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Posted : 7 Nov, 2014 08:47 PM

What is your opinion on arranged marriages?

Does it exist even among christians?

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Posted : 7 Nov, 2014 09:42 PM

Arranges marriages are great, because your mom abs dad are going to pick the best they can. They don't want ugly grandkids, I assure you.



Arranges marriages would rid people of a lot of needless complications. Of course, in the west, we are too liberated to be wise and think about actual results from bad choices. You might be a bad judge of character, but your mom and dad aren't quite as love blind.



Blessing. :-)

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Posted : 24 Nov, 2014 04:07 AM

Hi i 'm 100 % for. Because i'm convinced that God is the perfect match maker. He is the one who arranges marriages. E.g Isaac n Rebecca

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Posted : 4 Dec, 2014 10:33 PM

What michael.swift said ^^

I agree.

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Posted : 4 Dec, 2014 10:41 PM

Arranged marriages have statistically lower failure rate than regular love marriages. So, the numbers support it.

It is not being practiced by Christians today. At least, I don't know of any community that practices it. It would be neat. Sometimes I wish my parents had picked a mate for me. First of all, I wouldn't be single now. Secondly, I have wasted soooo much time and money and energy trying to look for the right person, and I wish someone else had done the searching for me. Of course, there are professional matchmaker services, but those are pricey, and only the super wealthy can afford them.

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Posted : 6 Dec, 2014 05:55 PM

In the US, arranged marriages DO exist, amongst a small number of very conservative homeschoolers, who want to return to a "Biblical" way of doing marriage.



In my opinion, the results aren't pretty. Particularly when they involve over-controlling parents who want to dictate every aspect of their adult children's lives.



I realise that in some cultures, arranged marriage is just a normal part of life, and I respect that. But I could, personally, not submit to an arranged marriage, nor would it be wise to try to push it on those whose culture has never fully embraced it.



First off, because the only one whom I fully trust to find the right sort of spouse for me is God. I need His leading, not my parents' or my friends. (Not that my parents aren't great. But every time my dad has kiddingly pointed out certain guys or said, "What about so and so?" my immediate reaction has been to gag. :)



Secondly, I can't imagine spending my life with someone whom to whom I am not emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally attracted to. And I can't know if I have all four of those types of connections if I haven't been allowed time to get to know them well. Very well.



I realise that technically, to some limited extent, any one man and one woman COULD make a marriage work IF they were both willing to, even if they weren't emotionally attached at first. But isn't marriage hard work enough, without the added stressor of being committed to someone who has far different callings, outlook on life, or interests than you? And if you're going to be sharing all aspects of life with someone, including the marriage bed, don't you want to be attracted to them and able to ENJOY life with them?

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Posted : 6 Dec, 2014 09:50 PM

CreativeA has several good points.



The only point the arranged marriage has in its favor is the superior wisdom of the parents. And many cultures that have practiced arranged marriages have traded "superior wisdom" for avarice. It can be "how many cows will you give me for her" (tribal people) or "what title does he have and how much money?" (e.g. Pride and Prejudice)

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