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Admin	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 09:30 PM Ok, so I am just back from salsa lessons at a local venue. They have lessons from 8-9 and then a live band afterwards. So during the lesson, one of my partners (you end up switching like every minute or so) corrected me on how I was holding her hand during a turn. I thought I was doing it like the instructor had said but she offered a bit of insight and correction. I said no problem, glad to adjust. Ok, so a little bit of a bruise to the male ego, lol, but that is my issue not hers. So my overly analytical mind got to wondering. If a woman offers a suggestion/correction like that, does the woman think less of the guy, respect him less? She said thanks for being open minded when I was glad to take her suggestion, but still. Is if different if the guy gladly accepts the suggestion? What if it is something guys are supposed be good at, like leading at dancing? Just curious what women are thinking in a situation like this. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 09:46 PM Shawn, as you know I'm not a gal, but would without side tracking your post share something. I'm with you on this question, but have a question for you : You say your male ego got bruised, could she approached in such a way where it wouldn't of left a bruise? Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 09:55 PM Shawn, I love to dance and have danced with guys that would do whatever I tried to teach them and I got a kick out their pliability. Then there are guys that would not even move a foot for fear of messing up and I would much rather dance with a guy that is teachable and easy going. He gets my respect and admiration any day, kudos to you for taking the lessons and being teachable! :applause: Then there was a bigger guy that asked me to dance one night and he knew how to swing dance, which I don't, and it was a hoot cause he dropped me trying to swing me under his legs~lol~woo boy! I got up and laughed and he was so red faced~no biggie to me. Flow with the flow and move on. :dancingp::laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 10:09 PM TS: lol, probably not. but i do recognize that it was my issue not hers. She was quite polite about it. Good news though it was a very mild bruise, and I recovered quickly. lol. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 10:45 PM Nooo... I wouldn't think less of a guy. We ALL need suggestions on various things from time to time. If the guy was receptive, then I'd respect him more actually. Humility is very attractive. Regarding dance, I prefer solo dances, but it might be fun to take dancing lessons with a guy. I'm presently trying to learn bellydancing (at home, with a DVD), both for fitness and for fun. I'm thinking of taking a ballet class next summer. I took ballet as a child and have always kind of wished that I'd stuck with it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 5 Dec, 2010 11:17 PM Wow, you really ARE analytical! It's probably a good thing though, it would be better for you to be too thoughtful than not thoughtful enough. :goofball: I really doubt she was judging you over it in any way, she probably didn't even think before saying it. Although if she said, "Thanks for being open minded," that gives me pause. I cannot tell if that was a hint at her judging you... but then that's her problem. Maybe she was surprised you were willing to take her suggestion. Like the other ladies said, humility and not freaking out over every little thing that might 'threaten' your ego is VERY attractive. So is remembering that women have egos that can be bruised as well (except when it's a woman, we call them 'feelings', lol). Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 6 Dec, 2010 12:15 AM When you know everything, you can get back to us. Until then, a guy who is willing to listen respectfully and take a suggestion is a gem. So kudos to you. :applause::applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 6 Dec, 2010 03:28 AM Well, there are certainly times when women would not respected you if you were willing to change principles in your life, or if you tried to change everything about yourself to make them happy. Flexible is one thing, silly putty is another. What I seem to run into are women that expect you to know exactly what they want, but aren�t willing to work with you on the small stuff. Is there any way you could politely tell a woman that you are willing to work on the �small stuff� without having her feel like you have no backbone? Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 6 Dec, 2010 03:58 AM Cobbler, you could say something like this: "I want to care for you and meet your needs, so if I behave in a way that isn't doing that, let me know so we can talk about it, okay?" Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 6 Dec, 2010 04:21 AM Pixy, thanks for the suggestion.... But, why would "just a friend" say that they care for them and want to meet their needs. They are just friends after all, that sounds more like wanting to be more than just friends. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you respect a man who..... Posted : 6 Dec, 2010 06:14 AM I do not think less of a guy if I offer a suggestion. I believe we should be life-long learners. There is always something new to learn - about ourselves, about the world, etc. If it was offered nicely and politely then it should be received as such (which it sounds like you did). Post Reply

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