Author	Thread: Adopted kids
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	Adopted kids Posted : 6 Apr, 2011 11:57 AM Ok, here's a question for you: Let's play pretend.:applause: Let's pretend your man (or potential man) had adopted a child with a woman (A) earlier on in life. He has never had a relationship with (A) , either physical or emotional. They are simply good friends. The reason he adopted this child was because the child was special needs/special ed, and his friend (A) was a special needs/special ed teacher. The courts did not want to give custody of the child to (A) because they thought that being a special needs/special ed teacher, (A) did not make enough money to take on the costs and fully meet the needs of this special needs/special ed child. So your man (or potential man) stepped in and said: I'll back this woman financially." (Think of someone co-signing on a property or a car lease, if the first person can't pay the debt, they'll go after the co-signer.) With him promising this to the courts, they combined the "couple's" annual salary and decided to go ahead and let (A) adopt the child, due to her "increased financial stability." (Your man has never even met this child, and probably never will, he simply knows that (A) is very passionate about her job, and is convinced (A) is the best person for the job.) Fast-forward to right now: You've just met this guy. You're having your perfect first date, and you're getting to know him, so you ask him: 1. Do you have any kids? 2.Family? 3.Responsibilities? How should he answer 1,2,3? For the sake of argument, he never sees (A) or the child, and will only become financially involved if a catastrophic event strikes (A). Post Reply
View Profile History	Adopted kids Posted : 6 Apr, 2011 12:43 PM So, he's basically like the child's godparent then...? Hmmm. Well, he should definitely mention it to anyone he dates. I think he should just tell the whole story. What woman is going to just be satisfied with a couple of sentences there anyway? Post Reply
View Profile History	Adopted kids Posted : 6 Apr, 2011 12:53 PM Ditto what Pixy said. Post Reply
View Profile History	Adopted kids Posted : 6 Apr, 2011 02:21 PM Tell the person what you just wrote... Better before the first date :) Post Reply