Author	Thread: Local vs. Distance?
Admin	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 12:45 PM I have found myself in a conundrum here. I have found that there are not many girls in my area on this site that I am interested in and that in itself presents a problem, but that is not the tricky part. I am finding that I have more interest in girls that are hours away and I am finding that I don't message them because I don't know how a long distance relationship would work. I mean I can't exactly visit them every weekend so it would have be on a couple of months bases and I would want to stay in the area for a few days to get the maximum amount of the time with that person, but at the same time I would not want to be spending money on hotels all the time. I have no problem with the driving, but the distance thing concerns me and I sometimes think that that person would be better off getting to know someone local so that they don't have to deal with not being able to see me often. I know I would want to see them as much as possible and I know it also puts strain sometimes on a relationship SO I was curious about what you gals thought. This was also kinda one long thought and that's why there is no paragraphs. Sry. :P Thanks for replying! Post Reply
Phoebe2 View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 02:16 PM I dated a guy who lived in a different country, oceans & mountains away but we thought it's worth it & we managed. Of course u need to think of finances, and arrange for long vacations to spend together; yes, we were longing to spend time together, look the person in the eye, hug, and share life activities as normal couple would do. Some people aren't cut for the long distance relations, and that's okay to know what u need, can or can't handle. Post Reply
View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 02:46 PM Thanks, that is helpful. I guess my bigger concern is about the the girl than myself. I know I would be ok with the situation, but if it is going to be too taxing on the girl I interested in than I would rather that girl be with someone else and save her the stress. I mean I would even consider taking a job outside of my expertise if the relationship got to that point to where I would want to be closer to her. Post Reply
IaoKim View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 03:42 PM How does that song go? Ain't no mountain high, ain't no valley low, ain't no never wide enough baby . . . :yay: But seriously any relationship takes effort, patience, understanding, commitment, and love. A long distance relationship requires an extra measure of all five. Post Reply
View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 04:04 PM IaoKim, HAHA!!! I know what you mean and it makes sense. I just want to make sure that I don't put any girl in a bas position with the whole long distance thing. I mean I know there is video chatting and may other ways to communicate, but being in that persons presence is a hugh difference. Post Reply
View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 04:14 PM A lot of girls don't mind long distance relationships, I don't believe I would mind. She's definitely out there, I would really just go with God, and with faith. Communication can really change things a lot. Post Reply
View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 04:23 PM Hmm... long distance relationships only worked for me when I had already met the person previously, and we managed to kept our fires burning somehow after that. I'm not saying to wait on falling in love till after marriage is consummated, that's being a little too careful. But until you've gotten to know the person on a face to face level, which excludes web cam, you haven't really gotten to know the person enough. I think? Post Reply
View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 04:35 PM Rachel, Thanks for the input. It is good to know that there are girls out there that can handle it. Live, I was referring more of being able to maintain the relationship and I would definitely meet them face to face and go on a date before I consider going beyond talking and making it a serious relationship. I totally get what your saying which is part of the reason that I started this topic to begin with. I have thought about stopping looking on this site for some and maybe checkout what my parents church has to offer because I am not really interested in most of the girls at my church. Post Reply
View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 05:09 PM Yes I know what you mean, about things being difficult. Live is definitely right there. I really do think two people dedicated to making it work -can- make it work, though. Praying together, and studying together in the word, and composing long e-mails to each other and talking about meeting can really make a long distance relationship more "easy", if you will. It just really requires everything IaoKim mentioned before. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 10:06 AM You know...Indy isn't THAT far from you...:winksmile: Post Reply
View Profile History	Local vs. Distance? Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 03:31 PM Tulip, you have your matchmaking hat on again, don't you? Post Reply

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