Author	Thread: testimonials
Admin	testimonials Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 04:54 PM hello again to all! i have this question that is itchin' me to ask all of you.first of all, not to offend anyone who i'm mentioning about here but i was reading these testamonies on cdff.com and most of them are about couples who have met within a year and the year later they are married to each other.i know & UNDERSTAND that many people on this site put on their profiles that they're looking for a life partner,but my question is that you have only met the person within a year & you have met on the computer & not originally in person. i mean,is't this too soon to marry somone?i have always say to myself that you may know someone for the past 15 years and still DON'T KNOW them since all of us had or has a bad side. Post Reply
View Profile History	testimonials Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 07:03 PM I think a lot of people turn to the internet dating scene as a sort of �last resort�. It is such a vast, crowded playing field and a lot of people are still judgmental of people who find partners online. With that said, by the time a lot of people make it to a dating site they have already been feeling lonely and been searching for a while and are even desperate to find somebody. I definitely think there would be way fewer divorces if people took more time before getting married, or stopped and looked at their reasons for wanting to find somebody. There are a lot of variables that would make people want to get married quickly: green card marriages, biological clocks, pressure from family, racing your friends to the altar, and I�m sure countless others. All that aside, there still seem to be couples that meet, fall in love, and marry right away and last. A benefit of online dating is all that you can really do with the person within the confines of the internet is talk, and I don�t know if other people feel this way, but I feel like I can be way more honest when writing online than in talking to someone in person. Not that I lie more in person, but I am far more open and willing to talk about things when in the low-pressure internet environment. Also, CDFF needs users, and a commodity people today value in the information age is SPEED. If you can get your extra value meal in under two minutes, why not your spouse in under a year? Seems like a good advertising tactic to me. :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	testimonials Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 07:37 PM Cyilii,thankyou! i agree with on that people who meet each other in a short period of time MAY BE together longer than those couples who EVEN grow up as friends,but when reading those testimonials,you got to wonder if these marrages WILL LAST.But as the saying goes "what God put together let no man..." you know the rest. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	testimonials Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 06:05 AM I know what you mean...it seems like one year before marriage to someone you met online seems fast. It could happen, especially if the people lived close enough to meet in person very soon, and really hit if off well from the beginning. I personally would want to take things a little bit more slowly, though. I think I'd like to at least wait a year (until the wedding) from the time I met the guy in person! If we met within a few weeks of meeting online, yes, it could move that fast. But if it was months before we met in person, I'd still want plenty of time to get to know him on that more personal level. Oh, and I KNOW that I could never consider myself to be "in a relationship" with someone whom I've never met in person. I MUST meet someone in person before I could consider that. This is a little off-topic, but I think Syilli had a good point. Syilli said: "A benefit of online dating is all that you can really do with the person within the confines of the internet is talk, and I don�t know if other people feel this way, but I feel like I can be way more honest when writing online than in talking to someone in person. Not that I lie more in person, but I am far more open and willing to talk about things when in the low-pressure internet environment." I say: absolutely! I know that I'm more open when talking to a guy online than if I were talking to him in person. And it's not that I'm dishonest in person...I just might not talk so openly about certain topics. But online, I feel like there is that safe barrier of time, so I can word my responses more carefully (and therefore say what I really mean), and there is also that sense of anonymity that I like because of the safety factor. Unfortunately, this can work against a couple, though. Because they have time to think about what they say, each person has time to try to figure out what the other person WANTS to hear. The anonymity also lets people be different online than they are in person because it (hopefully!) won't get back around to their friends who can verify (or not) whatever was said. Post Reply
View Profile History	testimonials Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 12:34 PM thankyou,all!!:yay::waving: Post Reply