Author	Thread: I'm in the red
Admin	I'm in the red Posted : 24 Aug, 2010 09:11 PM I joined this site in hopes to meet some cool christian women and if it goes further than a friendship then thats fine. When I see someone I'm interested in I read their profile and respond to something they wrote. I look at my sent box and see nothing but red but nothing in my inbox. i dont write stuff like hey whats up baby , or anything like that. I just dont understand why its so hard for a guy to get a reply....Just frustrated I guess. I know some women get tons of messages but I still dont understand...I mean am I doing something wrong? Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm in the red Posted : 24 Aug, 2010 09:14 PM what you are doing is expecting too much. Have a mindset that the one you end up with probably isn't even on this site, so take this place lightly and you'll feel better about the possibilities. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	I'm in the red Posted : 24 Aug, 2010 09:25 PM Lots of people hardly ever log onto this site. Making sure you're only messaging active members should help. Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm in the red Posted : 24 Aug, 2010 09:34 PM I'm in the black camisole with pink spaghetti straps, gray sweats, and this goofy black knit headband in my hair :goofball: I responded to your message! And I know it wasn't that kinda message, but I did respond =) And I NEED to get back to my writing!! Soon. I'm a very distracted writer. Blah. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	I'm in the red Posted : 25 Aug, 2010 01:21 PM To be honest with you hoss, I dont think sites like these are God's best in finding a mate. I question there effectivness. I mean we love God more by getting to know Him. It stands to reason that we would find that certain someone, by being in proximity of him/her. :bunny: Eccl 9:11, I have observed something else under the sun. The fastest runner doesn't always win the race, and the strongest warrior doesn't always win the battle. The wise sometimes go hungry, and the skillful are not necessarily wealthy. And those who are educated don't always lead successful lives. It is all decided by chance, by being in the right place at the right time. Proverbs 16:33 33 We may throw the dice, but the Lord determines how they fall. So dont be discouraged, man. Our God is for us and if we let Him He will steer our course. Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm in the red Posted : 25 Aug, 2010 08:25 PM Try not to be discouraged, David. One of the things about this site is that you can't tell how old a profile is. And many who have profiles they may check, don't log in regularly. Keep trying, keep praying. Post Reply
carmi View Profile History	I'm in the red Posted : 27 Aug, 2010 07:40 AM No, we women don't get tons of messages, just tons of winks:yay: But don't feel distressed, most women are too shy to write first and so wait for the men to do it ( with no results :laugh:) Pray and ask God for her. He answers.:prayingm: carmi Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm in the red Posted : 27 Aug, 2010 08:19 PM I've been where you are, writing messages to women, seeing that they've read the message, and not getting a response. Its true that many women won't respond, but sometimes they will read the message, wait, and then answer it at a later time. So, I agree with the earlier comment(s) that said to be patient, because they may need to think about whether or not they will answer, and how they will answer if they choose to do so. Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm in the red Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 12:05 AM Me again! I'll fess up and admit to being one of those girls who lets messages sit around in her inbox for several days before responding! Granted, I'm romantically involved with someone now. But, even when the BF and I were just friends, I didn't deal with my messages very promptly. There are a few reasons for that, most of them positive: 1. I got inundated w/ messages around the time you sent one! Before I added that bit to my profile about being unavailable, I would get up to 20 messages a day at times... I would read them right away, but couldn't just sit here and write all day long... So, I'd answer a few and save the overflow for the next day when I would have fewer new messages hopefully! Even still, I have a day here and there where I get more messages than I really have time to answer in a day. This week has been slightly crazy for me message-wise. I usually intend to go spend some time in the inbox after responding to the stuff in the forum here, but... 2. I want to write a lengthy, thoughtful reply and need to think some first before doing that and wait until a time when I'm not multitasking... If I know straight away that I don't want to have any ongoing conversation w/ a guy, or if it's just something that takes a minute or two to answer, then I'll typically respond immediately. So... If someone has messaged me and hasn't heard back in 24 hours, it's usually because I DO want to chat. 3. Distraction. My attention span is sometimes just super short. The phone will ring or I'll get a thought that I need write down before I forgot (I'm attempting to do freelance writing and write stuff down as it comes to me) or I'll get thirsty and run to the kitchen or a message will pop up in my Outlook that grabs my attention or I'm chatting with the BF. 4. I'm looking @ messages on my phone and don't want to reply because it's really cumbersome do to so. I've been in and out of the hospital this month and that was the case for some of the time! So, yeah, be patient! But certainly don't put your life on hold for months while you await a reply :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	I'm in the red Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 04:42 PM I DEFINITLY second what Rabbit said. Amen, brother. When I first started on here it was extreme highs and extreme lows. Now there's nothing. No excitement, no dissappointment, no motivation, no fun. Just nothing. Meet real people, make real friends, and go out and do stuff. If I could I would but I'm deployed, and eagerly look forward to the day when I can delete my account when I get back and have better things to do than camp out online. Hoping somebody is out there (online) turns into knowing nobody is out there (online). They're all out doing what I wish I could be doing. Making friends and doing stuff. Post Reply