Author	Thread: ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for .
livetheword View Profile History	ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for . Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 10:54 PM ok i recently posted a question that u ladies real helped me out on so id like to say thanks:peace: but also some of the answers were from guys with the opinion that money and cars is the most important thing to you ladies . i choose to believe that that is not so . and i also choose to believe that the idea of u girls having that on top of ur priorities is just an exscuse that guys come up with when u girls get tired of them because they wont listen or there not being onsiderate of u. but i cold be wrong . so anyways heres a chance for all you ladies to voice and teach us guys the truth about whats important . be creative and totaly honest :angel: and guys please dont commint on this . use a lil wisdom and open up ur minds to be educated rather than just be stuborn we all mite learn something Post Reply
View Profile History	ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for . Posted : 18 Jul, 2010 01:03 PM Money and cars are indicators, and can help us understand the whole man. But money comes and money goes. Cars come and cars go. (Yeah, cars go if they are maintained -- I mean that cars get sold, etc.) To use those things as the main or only indicator is not something I would have ever considered, and find it surprising any man thinks that. What is important is the personality and faith walk and values of the man. That stays. That lasts. That will be next to me despite how much money we have or don't have and what cars we have or don't have. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for . Posted : 18 Jul, 2010 07:06 PM Hey Live, Hope this thread works better the second time around - God willing. I�ve been refraining from answering because I don�t want a bunch of guys taking my response as a magic wand - that if they repeat the behavior, they will automatically catch the girl, but for some reason, I feel God�s prompting to answer tonight. I simply want to share what my beau did and why it worked for me. I�ve been looking for a man that can be a spiritual leader to a woman who has dedicated her life to ministry. Few men are comfortable in that position, but� one day I received a message from a Christian gentleman that said that God had told him to pray for me, so he was committed to praying for me and sending me a scripture daily for 2 weeks whether I replied or not. Excuse me, but with all of the sly (weird) lines guys use online, I hate to admit that I was cynical. However, he did send me scripture and asked for prayer requests everyday. So, I asked him how he knew that God had told him that he should pray for me. He had a ready and thorough answer. He knew what kind of woman he considered had godly character and had learned from his divorce, what he personally needed in a partner. When the �criteria� fit, it was easy for him to hear God�s prompting and he wasn�t sending out mass messages to collect prayer requests. We currently are reading a book by a Christian author together and discussing it each night. Everyone�s personality is different, so guys, don�t use this specific method. The point is, I�ve seen advice given over and over encouraging people to be about their Christian lives, being who God wants them to be, and doing what God wants them to do. Instead, we want speed dating in our �drive-thru� society. Can you imagine what we could do for God on this site if we all HONESTLY asked each other, �How can I be holding you up in prayer?� instead of, �When can we meet?� Would we avoid some rejection if two friends that are praying for each other and in God�s Word together everyday, decide that God hasn�t called them to be anything more than friends? If you are a man of God, looking for a woman of God, then 1) Pray; 2) Listen to God�s voice. Listen again. 3) Grow in godly character, Prove to any romantic interest that you have developed the fruits of the Spirit in your life - Gal. 5:22-23; 4) Pray; 5) Show the young lady how you would want to live out your faith in your home as a potential husband & father. Being a spiritual leader doesn�t mean that you have to know Greek and understand every passage in the Bible. It means you set serving God as a priority and that by example, you decide how serving God will be enacted in your household. So, show the lady that you have made that priority and what that priority looks like in your life. �O man, what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God.� Micah 6:8 Hope this is helpful. Rose Post Reply
View Profile History	ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for . Posted : 19 Jul, 2010 05:45 AM I'm want a man that has a honest to goodness relationship with God. Someone to which it is important to please God, not to be disobedient or to disappoint Him. I have no desire for great riches. I want him to feel the duty to provide naturally and be the priest (spiritual head). I would hope his work is his passion, whether secular or ministry. Finally, someone who is in prep or fulfilling his call and created purpose. There are no physical attribute or monetary requirements. Post Reply
View Profile History	ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for . Posted : 19 Jul, 2010 11:22 PM First and foremost, I am attracted to a man's heart... that is, a heart that belongs to Jesus and that is kind, tender, and compassionate towards others. Physical attributes change over time, circumstances can turn crazy and awful in seconds, and wealth is never a guarantee of anything. We lack in wisdom when we chase after such fading, fly-away things. We should maintain an eternal perspective and prioritize the qualities we desire in our future mates accordingly. Post Reply
nepb47 View Profile History	ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for . Posted : 24 Jul, 2010 09:41 PM There is one way I consider cars and money/stuff...If a man brags about having an expensive car and "stuff" it shows me that his priority is in material possessions and that he is overly concerned about what people think. A Christian (man and woman) should be more concerned about the qualities of character, faithfulness and devotion to God, helping others and self improvement. IMHO NEPB Post Reply
View Profile History	ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for . Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 07:24 AM That's why I ride my bicycle around everywhere, so they don't think my priority is worldly possessions. That and I don't want them to feel like they're only interested in me because of my car. And deffinitly not least of all is that the best way to tell some one you drive a Ferrari is when they see it in your driveway; Her: "You drive a Ferrari?" You: "Oh... Yes." Post Reply
View Profile History	ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for . Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 06:30 PM Yes, Rose! You have said it all, and so eloquently! :applause: I, too, am seeking a "spiritual leader", one who will be willing to step first. Sending scriptures with no agenda other than to be a blessing, is an awesome way to lead. Praying for someone is another wonderful blessing! I have done this as well, with favorable response. The guy I am interested in caught my attention when he knew some trivial fact that had not. You know, ...those moments when God enlightens you to a Scipture that you never saw in that light before. (Thanks, Christianman5050!) These are WOW's (Words of Wisdom)! AKA That "A-HA Moment!" I also love to be challenged in finding Scripture that applies to somebody's life at that moment. I want to reemphasize Rose's point, >>>Don't use these ideas as a "magic wand", Post Reply
View Profile History	ok girls here ur chance to voice an opinion to guys on what u look for . Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 10:39 PM i know us guys were told not to respond, but... i can't not @rose I as a young Christian man(young in the lord, and in age) feel that the bible is clear as to what a husband should be, and you hit several of the key points! i just hope that the Christian ladies are looking for a biblical husband, someone who leads, protects, provides (physically and spiritually) so thank you for your views! i read a great book that was given to me by a girl that i view as an older sister on the subject it was called "What He Must Be...if he wants to marry my daughter" and it is a great book B.I.C. Post Reply