What were the Disciples experiences in marriage? For they say, Matthew 19:10, "If this is the situation between a man and his wife, it is better not to marry."
The disciples seemed favorable to divorce until Jesus spoke against it. Then the Disciples decided it was better not to marry in the first place. They must have had some excellent marriages.
No, they understood that Yeshua (his real name, not the overcomplicated translations that lead to "Jesus") HaMashiach ("Christ") King of The Jews who can to save The Jewish people (the gentiles were later on grafted into believing Israel, Romans 11) would never teach against nor delete any part of The Teachings and Law (Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, and Deuteronomy) and The Prophets (Isaiah, Ezekial, etc.) and none of it would pass away and those who taught it and kept it would be called the greatest in The Kingdom and those who loosed even the least of these and taught others to do so would be called the least in The Kingdom (most church Leaders today) as he came to do the Teachings and Law not destroy them and until Heaven and Earth pass away not one part of it will pass away until all is accomplished (Matthew 5:17-19, Revelation).
You also have to know that his audience knew The Teachings and Law and the debated interpretations of it from The Rabbis who interpreted it and told the people how to follow it. Deuteronomy 22 defines adultery as a MARRIED WOMAN having sex with someone not her Husband. Women were considered OWNED by their Men, so a man having sex with a MARRIED Woman was a crime against her Husband who owned her as she is his flesh. The penalty for this is DEATH. A MARRIED Man having sex with an UNMARRIED Woman IS NOT A CRIME, BUT HE MUST MARRY HER AS A 2ND WIFE. Deuteronomy 22:22-29 details this. The concept of "consent" did exist, but it was NOT a "Legal" requirement. All that was required was justice for who the Woman "belonged" to and making sure she was treated fairly (even slaves captured in War turned Wives had rights to).
Knowing his audience The Jews knew all this foundationally, you have to also know that he was specifically talking about Deuteronomy 24 ►
The Scriptures (ISR 1998)
1“When a man takes a wife and shall marry her, then it shall be, if she finds no favour in his eyes because he has found a matter of uncoveredness in her, and he shall write her a certificate of divorce, and put it in her hand, and send her out of his house,
2and if she left his house and went and became another man’s wife, The Scriptures (ISR 1998)
Deuteronomy 24:
"1When a man takes a wife and shall marry her, then it shall be, if she finds no favour in his eyes because he has found a matter of uncoveredness in her, and he shall write her a certificate of divorce, and put it in her hand, and send her out of his house,
2and if she left his house and went and became another man’s wife,
3and the latter husband shall hate her and write her a certificate of divorce, and put it in her hand, and send her out of his house, or when the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife,
4then her former husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her back to be his wife after she has been defiled, for that would be an abomination before יהוה. And do not bring sin on the land which יהוה your Elohim is giving you as an inheritance."
Yeshua said in
Matthew 19
The Scriptures (ISR 1998)
"1And it came to be, when יהושע had ended these words, that He left Galil and came to the borders of Yehuḏah beyond the Yardĕn.
2And large crowds followed Him, and He healed them there.
3And the Pharisees came to Him, trying Him, and saying to Him, “Is it right for a man to put away his wife for every reason?”
4And He answering, said to them, “Did you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5and said, "For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh"?
6So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what Elohim has joined together, let man not separate.”
7They said to Him, “Why then did Mosheh command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”
8He said to them, “Because of the hardness of your hearts, Mosheh allowed you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
“And I say to you, whoever puts away his wife, except on the ground of prostition aka "selling off sexually" aka sexual immorality (not actual prostitution), and marries another, commits adultery.a And whoever marries her who has been put away commits adultery.”b
10His taught ones said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is good not to marry.”
11And He said to them, “Not all receive this word, but only those to whom it has been given,
12for there are eunuchs (castrated, not merely single choice) who were so born from their mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the reign of the heavens. He who is able to receive it, let him receive it.”
People will try to use this to say he called marrying a 2nd Wife "Adultery", but this would make him a False Prophet speaking against "What is Written" The Law becoming guilty of breaking it therefore NOT who he claimed to be. Notice he didn't change any EXPLICIT wording in Deuteronomy 24:1-4. He simply CLARIFIED INTERPRETATION of the wording. He's making it clear that EVER HERE YHWH is telling Moshe to ALLOW this to happen, BUT it is STILL ADULTERY technically because if the Woman is divorced by her Husband and sent away and marries another, and that other Man she "married" dies she is NOT allowed to go back to her 1st Husband because SHE HAS BEEN DEFILED for she has committed adultery and deserves DEATH. YHWH made it VERY CLEAR Deuteronomy 22 that having sex with a MARRIED Woman is ADULTERY and Yeshua is saying this NEVER changed, BUT YHWH through Moses ALLOWED this ADULTERY called "divorce" to happen because of the hardness of Men's hearts (they wouldn't listen nor be reconciled to their Wives), but it WAS NEVER NOT ADULTERY is what Yeshua is saying.
Shaul aka Paul clarifies this even further being a Pharisee and raised by Pharisees himself (Philippines 3 and Acts 23) he knew The Written Teachings and Law (Genesis-Deuteronomy) and The "Oral Torah" the interpretations and rules given by The Rabbis who ruled the people VERY WELL and followed them himself EXCEPT when they were WRONG (he always held the Original Written Teachings and Law higher as Yeshua HaMashaich aka Jesus The Christ did), EVEN AFTER HE CAME TO BELIEVE IN YESHUA AKA JESUS HE KEPT THE LAW BOTH WRITTEN AND ORAL.
Paul said in 1 Corinthians 39 7:
"A wife is bound by Torah (Written Teachings and Law, which The Rabbis tried to override with Oral Law) as long as her husband lives, and if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she desires, only in the Master (Lord Yeshua).
40But she is better off if she remains as she is, according to my opinion. And I think I also have the Spirit of Elohim."
He also clarifies that a Wife leaving her Husband DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE NO LONGER MARRIED in
1 Corinthians 7:
"10And to the married I command, not I, but the Master (Lord): A wife should not separate from a husband.
11But if she is indeed separated, let her remain unmarried or be restored to favour with her husband, and let a husband not send away a wife.
12And to the rest I say, not the Master: If any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she thinks well to live with him, let him not send her away.
13And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he thinks well to live with her, let her not send him away.
14For the unbelieving husband has been set-apart in the wife, and the unbelieving wife has been set-apart in the husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are set-apart.
15And, if the unbelieving one separates, let him separate himself. A brother or a sister has not been enslaved in such matters. But Elohim has called us to peace.
16For how do you know, O wife, whether you shall save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you shall save your wife?"
This is regardless of belief or abuse or anything. The Law is absolute: you are married until DEATH, no exceptions.
THIS IS WHY The Apostles said, "If such is the case with a Man and his Wife then it is better not to marry."
Think about it, if you knew that if you married a Woman and she was bound to you and you were responsible for her actions before God until she died REGARDLESS of if you separated, would you want that kind of LIFELONG burden?
THIS IS A RECOGNIZED TRUTH IN SOME AREAS OF THE WORLD.
According to Google:
The Philippines: It is the only secular country where divorce is still prohibited. However, there is a significant legal exception: Muslim Filipinos are allowed to divorce under the Code of Muslim Personal Laws. For the rest of the population, the only legal recourse to end a marriage is a "civil annulment," which is famously expensive and time-consuming.
Vatican City: As a theocratic city-state governed by Catholic canon law, it does not recognize civil divorce. Because the population consists mostly of clergy and Swiss Guards, the issue rarely arises in a civil context, though annulments are technically possible.
Side Note: Yeshua aka Jesus taught us not to recognize ANYONE as our "Teacher" except him through his Holy Spirit so he wouldn't recognize The Authority of The Catholic Church nor Denominational Leaders just like he didn't of The Jewish Rabbis and Pharisees in Power. He merely said to do as they say but not as they do for they sit on the seat of Moshe and are hypocrites meaning they interpret The Law and rule the people (Matthew 23), but Yeshua aka Jesus himself defied their rules and allowed his Students to do the same whenever Those in Power's interpretations and added traditions conflicted with The Written Word and Overburdened it (like washing hands before you eat and not to pick up and carry your bed on The Shabbat, not that we are allowed to ignore The Shabbat, but not EVERYTHING the leaders said was "work" was actually "work" and sometimes to heal and save life we must work).
Yes, I have used those Bible verses many times here and am thought down upon for it. We think much a like on these scriptures though you use a different Bible translation.
I agree, in the Bible, a man can have more than one wife.
I agree, in the Bible, it is adultery for a woman to have a man other than her husband.
I agree, in the Bible, it is adultery for a man to marry a divorced woman.
I agree, in the Bible, it is adultery when a divorced woman marries another man.
I agree the New Testament teaches that it is good not to marry. (Matthew 19:10 and 1 Corinthians 7:1)
As a matter of Bible teaching, I agree with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
Not many agree with the Bible.
One here greatly speaks against all men who point to these Bible verses.
