Author	Thread: When to make a move
cmhoranb View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 5 Mar, 2011 12:17 PM So I'm planning out a third date with a girl who I really like, and feel somewhat confident she's into me as well. Our talks have been great, there's laughter, if a certain day doesn't work for a date, she's quick to offer another suggestion. So I really want to do things right. She's expressed an interest in taking things slow which I can respect and appreciate. My only fear is taking things too slow and having her think I'm a wuss or not interested in something holding her hand or kissing her. I think she's pretty old fashioned in a lot of her values (again, fine with me, even a good thing) so I can't quite figure out what to do. Do I go for holding her hand on the third date if the opportunity is there, do I shoot for a good night kiss if I drop her off? Should I wait a bit longer and miss the window? I don't really want to keep the 'hug' thing going on for too long. I've also read some girls like it if the guy asks permission first, or even follows up with "Did you like that" after a move was made. Thanks in advance for any feedback :) Post Reply
View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 5 Mar, 2011 03:47 PM Until a couple years ago, I never knew yall be going thru all that!:bow::laugh: I wouldn't ask her permission. I think you are worrying too much. If she likes you, there is no window that you will miss for physical contact. If I were in your shoes, I would bring up the topic of physical contact in conversation. Not asking her if you can, but rather how she feels about it in general. This will give you a better idea of how to proceed and brownie points for caring enough about how she feels to ask. Post Reply
View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 5 Mar, 2011 04:53 PM I think you are quite a gentleman for considering her feelings and wanting to do the right thing. By all means -- take her hand when you go out. You know her -- would she liked to be asked first, or if the opportunity arises and you take her hand, would she like to be asked after? Or asked at all? Can you judge if she likes it by her reaction? Only you can know that. Instead of worrying about kissing her and whether she'd like that, etc. what about seeing her to the door, letting her know how much you enjoyed the night and telling her when you will contact her again.... and then kissing her gently on the cheek? Just a suggestion. Babygirl's was good too. Post Reply
View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 5 Mar, 2011 05:18 PM If you have to ask, you're in a close enough relationship. Since she has already stated she wants to go slow, I would recommend that you try holding her hands first and see how she responds to that, before trying to kiss her. Post Reply
View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 5 Mar, 2011 08:30 PM Dude, man up and hold her hand! And we want a update! --don't leave us hanging. The only action I am getting nowadays is when my dog licks my ear ! Post Reply
View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 5 Mar, 2011 10:25 PM Wait a minute! Did the horse stop kissing you, Two? Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 6 Mar, 2011 10:00 AM I would like to offer the handkiss (greeting and saying goodbye) which is an act of both chivalry and affection.... and it is safe. If the affection is not appreciate so much, you can always fall back on the gentelman thing without destroying the evening. Do not make it dramatic or theatracal. Keep eye contact if you want the kiss to be a message of your deep affection, bow your head down if you just want to show respect But pleaszzzzzzz under no circumstances you are to wet her hand or wipe your nose clean on it. (and do not think this is a redundant advice) Good luck :waving: Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 6 Mar, 2011 10:09 AM :excited: I thought I had posted the version without grammar and spelling mistakes..... obviously I was wrong. So sorry for that. Post Reply
View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 6 Mar, 2011 10:20 AM Sos, you know, that is a great idea. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 6 Mar, 2011 12:05 PM Holding hands is pretty safe. I don't know of a girl who's interested in a guy who wouldn't want to hold hands with him. If you want to hold her hand, hold her hand. If that goes well, and you see signs that she's interested, kiss her. If not, then hold off. She's clearly into you, so don't worry. Just have fun! Post Reply
cmhoranb View Profile History	When to make a move Posted : 6 Mar, 2011 01:19 PM Well thanks all for the advice. As for the person requesting an update, the date isn't until Thursday, so you'll just have to wait :) Post Reply

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