This is a general question that I pose and is in no way a reflection on my ability to be romantic or the fact that I am a romantic nor my interest in romance a man.
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This is probably one if the more intriguing questions to me, but I think each girl has her own view.
What is romance to you? What makes you melt?
I also think every guy has his different view of what it means and how to be romantic. I mean there are basics that I think every GENTLEMAN should know, but that may not always be the case.
The other part is what do you do if the guy your seeing really tries, but it just does not interest you? How do you handle that?
What a good question. What is romance to you, ND? And what makes you melt? I think you forgot to answer your question.
For me, a man is truly charming if he gives me his full attention while talking, and possesses basic communication skills, empathy, responding with accurate facial expressions, etc. If a man knows how to express himself verbally, how he feels, and if he�s a good guy with integrity, is smarter than me (lolz) and is a very kind person...this kind of person warms the coggles of my heart.
Humor is not really my thing, and the funnier a man is the less I am romantically drawn to him. Although I do like at genuinely funny situations.
Also, a man who gives emotionally and expects nothing back is very romantic in my opinion. When you meet a guy who is very open and honest, and respects you but is not interested in making you reciprocate, to be honest I think that�s very cool, and even if you�re just watching a movie together, it can become romantic because you can�t help but be drawn to such a person. Sadly, those are usually the people who want to be your best friend. And we all know what that means. lol
For me nothing is more romantic than a girl surprising me with a juicy, delicious meat-lovers pizza :hearts:
The way to a man's heart is through is stomach . . . true story . . . any chefs or culinary graduates out there? lol
But seriously I think almost anything has the potential to be romantic depending upon the person(s) involved. For me it is more about the motivations/feelings of the person(s) involved than the actual activity itself.
It probably has something to do with my primary "love language" being quality time . . . we could be doing something I love, something she loves, or trying something completely new and it would just be one grand adventure to me because we are together!
I didn't forget to answer I was just curious about what different views people had.
Well since I am answering I think there is actually a few different types of romance. I kinda break them down into to 3 types, at least in my mind.
1. Everyday romance.
- This for me is like looking at the person that you married and thinking and saying how much you love them. How they are on your mind even when they are not around. This is also what I would place things like what you said in your first paragraph. Giving full attention to the conversation, actually listening and paying attention, being kind, and considering the other persons emotions. It also has to do with the basics of how you should communicate with others, which I try to do all the time.
2. In the moment romance.
- This one is one that I think most guys neglect in a relationship, but I think is very important to a relationship. This would be more things like buying her flowers just because or writing her random notes just to tell her how much you care about her and other things like that.
3. Intimate romance.
This one I don't need to go into detail because I think this is one that you should figure with the person you marry. haha.
As far as answering what makes me melt is a little more complex, but simple at the same time. haha. I admit to being a romantic and I have not problem admitting it either. The biggest thing that gets me is a smile and a laugh. I really enjoy giving flowers just to see the smile in her face to show her that I love her. To prove that I care without expecting anything in return. That is what makes me melt, seeing that the person that I am with happy and enjoying just getting loved on.
IaoKim,
Haha, food is always good for most men. haha. I understand what your talking about with the fundamentals of love and romance, but I was thinking a tad more practical and I do think that you made a good point at a root level. In some sense the quality of time that you spend with that person can often out way some of the more little things.
I like the little things. Someone who, when they come up next to me while I'm talking to someone, will put their hand on my lower back (the melty thing). Maybe he helps me by chopping vegetables for me while I'm cooking dinner or puts something funny or sweet in my lunchbox to make me smile. Stuff like that.
at genuinely funny situations.