Author	Thread: What does this mean, how do I write back at her?
Admin	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 09:25 AM I am trying to do a positive connect with a woman on here and she has written confusion back at me, what does this all mean, how do I write back at her to get more talking going and a date? I reallt want to see this woman and know her, help me not mess this relationship up with her. Thank you for your interest and for your extensive compliments. I am flattered that you would take the time to write such lengthy messages to me! Yes, I have lived here in WA my whole life. I don't disclose my city until I've known a guy for awhile. I hope you understand my desire to be cautious in that. You don't seem familiar to me, but it's difficult to make that determination without a picture. I rather doubt it was from college, though, as you're several years older than me. I went to the University of WA right after high school, but I rarely mingled much with people in my classes. I lived in a dorm my first two years and in the University apartments after that. With the age difference between us, I wouldn't imagine that you would have been living in either of those places at the same time as I was. Just to reiterate what I stated in my profile: I am unavailable. I've had a lot of stuff going on in the past few months and am taking a break from romantic relationships because of all of it. Additionally, I am talking fairly seriously with a guy friend I met through this site and anticipate that I will be pursuing things there once I've healed from some stuff and am ready to move forward. However, we would not be a good match anyway. We don't have common interests and your "not sure yet" denomination is a bit of a red flag. I would hope that Christianity would be the most important aspect of who you are; as such, you should be knowledgeable enough about it to select a denomination (or, to explain elsewhere in your profile why you're unsure of your denomination). Also of concern is your copious use of "prefer not to say." I'm an open person who desires to live an authentic, transparent life. My desire is to marry someone who is cut from the same cloth. If you're unable to be open about such basic things as whether you smoke or drink or have children, then we really wouldn't get along. I apologize for any misunderstandings regarding my availability and wish you well in your time on CDFF. Post Reply
View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 09:38 AM Hi Eb, Well, just from having read what you put in your post, I don't think there should be any confusion on your part there at all. It seems pretty clear to me that this woman is telling you politely but firmly that she is not available to have a relationship with you. She stated several reasons why she does not feel comfortable having a relationship with you, and also several important concerns she has regarding how she feels you and her would not be a good match. I really believe you need to respect her and read carefully what she has written to you. I know it's difficult when you want something to work out between you and another person, but it's very important to respect another's wishes. She has been honest with you, and I think she has been very kind and clear about how she feels. You can't make someone like you no matter how much you may like them, and the harder you do try, the more uncomfortable it will make her. I don't know her, but I read what you included in your post from her letter, and speaking as another girl, I would say that you need to now respect her wishes and care about what's she's taken the time to tell you. Post Reply
View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 09:54 AM I hear you, I do, but I know I have a chance for this relationship with me and this woman to be a good one. Her message is so confusing but a good start to knowing her. She's romantic friends with a guy from here, does that mean that I should tell her I want to be romantic friends to, then we duke it out later which guy wins? Does anybody know who is in couples here on these chat topics here, it can help me to know which guy this is. Post Reply
View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 10:13 AM Eb, I'm really sorry if this sounds too forceful or harsh in any way, but I really think you need to respect this woman and her wishes. In my opinion, she has not been unclear at all in what she has written to you. She is interested in someone else, she has real concerns about things that she feels would make you and her a poor match, and she is also working through past hurt. Also, it is my belief that you have no right to know who she is interested in and talking with. That would be an invasion of her privacy. It's not respectful for you to be pushy about being with her and trying to find out more about who she is talking to so you can "duke it out" later. In my opinion as another woman, that is going to do nothing but push her further away. From what she has written, I say please just respect her wishes and let her go. She has told you clearly that she is unavailable, you need to believe her. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 11:11 AM How could you think it's appropriate to post an entire private message on here? Seriously? Either you're not real or you have some serious learning to do before you're ready to be in a real relationship. Post Reply
View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 12:16 PM I did a little research with the clues you gave and the style of writing of the message you posted. Let me guess....she deactivated her account. If this is the same woman I think it is....this lady has recently experinced some very real tragedy in her life lately and is in the process of healing. Had you taken my advice and got to know her on the forums like the rest of us ...YOU WOULD KNOW THIS! Since it seems you can't take a hint or the truth plainly spoken, you leave no choice but the 2x4 up side the head treatment........ YOU CARE NOTHING FOR THIS WOMAN. YOU ONLY CARE ABOUT YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU WANT, WHAT YOU CAN GET. LEAVE THIS LADY ALONE! SHE HAS NO INTEREST IN YOU AT ALL, AND AT THE RATE YOU ARE GOING ...SHE NEVER WILL. YOU NEED TO CHECK YOURSELF AND ASK GOD FOR HELP BEFORE YOU DO SOMETHING STUPID WITH LASTING CONSEQUENCES! Be honest with yourself....is this the first time this ever has happened? You know what I mean....check yourself and ask God for help. Post Reply
View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 01:17 PM This is the thing that turns women off.Doing this blew it with other women here. You should not be so desperate. Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 01:48 PM NO, NO, NO!!!!!!!! your HAD make another thread here about her again?????? THAT's IT!!!!YOU're DONE YOU'RE FINISHED!!!!! YOU DEFINATELY DID'NT READ THE OTHER THREAD THAT EVRYONE WHO POSTED A RELPY TO DID'NTYOU? LOOK WHAT YOU'VE DONE TO YOURSELF!!!! DO YOU EVER THINK SHE WILL EVER TALK TO YOU AGAIN IF SHE READS THIS HERE?? BIG MISTAKE VERY BIG MISTAKE ON YOUR PART!!!! DO'NT EVEN EXPECT TO SEE IF SHE'S STILL HERE ON C.D.F.F!!SHE'S PROBLY DONE BEING A MEMBER HERE!! YOU SOUND LIKE YOU'RE NOT CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF.I MYSELF AM A LITTLE SHY,BUT I WON't NEVER,EVER WOULD MESSAGE A LADY TOO MUCH AT THE SAME TIME ESPECIALLY IF SHE DO'NT EVEN WANT TO TALK TO ME!!!!!!!BIG MISTAKE AGAIN YOU'E DONE!!!!!! AND TO TOP IT ALL OFF,YOU SOUND WITH ASKING ALL THESE QUESTIONS ABOUT IF CAN CONTINUE TO STILL TALK TO YOU SOUNDS LIKE IF YOU'VE SAID SOMETHING TO HER LIKE IF YOU'RE A CONTROLING MAN DEMANDING HER TO TALK TO YOU!!!!! ANOTHER BIG MISTAKE WHICH STARTED IN THE BEGINNING IF YOU'VE DONE THAT!!! WHAT YOU SHOULD'VE DONE WAS TO PRAY TO GOD WHEN SHE DID'NT WANT TO TALK TO YOU & WHEN THE TIME THE RIGHT TIME COMES THE LORD WILL & I REPEAT WILL PROVIDE ALL THE ANSWERS TO YOUR QUESTIONS-NOT US HERE IN THES FORUMS WHO NEEDS HIS GUIDENC AS WELL!! WHAT YOU COULD DO IS ASO DEACTIVEVATE YOUR PROFILE FROM HERE CAUSE AFTER THIS YOUR DONE WITH !!!!NO LADY WILL NOT WANT TO TALK TO ESPEACALLY NOT SEEING A PIC ON YOUR PROFILE!!!! Post Reply
MargoSolo View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 02:00 PM I agree. I find it commendable that she was flat out honest with you but did so very politely. You asked, she answered. Its just that simple. I know this is hard, but one thing I have found in relationships is that no matter how much things may seem to line up, or have in common in your mind, if they don't feel the same way, it cancels everything else out. Post Reply
View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 02:09 PM MY APOLOGIES SIR.I HAVE WRITTEN THIS OUT OF ANGER.I SHOULD ASK FORGIVNESS FOR THE THINGS I"VE SAID.BUT SERIOUSLY,I DID'NT YOUR WHOLE POST BEFORE I'VE READ YOU PROFILE.YOU've got under smoker,drinking & children:"PREFER NOT TO SAY"-sounds like you're hiding something.UNDER denominatrion:not sure yet-sounds like you do'nt go to church- yet.Looking for: a date-you should put looking for a friend because it sounds like you're desprate to meet a lady. If i'm wrong,then either change what you got on there or else you wo'nt meet another woman here.Espesially no pic or zero favs shold tell you something.If i'm correct,then ask GOD for forgiveness. Post Reply
View Profile History	What does this mean, how do I write back at her? Posted : 25 Nov, 2010 02:18 PM I meant to say the Lords' forgiveness.i sorry to you though,but you've got to work this out!!! Post Reply

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