Author	Thread: dialogue cessation out of the blue?
Admin	dialogue cessation out of the blue? Posted : 13 Dec, 2010 01:24 AM If any ladies can provide some insight, I'd be much obliged... About 2 weeks ago, a woman emailed me initiating contact. I responded with a few questions based on her profile with a little bit more information about who I was - email was 12 or 13 brief lines long. She responds a couple of days later, answering all of my questions, and asked me about 3 or 4 questions. I respond a couple of days later answering her questions and asking a few more. She's been online pretty much every day (at least that I've logged in) but not a peep from her and it's now been over a week. Since she initiated contact, I found her photos and her profile attractive, and our dialogue was seemingly flowing smoothly, I emailed a 2 sentence follow-up earlier today just saying that I hoped final exams went well for her. If you all need more detail, let me know - ANY insight into this weirdness would be appreciated. Every time I lose interest or become busy I always make it a point to shoot the person a brief email within 5-7 days explaining my situation and wishing them well. Is that not the norm for online dating? Clearly I'm new at this and would love some insight from female Believers. Is it something I did? Or just a case of a person who lost interest pretty quickly and didn't deem a brief "good luck" worthwile? Cheers, Cotton Post Reply
View Profile History	dialogue cessation out of the blue? Posted : 13 Dec, 2010 06:11 AM Cotton: I'm sorry to say your experience is common. Men and women do it. It is very likely not anything you said or did. For whatever reason, she lost interest. And did not say anything to you. Yes, it is a rude way to treat someone, and you would expect better treatment from folks on a Christian site. It has happened to me, and many others on here. Keep praying and seeking God, and thank Him for protecting you from folks who treat others like that. God's blessing on your search. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	dialogue cessation out of the blue? Posted : 13 Dec, 2010 08:33 AM What caused her to stop messaging you? She lost interest. Why did she lose interest? Who knows? The best thing to do is just not dwell on it. Go message three other girls. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	dialogue cessation out of the blue? Posted : 13 Dec, 2010 08:34 AM It's very common. I've had it happen several times. It's quite frustrating, especially when the conversation seemed to be going really well! Then there are the conversations that just die, and don't really need any explanation from either person. Post Reply
View Profile History	dialogue cessation out of the blue? Posted : 13 Dec, 2010 10:26 AM When people don't have to look you in the face, it gives them the freedom act however. How they handle such freedom is a clear indicator of who they are. So you see, it is not a curse, but a blessing; it is not what people say, it is what people do that makes them who they are. Post Reply
View Profile History	dialogue cessation out of the blue? Posted : 13 Dec, 2010 05:30 PM OK, so I'm probably a guilty party of this on the other end. I don't feel like I need to give a response saying I've lost interest - I wouldn't do that in person, why would I do it in email? Yes, they can't see my body language, but if I'm talking/emailing a guy and he stops asking questions, and only is answering ones I've sent (which has happened several times), then I know he's not interested. It is frutrating, but I think just on the level that he didn't remain interested. I'd probably get a little offended if he sent something that said point blank that he wasn't interested instead of letting it die. I seem to be on the wrong side of each of the posts today. Post Reply
View Profile History	dialogue cessation out of the blue? Posted : 13 Dec, 2010 10:44 PM Ah, Tulip beat me to it. Email other chicks. Don't get attatched, just have fun. Post Reply