I'm a geek/nerd/dork. Whatever you wish to call them, and for some reason I feel like girls turn away from guys like us. Why is this? I've been trying to figure out what the problem is, but I can't seem to find it and so I've decided to ask. Why is it women turn away from nerds and geeks and just see them as "friend material".
Well I think its all about age....sometimes there is just a weird stage you are going threw and you will grow out of it and if your looking for younger girls they like to impress friends and they want to fit in to the group. Im sure you will find the girl who is outside that box. I had a stage growing up where I was a dork but aabout 10th grade I grew out of it....
I think your best bet right now is to make "friends". You obviously (from what your profile says) want someone that you can be friends with. We all want that. But with the kinds of things you are interested in, you have kind of put yourself in a box.......a small box, that only girls of a like mind will be interested in opening. That's not a bad thing at all. You know what you want, which is a lot more than most people know. You will have to have patience because it may be a while before the right one comes along, but there's also a good chance that if you go out and do the things you like, such as the arcades, you will meet someone there who has the same interests, become friends, and then "close" friends. You're doing fine. Don't let anybody tell you different.
I would say not to worry....it definitely is an age thing. What the other two repliers have said is definitely true as well and just try to make friends here and there.
Dont let the fact that your certain interests or abilities are considered Nerdy or Geeky!!
Hey..I like Star Wars...does that make me a geek? lol
First, you do not need a woman to define who you are or what you are worth. Second, be what you are and as blunt as possible, the hell with anyone who cannot get on board with that.
Why do we have to be defined within a single word? Because we live in America? Look, if there is some type or class of woman out that there that seems to rag on you, then just look at in terms of it being their downfall and know that the true mental disfunction lies within them. Trust me man, give them a good ten to twenty years and then look those women up who gave you grief. Behaving and thinking the way they do and you will see the true definition of a geek/nerd or simply pathetic.
Live and love yourself, I think your cool for just stepping up and speaking out. Peace brother.
Some, if not most of them, have some ideal they want, sad to say. Tall, dark and handsome usually takes the cake, and eventually some will learn that it isn't important to be attractive or charismatic.
I have to agree with Joseph. Look, man. It's all about how you see yourself. Have some confidence. You ever walk around the mall and see some scruffy looking weirdo holding hands with some cute girl? What that guy has is confidence, and that's what will get you farther than the next guy. Don't worry about their rules, or their little checklist because that guy doesn't exist in this world. Be yourself and nothing short of that. Be a gentleman, but don't be a pushover. Confidence is attractive, but make sure that it isn't false confidence. Know what you want, and go after it.
Being a geek is cool !! It's not an age thing but rather it is what defines you... if you like being a geek/nerd embrace it. If others shun away from it because of your individuality --then they don't know who you really are and therfore you should find someone who respects you and accepts you.
Most nerds are the coolest I've met, and God loves us in everyway --
