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victorious52

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why wait?
Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 09:26 PM

recently a woman i emailed asked me



"dont you think you should give



yourself some time??? I mean thats a



scary thing to not quite be our of your



marriage and now onto the next



relationship."



i replied



"why give yourself time? where in the



bible did people wait before getting



married? off hand i can't think of any



examples , i may be wrong, but i think



this whole waiting thing is kind of



weird, if anything, i think the bible



shows one should not wait, david was



worse than that! he rejected his



marital duties to michal as a wife, but



didn't even divorce her, but married



other women! he didn't want her, but



didn't allow anybody else to have her



either! then there was abigail, she left



nabal dead and went right away with



david who was fleeing saul! she was



willing to go on the run with david! it



doesn't appear ruth spent too much



time before she got married to boaz! i



may be wrong though, can you tell me



a good example of a guy waiting for



some time after a divorce or



separation, or a death, or something,



perhaps you can educate me. guys



really don't need all this "so called



time to heal",in my opinion. if



anything i think it would be good to



have a time to get out and have some



fun, one needs to have good



experiences to take away the bad! my



marriage was over a long time ago,



it's been like 3 years separated or so,



besides the bible says it is not good



for a man to be alone, right?

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Posted : 21 Jun, 2011 09:45 PM

There is wisdom in waiting unless you know that you know, then only time will tell if you really knew.

As for waiting in the Bible, many marriages were arranged so they had waited sometimes their whole life. Joseph was betrothed to Mary but not actually married yet, that usually took a year. And using David as a example might not be the best unless you are planning on multiple wives...lol!

My opinion is this falls into the category of being in tune with God with lots of prayer, however it cannot be denied that sometimes two people "just know"....if I could only be so lucky!

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Posted : 22 Jun, 2011 05:15 PM

3 years of searation is a long time and yes as you say it is enough time to grieve the relationship and to move on if that is God's leading



but if your divorce is not final then you are still married

and i would say a truely Godly woman would not want to be dating a married man...

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victorious52

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Posted : 13 Nov, 2011 09:20 PM

well i am divorced now , so that isn't an issue any more

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Posted : 13 Nov, 2011 09:24 PM

no doubt i think prayer and fasting should be involved in this decision



not to mention some books should be discussed like "men are like waffles , women are like spaghetti" and "the love languages"



now one person did state that Jacob waited 7 years to marry Rachael, but he wasn't married or divorced before, so i don't see how this counts.

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Posted : 4 Dec, 2013 09:11 PM

There also isn't anywhere in the Bible that says to get involved in a relationship right after a failed one but there is a lot written about using wisdom and seeking the Kingdom first. Hard to do when you are always looking for another future ex-girlfriend.

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