2012 06:09 PM You're not the only one. Hang in there! I promise there are Christian men out there with good morals. :purpleangel: Post Reply
JennnLag View Profile History	Sex before marriage...that was then this is now? Posted : 21 Oct, 2012 08:39 PM It's always best to bring this up at the very beginning! You are correct in that many do not abide by this nor are they convicted by it. Life is so much easier when dating someone who is on the same page and there is no pressure! I do not believe it is a matter of "so called Christians". We are all at different walks with Christ in our life. I remember being newly saved, but not having the conviction of premarital sex immediately on my life. It's all a process. I also grew up in a "religion" where I was dubbed a "Christian" but by no means was I a believer. I was completely clueless. I do not even recall the topic of premarital sex ever being preached, probably because I wasn't paying attention!! Being affiliated with a religion or going to church doesn't make you a Christian anymore than standing in a garage makes you a car! Post Reply
View Profile History	Sex before marriage...that was then this is now? Posted : 22 Oct, 2012 05:19 AM Many men dont realise that when we protect a lady from our flesh they trust us and respect us for that. If we are unable to guard our flesh and its lusts before marriage what think we that we would be able to do so after? Believe me my understanding came with great cost to some others but I have learned my lesson. The world tells us men that we need to seal the deal with sex. That a man is manly if he engages in sex. The lies we are programed with since childhood are many. This is just one of them. A Lady who has a man who exibits self controll will respect him and she will trust him completly. Do we men now self controll is a attribute of the Spirits fruit in our lives? Christian is not just a title. It is us giving God the deed to our lives. Surrendering our wills and controll of our lives to God. Why? Because He gave everything to us. A genuine Godly relationship is giving everything to another without reserve. God has given us this example and we are to follow. God does this giving perfectly and we have to learn through humbling our selves before God to allow His Spirit to live in us. As we read Gods word and see what is expected of us as His people we can take one of two paths. We can try to fabricate and be obedient to God by our will power. This leads to legalism and pride. Or We can learn to live surrendered lives and allow the Spirit to live out in us. Which path are you on? Because only one leads to life..... Post Reply
View Profile History	Sex before marriage...that was then this is now? Posted : 30 Oct, 2012 09:17 PM I like your posts DEEDEE...you sound like a respectable woman. To answer your question I would tell someone I'm dating that I do not have sex before marriage. If they are shocked I would just tell them that it's in the Word. Post Reply