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Question for all women in their mid 20s to early 30s
Posted : 22 Mar, 2011 12:17 PM
Hi my name is Jason. I am a seminary student. I been trying to communicate with some ladies hear, but only get little or no response. I know I am not perfect. I am kinda busy at time, but I come here sometimes to see if I could meet someone, but having no luck. Ok, I may not be very easy to look at or attractive, look at my profile pic and pic me out. What do you think? I deleted my main text in my profile. I believe God looks at the heart. I am hoping for more consideration and prayer. God bless.
Question for all women in their mid 20s to early 30s
Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 07:08 AM
OK, the first thing I would do if I were you is put up some more personal info in your profile text. I know that I would not even begin to consider communicating with someone who has no personal profile text.
Second, find a better picture of yourself. Preferably a picture with no one else in it. Your current picture is grainy and small, and the other people in the picture are distracting. Also, get a couple of different shots of yourself. At least one close-up is good, and a whole-body (or at least waist-up) shot is another good one to have. If you can be having fun or doing something important to you in the pictures, that's even better because it shows a more realistic view of who you are.
Once you've done that, we girls can give you better advice about your profile. Oh, and even with a great profile and picture, you still might not get many responses. It's just the nature of dating sites, it would seem. Don't get discouraged when girls don't respond; just move on to the next one.
Question for all women in their mid 20s to early 30s
Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 07:54 AM
Hi Jason,
This is actually my response to someone else on this site who was asking similar questions.
Not to say that you're needing encouragement - I just figured it wouldn't hurt to pass the message on...
To whomever,
Keep your confidence in the Lord where it belongs, and never ever place your confidence in the responses of others around you (in this case, potential relationships). People are like mirrors, and we often unknowingly view ourselves through them, which can be a huge mistake. Instead, view yourself through the Word of God, and trust HIM that as you seek Him first, HE is more than capable of adding everything you will ever need to accomplish HIS purpose in your life.
Also,
God could have created Eve in the very beginning, right? But He didn�t. Instead, God waited till Adam was actively involved in the work that HE had called Adam to do. Like Adam, as you give yourself faithfully to the work God has called you to, God will prepare for you a helper just as He did for Adam - it is likely He�s preparing her now.
One more thing,
You may have already done this, but just in case you haven�t - begin to remember your bride to be in your prayers�by faith :winksmile: that the Lord would be with her, keep her and bless her as He prepares her to serve by your side!
The Apostle Paul said that the approval of men (meaning women and men) meant absolutely nothing to him!
Why?
Because it is God's approval that is the ONLY approval that matters - and it is HE that reigns and provides that which is needed!
Another thing,
We ALL have to resist the continual temptation to alter or change ourselves in any way in order to gain the approval of the opposite sex. As soon as anyone makes a move in this direction, they are no longer looking to the Lord to provide for them, and instead they begin looking to the approval of men (or women) = no longer walking by faith / a move to save our own lives. And believe me, we want a spouse to be "added unto us" by the Lord, and that by faith. We do NOT want a wife added unto us by our own hands = unless the Lord builds the house (our lives), the builder builds in vain! ;)
God is going to cause us to walk by faith...so that we will be able to lead and give hope to others in the ministry.
Question for all women in their mid 20s to early 30s
Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 08:02 AM
I just realized that I failed to answer your question: "What is more important the heart or the appearance?"
The heart is far more important than the appearance. No question about that. But keep in mind that on a dating site, all we have to go on is your "appearance" on your profile. That includes everything you say about yourself in text, pictures, and in the short answer section. Try to show your heart through those.
Question for all women in their mid 20s to early 30s
Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 09:37 PM
Hi thanks for the advice. I posted my testimony in my profile. I kept changing it, as well. Also I put my other profile pic back up as my main picture. I am not really a type of guy that turns the eyes of women.
Question for all women in their mid 20s to early 30s
Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 11:52 PM
Jason,
Thank you sooooo much for re-posting your testimony! Reading it just about brought me to tears - okay, maybe I actually had a tear. :rolleyes: But more importantly, reading your testimony encouraged me greatly to continue in the direction I know the Lord has called me in for many years.
You know,
The Lord had to bring infirmities into my life as well. Not outwardly, but inwardly - until HE was all I had left (even though HE was all that I'd ever had :winksmile: ). To be honest, without the trials that God allowed into my life, I wouldn't have come to know Him...
Thanks again Jason.
It was a true pleasure meeting you through your testimony!
Question for all women in their mid 20s to early 30s
Posted : 24 Mar, 2011 05:14 AM
Jason, that is SO much better! :applause:
The picture is much clearer, but even more than that, the profile text is excellent. I think that it does show your heart. If you want to take it step further, you might add one paragraph that tells more about your interests and hobbies; you could also do this under the "interests" section. You say you are interested in "Bible, sports, preaching, reading." What sorts of sports? Do you prefer to watch sports, or do you like to be the playing the sports? Do you read mostly non-fiction, or do you like fiction too? Who are your favorite authors? This can all be said in just a few words, but it could make a big difference.
I can't promise that you'll have any better luck on here with the updated profile, but I think you at least have a far better chance! (I've been on here since mid-2009, and I've tried several different profile approaches. I've made some friends, but the best "romantic" offer I've gotten was a marriage proposal from some guy in Egypt!)
