Author	Thread: Questions to ask each other when meeting a girl
Admin	Questions to ask each other when meeting a girl Posted : 30 May, 2015 08:59 PM Ladies, Do you all think it is right or wrong to ask a girl questions about her past relationship and clear the air over all that past baggage and make a fresh start with her in terms of a new committed relationship? I met this girl who wanted to keep in touch regularly with her ex while she communicated with me. The reason she gave me was that she was this ultramodern, independent girl. That seemed frivolous as any girl or guy can call it just keeping in touch but is it not just adulterous to try and maintain a past relationship while talking to a new future partner. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Questions to ask each other when meeting a girl Posted : 30 May, 2015 11:26 PM My brother to be honest, the only reason I would accept a potential mate continuing a "relationship" with an ex is if there are children involved...period! And the arrangements to that situation would have to be explained well, so that I would be confident and comfortable that every thing is on the up and up!! As for asking those hard hitting questions about past relationships and possible "baggage", imho I would expect that to be done in a relatively timely fashion as we become familiar with one another. I see no reason why we both can't maturely and with transparency, ask questions that go deeper into our past if we see our relationship becoming more serious... moving towards an exclusive status. Trust and honesty is key in any relationship, so why should it be any different in those beginning stages of a courtship? I'm sorry to hear of your disappointment with this sister you encountered recently, but better to have discovered these things before emotions kicked in seriously and someone possibly getting hurt! Isn't it wonderful how God's timely protection keeps us sometimes from disasters situations!! Gods' best in your search for true happiness!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions to ask each other when meeting a girl Posted : 31 May, 2015 12:03 AM I agree that with kids, it would be essential in some cases to maintain a healthy rapport with the ex, however this girl in question was unmarried. I didn't see why she wanted to still hold onto her ex. Better now than later though. Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions to ask each other when meeting a girl Posted : 31 May, 2015 09:50 AM I agree with hjmp. Since there were zero kids involved its obvious the ex wasnt an "ex" in her heart! If a woman cant commit 100% to you; find another woman but this time with Gods leading! ! God will shut doors/open doors asap if we follow his lead. God will protect you from the "side roads" you need not travel:) May the Lord continue to give you wisdom in these situations! Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding.Seek his will in all you do and he will direct your paths. Gods grace to you Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions to ask each other when meeting a girl Posted : 1 Jun, 2015 01:38 AM The only thing that was incomprehensible to me was her reluctance in being totally honest about her past. It seemed dicey to me when she evaded a candid discussion about her past about rather basic questions like moving on from the ex and that was all that was needed to take a positive step forward. Anyways, forgave her, moved on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions to ask each other when meeting a girl Posted : 29 Jul, 2015 10:05 AM The ultramodern independent part is what got me. Asking a girl about talking to her ex and she says something like that makes me a little uneasy. If my guy asked me that I would reassure him that It's just a friendship and he can trust me. In general It can be a little weird to have someone still talking to their ex but it depends on the extent. I dated a guy for years and he wanted to get married and we were very close and we broke up and now that time has gone by and God has healed some of the wounds we have we are friends again. We do talk rather consistently. We communicate a good bit but there is an overboard. I don't think she should be talking to him more then she is talking to you. I know people who have been married and still have rather consistent communication with their ex and they are fully committed to the man they are with now. They've buried the hatchet with their ex and are at a point where they can be friends because they have moved one to someone else. I think the two of you should talk about it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Questions to ask each other when meeting a girl Posted : 13 Aug, 2015 03:21 AM The real issue was not her talking to her ex, but what she told me about her ex. The girl in question was from Nepal, she dated a Muslim guy. He insisted that she convert as a Muslim to marry him. She told me that she supported him financially and that the guy was poor. Later on, she said he had multiple businesses. In effect, her boyfriend was already rich. She never supported him but it was the other way round. I couldn't get it why she had to lie really. Second and important point, she asked me about my income particulars even on the first day without barely knowing me. She was looking at me as a cash machine and not as a partner. Who asks such questions on first contact? Thirdly, I got a car but I give it to my parents whenever they need it. I use public transport at times to get to office bcoz traffic is horrible here in my city. Besides, I stay very close to my office location and there is no point in driving to office often in that kind of traffic. When we were supposed to meet up, I did tell her that my car was unavailable that day and that I'd help her get back by hiring a cab for her which I would pay for. She showed her true colors by putting up a long face. I could only imagine how my life would pan out if that girl were to become my partner. I don't want a woman to love me for my money. By the grace of Jesus, I earn well. However I'm always apprehensive when a woman looks only at my money or income rather than me as a whole person. Post Reply