Author	Thread: standing up for one's self
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 05:51 AM Why do most women shy away from learning self-defense? I understand carrying mace, and staying out of bad situations, but what do you do when trouble comes looking for you? Post Reply
View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 06:36 AM I grew up on the mean streets of Gary, In. Walking over drunks laid out in alleys, dodging bullets by laying down on the floor when you heard the shooting start and having to beat somebody down every once in awhile was pretty regular. If trouble finds me, I will fight, so I will be interested to see what some of the other women say. Post Reply
View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 03:51 PM Same thing here BG...City of Angles...not many round where I came from...I believe a women should look into self defense as it can an does teach ya what ta do in any situation...Its saved my life many a time...xo Post Reply
ForgetMeNots View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 04:52 PM Some women don't want to announce that they have had self defense training, cause - 1: Some people don't like the idea that a girl can hold her own without a big strong man to save her 2:The sheer idea is unlady like to mention on a first date:P 3: We lose the element of suprise. If the persone comes at us clumsily, we can quickly counter with preciseness rather than if they were prepared and looking for a fight with an experienced martial artist. ;) Post Reply
ForgetMeNots View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 05:51 PM On a serious note though, the reason most girls dont lwarn selfdefense is because they view it unnecessary,unfeminine, or not as efficient as a gun or pepper spray. And when emotions are involved with panic in a dangerous situation, some have forgotten everything they learned or overpowered. But the main point of a self defense is ,if they know it, they arent going to advertise it. It's like advertising a concealed weapon and intimadting everyone cause you know how to use it. Post Reply
View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 07:47 PM My reasons: When I had the money, I didn't have the time When I had the time, I didn't have the money The last time I checked into it, I couldn't find a class/program where they did not push you to keep at it, moving up in your skills, and participate in tournaments. I don't want to do that. I DO stand up for myself. I have lots of habits that help protect me and project a confident image, without actually knowing any self-defense. The most important of which is prayer. God has helped me through many situations on almost nothing but prayer. Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 6 Aug, 2010 11:10 AM forgetmenots, can you explain a little more what you mean by "unfeminine"? I understand not bragging about it, most guys who fight professionally don't talk about it, they just let the would be attacker mess with the wrong guy, and then an ambulance comes and takes the wrong guy away. I'm not talking weight lifting, or anything like that, or competing in tournies or anything. Excellent point on folks "freezing" in the moment, though, it happens to lots of folks Post Reply
View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 6 Aug, 2010 05:36 PM I've considered taking a self-defence course. But I was way too busy for many years. And now I'm not busy, but don't have the spare cash and have been kinda overwhelmed w/ medical issues. I also wonder if there's any point... If you don't have the strength behind your moves, then can you really defend yourself... ?? Or maybe that is something that would kinda come in an adrenaline rush. I'm kinda a wimp, to be honest and there have been times where it would have been advantageous to have some self-defence skills. Post Reply
ForgetMeNots View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 7 Aug, 2010 01:15 PM When I say unfemine, is what I mean. Most girly girls that I know think that self defense means to be big and strong enough to fight off a man one on one. Brawn against Brawn. Which brings to mind a muscular and masculine woman mental image, which most girls find unfemine and not appealing to encourage them to learn self defense. Also, back in the day, women didnt even need to use self defense in society. Long time ago, women had family or escorts with them, so if any one tried to do a lady wrong, their escort would back them up. But now in a world where women are more independent(nothing wrong with that-*flees from onslaught of feminists*-) women don't need escorts or accept when someone wants to walk them home. Creating a more possible chance of a dangerous enviroment. Self defense though is a resort, whether to use our skills or a weapon to defend ourself. But physical self defense is Not about strength or being strong enough to fight off our attackers. It is about using the momentum of their attack and using it against them,(to off balance them or use equal force with techniques to reflect back) just enough to go home safely. It isn't about being tough and confident(though for those more experienced will ooze it) it is generally to defend ourselves. Guys know how to punch without bragging, some girls know how to do so too. :) Post Reply
ForgetMeNots View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 7 Aug, 2010 02:10 PM *unfeminine Post Reply
View Profile History	standing up for one's self Posted : 10 Aug, 2010 06:12 AM I guess self-defense courses might be usefeul. Might. I took such a course at the university some time ago, and well - nothing ever happened to me so that I would have to make use of the skills I've learned. Without having the opportunity to practise after a couple of years I simply forgot almost everything - like how to grasp someone's hand, how to kick, how not to let them overwhelm you. I've no idea how to do it in theory, let alone in practise. The only things that I still know is that one must stand firm on their two feet astride in order not to lose balance, and to say 'NO' very loud so that they think I am not frightened. But that's pure theory. How can I convince anyone I am not afraid if in reality I am scared to death? How would you guys teach me to defend myself when attacked by, say, three tipsy guys with knifes? I just pray that God will keep me in the shade of his wings. And I avoid dark alleys. Post Reply

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