Author	Thread: Whats the right age to have a baby??
Admin	Whats the right age to have a baby?? Posted : 4 Jun, 2013 07:00 AM Ladies? Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Whats the right age to have a baby?? Posted : 4 Jun, 2013 07:49 AM Let me give you an older woman's perspective. Physically, the easiest time to carry, deliver, recover and chase after a young one is probably age 19. However, emotionally, financially and maybe even spiritually, we'd all be better off if we could wait until 40. Therein lies the dilemma! Post Reply
Wild_erness View Profile History	Whats the right age to have a baby?? Posted : 4 Jun, 2013 09:17 PM Well, my response (and my reasoning) to not have a baby after the age of 35 is that at that point (and earlier for a variety of people) the baby is more likely to have some defect which wouldn't have occurred if I had a baby at the age of 20. I am not saying that every baby will have some thing wrong with them, if the mother is older than a certain age, but I often wonder how men relate to women who are at the point in their life when having a baby may not be the best thing for the mothers health, or for the possible baby. I once told a guy on this site that I was interested in adopting, but no longer wished to have a child (mostly because of my health reasons) and he rudely told me that if I was not going to have his child then I was not for him. So rude. Guess I got off topic, but it sort of bothers me that 50 to 60 year old guys on this and other sites are more than happy to say they want a child, but as a woman I don't at my age and health . . . so then I am the bad guy. Sort of frustrating :) Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Whats the right age to have a baby?? Posted : 4 Jun, 2013 10:13 PM This is really an interesting topic.Sometimes it varies with different cultures but for me i would like to say the right age to have a baby is in the age that one is married.If a girl is married at 20 its ok for her to have a baby,and for a woman who didn't get a chance to get married early,and she gets a partner at 40,and she would love to have a kid,let her go on. You may want to have kids but you aren't lucky to get a partner while you are young,and being a christian you don't want to engage in fornication.The time you get your partner you are 35 or older,consult your doctor and if you are assured that you are fine,go ahead. I don't think there is an age that is right or wrong coz it all depends on the situation you are or have been in. I hope it makes sense. Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the right age to have a baby?? Posted : 5 Jun, 2013 04:29 AM As christians are we not called to walk by faith? Does not God tell us that children are a heritage from the Lord and a man whos quiver is full of them is blessed? Why do we listen to the ungodly voices of today when it comes to family? Is not a child with defects even worthy of a parents love? Is a child with defects capable of returning love to parents? Is not the greatest command to Love? So when we listen to ungodly advice do we not rob our selves of Gods blessings? Post Reply
Wild_erness View Profile History	Whats the right age to have a baby?? Posted : 5 Jun, 2013 06:21 AM Thats nice for you as a man to say that you want your quiver to be full . . . but I as a woman have a choice too. Why is it bad to take the unloved children into my home and out of the child care system? Would I not be thinking of others rather than myself as the Bible asks us to do? Why do most christian men need to have a dna replica in their children? I have sort of been waiting to get you in a discussion Letthismind . . . and I get really annoyed by your condescending attitude toward women . . . telling other men that we are all little glass balls that need to be handled with care . . . men shouldn't drop us because women will break (this is my own interpretation of what you have been saying in all these posts over the last year that I have been paying attention). You seem to care about women, but assume that they can't handle themselves, and need a man to live and breath. I am not a glass ball who will break when dropped, I can breath on my own without any help from anyone except God. I know of very few women who would classify themselves as a "need a man to survive" type person. Why do you think of women in this way? I am a rubber ball that bounces back and does not break . . . who makes me this way? GOD. He is my strength when I am weak, are women not to be strong? Is God only directing this comment to men? I also agree with the other poster that said that the right age is when you are married, and if you are healthy, then go for it at that time. What I posted is my opinion and how I hope my future husband will be able to respond to me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the right age to have a baby?? Posted : 5 Jun, 2013 01:47 PM Just to pick up on one part of your original reply, technically 2 of my three kids are not mine biologically, but I have taken them on as my own. I think adoption is a wonderful thing to do and not considered often enough. Kids surely are a blessing and I don't think that is diminished by them not having your own genes - certainly as a loving parent rather than the cold mechanical state system, you'd be a blessing to them. This is particularly important to me, knowing that as an outsider and evil-doer, God has adopted me into His family; it was hearing a little-known song proclaiming this that made me realise God's love - not as a general benevolence towards His creation, but focused and specific to me - and why just a few minutes later I decided to give my life to Him. That was some 24yrs ago and not one day do I regret it. "Father God, I wonder how I managed to exist without the knowledge of Your parenthood, and Your loving care. But now I am your son, I am adopted in Your family and I can never be alone 'cos Father God, You're there beside me." Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the right age to have a baby?? Posted : 6 Jun, 2013 03:59 AM Wild, Where in my post had i said they had to be biological children and where in Gods word does it say they have to be? Our God tells us that pure and undefiled faith is helping widdows and orphans in their time of need. It is honorable to adopt children. My ex and I were even qualified to adopt children and foster them as well. If I were able I would fill my home with children in need and give them the love and guidence they desire and long for. I would. As far as women being these fragile balls you could be more wrong about how I think of women. Quite the opposite. My future wife is quite a strong capable woman. She is a leader in her community. Women have great influence over men and the next generation. But I understand womeness. It breakes my heart that the lies of this world have taken from women something so beautiful, their vaulnerability. That the lies of this world have told women that they need to take leadership. It also breakes my heart about how many men including my self until recently do not know how to lead a womans heart. This is something practical that is not taught in the church as far as I can see and have experienced. Passive males who are fearful of women rather than engaging women in their emotional turmoil. Males who are reactionary rather that proactive. I am sorry if I have offended you, please forgive my offense. We know that interpetation is everything in good comunication, right? Everyone of us interpet what we experience through our own lense of experience and emotion. This is what causes us to become reactionary over what another might say or do. My words are only ment as edification to the body. If you are looking for a fight with me I am not your man. If you ae looking for a debate with me i am not your man. My God tells me....Blessed are the peace makers for they will be called children of God. Love you dear sister, Michael Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the right age to have a baby?? Posted : 20 Sep, 2013 09:15 PM You are right Sis. Post Reply