Author	Thread: Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...?
Admin	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 26 Nov, 2010 05:14 PM I've asked some girls out, and they've turned me down. The more I've been turned down, the more I seem to always assume that they're afraid of that kind of challenge and they don't bother to find out what it's like to date me. Is dating a 'deaf' guy that scary or crazy? Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 26 Nov, 2010 05:56 PM People that have lived lives where they were never exposed to this type of disability view it as foreign or maybe like it will hinder the relationship when that is the farthest thing from the truth. If I fell in love with a man with hearing issues, I would embrace him and deal with it, period. Intimate relationships can be richer because of the way to communicate differently. I would not let it hinder me as I've been around a lot in life. Signing and worship dance is one of my passions and I'm sure it would enhance the relationship. Struggle and difficulties come but it's how we respond over the actual disability. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 26 Nov, 2010 05:58 PM It does sound kinda scary to me. When I think of a deaf person, I tend to think of the extreme case where they can't speak legibly, and have to sign everything. I'm sure that's not the case with you, but this might be where a special lady that has already expereinced situations around deaf people - a family member, a friend, whatever - and is comfortable with the nuances that come with being deaf would come in. My current pastor is deaf in one ear and can't say certain sounds corrected sometimes (not often, but it's noticeable), but that would be OK. I don't know, there's different degrees of hearing loss I think, and it would depend. Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 26 Nov, 2010 06:50 PM My first thought would be....what a great opportunity if he happened to speak ASL. Then I could be come trilingual. However, if not to hearing impaired to that degree, then pfft., would not be a plus or a minus. Would be a draw. Ok, so he is hearing impaired. Is he right with God? Is he a good man? Is he someone I want to spend time with? Actually, those are the issues rather than a sense. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 26 Nov, 2010 07:34 PM Have patience and know that God is God and has someone special for you. If she turns you down, then that is not the girl for you. Now, if I was just a bit younger.... ;) God bless you in your search. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 12:49 AM Don't take it personal, that is if you even are. Probably 99.9% of people do not date people who speak another language that they themselves don't speak. I have dated 2 hearing impaired girls, but they could speak english, so didn't have to rely on sign to communicate, but never dated a lady who spoke only spanish or korean if you get my drift. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 06:19 AM The best thing you can do is not make a big deal about it. Don't even bother to mention it at all in the first couple messages, and just slip it in causally that you're a little hard of hearing later. They don't need to know that kind of stuff when you guys are first communicating over emails! Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 06:42 AM I've been really thinking on this issue and have to add a few things. If girls are turning you down because of a physical handicap, don't fall into the trap of ignoring other issues on the ones that do say yes. I've been prone to that myself. I was born with a serious heart condition, and even though guys would date me, none would ever want to get serious once they found out about my "sick" heart. I finally found a man who proposed marriage to me and I married him, but he was the wrong guy, and now I am divorced. So, don't lower your standards just for some girl. Keep God your focus and in His timing, you will find the right girl. I do agree though, probably don't mention it until you start chatting with a girl. This way they can see you for who you are and not for what your not. (Did that make sense??) :ROFL: By the way, I had a heart transplant 7 years ago and am now healthy. I then had a baby girl. I had been told my whole life I could never have children, and I was able to have my miracle. Trust in God becaue He knows the "desires of your heart". (Psalm 37: 4) Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 07:33 AM Psalm37v4 .... then, do you think that I should take the information that I shared in MY profile about being physically-challenged and not driving out of MY profile too ... and let whichever gals who e-mail me back find out about this later on in our e-mails? I put this information in my profile because I felt it was important to be "up front" about it right away, rather than later on being rejected because of these factors that are a part of my life but NOT who I am in Christ and in my personality, in my heart and spirit. Do you and others think I've made a serious mistake to include these truths in my profile ... or is it a different case for me than someone who is hard of hearing? Just wondering? Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 08:03 AM Yes, I would date a hard of hearing/deaf guy. If he was able to communicate (since I can't sign) and I was interested in him in all other ways -- yes. As for profile texts and sharing how much/how soon..... my personal feeling on that is that your profile should give enough information about you so a person can get a general idea of the person you are. But mystery should remaiin. Things should be left out (perhaps job details, hobby details, traveling details, etc.) so that you have something more to reveal about yourself. I feel the same goes with any "challenge" you may have. Whether it be living in a cottage on your parents property so you can take care of them, having a handicapped child, having a wooden leg -- whatever it might be. Mention it, yes I think it should be mentioned. Lots of details about it -- no. Not in a profile text. Those details come afterwards. Just my opinion. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a hard of hearing/deaf guy...? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 07:55 PM Steve, It really is a personal decision about what to put in your profile, but I believe a profile is for telling people your positive attributes. Notice I have nothing in mine about having a heart-transplant, but I am open to talking about it if anyone should ask. I also understand that overcoming a handicap physically as well as emotionally and spiritually is a huge blessing from God, but I think that should be shared after you meet a person. Keep your pictures up though, that does show what you look like and might also open the door to questions. By answering those questions you can share how God has moved in your life. Again...myhumble, personal opinion. God bless, Sue Post Reply

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