Author	Thread: Why no profile picture?
Admin	Why no profile picture? Posted : 31 Mar, 2011 11:01 PM This one is more of a curiosity, but do you girls often not put a picture? People are more likely to think your a scammer and never contact you. I can understand that you want a guy to like you for who you are, but how can he do that completely if he cannot put a face to the name of the person he is talking to? Seems a little counter produnctive to the purpose of being on this site?!?!? Am I wrong?? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why no profile picture? Posted : 31 Mar, 2011 11:58 PM You're not wrong, ppl just have different opinions about putting their pic up and those who feel the same way, maybe they find each other?? Who knows? *shrugs* My very first dating site I joined (blacksingles.com, back when I was super naive & had high hopes for the success of my new internet dating adventure), I met a guy who had no pic up, but his profile intrigued me. I could tell he was very intelligent and he kept a pic out on purpose, his reasoning being that he wanted a woman with depth and not one that contacted him based on his looks. We spoke on the phone and emailed. He turned out to be an Iranian who had a long term relationship with a black woman (had gone black and couldn't go back:laugh:) and was looking for another. He had a piece of change (wasn't poor) and since he was in Detroit, (not far) was getting reading to come see me, wine and dine me, all that. I stopped the madness when he revealed he had been raised Muslim, had denounced that, but didn't subscribe to Christianity either. He was "neutral" he says. He also was expectin me to whip it on him eventually in exchange for his money spent out. He actually told me this. He was a little triflin', but I loved his honesty. (But how men be wantin' a woman with depth, who don't want them for just their looks and money, but want to see some skin soon as possible??:ROFL:) All that to say, he was actually really cute. Not everyone is ugly or insecure, ppl have all kinds of reasons and motivations for doing what they do. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why no profile picture? Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 06:21 AM Ah, yeah. I am sure many different people have their reasons and I am not saying they are wrong either. I am just curious about different people's reasons. Post Reply
Isaiah434 View Profile History	Why no profile picture? Posted : 3 Apr, 2011 06:30 PM As someone who is looking online for the first time, I am nervous about posting a pic more for safety concerns than anything else. Maybe I'm just more aware of that aspect as a woman. Not saying guys shouldn't be cautious as well, but just my $0.02. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why no profile picture? Posted : 3 Apr, 2011 07:49 PM Thanks!! That adds a bit more understand to this topic. Personally I like to see who I am talking to even if the relationship didn't go anywhere. I am such a face to face person that I feel less like I am talk to an actually person and I am more reminded that I am on a dating site which is something that I never thought I would do, but I am here now so.. yeah. haha. For me, it helps to be more personal and realistic about meeting someone here if there is a face behind some paragraphs. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Why no profile picture? Posted : 4 Apr, 2011 05:52 AM I do have a profile picture, but I've considered taking it down or substituting something more generic instead of my actual portrait. My reason wouldn't be so much for safety (though there is that concern); it would be for anonymity on the forums. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why no profile picture? Posted : 4 Apr, 2011 09:41 AM I did post my pictures, but three weeks after I joined this site, I took them down. Most men are interested in the face and smile rather than the person behind it. I get dialogues like " when I saw your picture God whispered to me 'this is the one for you" or" do you have webcam?" at the first conversation. I don't like men trying to make a home run without touching first base. Taking out the pictures will be a good way to screen the men who will try to make contact. Besides, people are rarely interested in faceless profiles, so it's a good way of taking a time out. Post Reply