Author	Thread: Should You Provide Your Contact Number Immediately?
Admin	Should You Provide Your Contact Number Immediately? Posted : 20 Feb, 2017 03:46 PM Hi Everyone. I would like to know how you feel about someone asking you to share your contact number the moment you meet? What are the pros and cons? What guidance would you give? Men if a young lady says am not ready to share my contact how do you respond? Post Reply
View Profile History	Should You Provide Your Contact Number Immediately? Posted : 21 Feb, 2017 05:31 AM Ladies! Ladies! Ladies! Please DO NOT provide your contact information to anyone the first time they contacted you unless you are a scammer yourself. I could have been a victim but thank God for discernment of spirit. I was constantly being pressured by a contact for my number. He gave what could have been a plausible story about the death of his wife and father, something within me said psychological manipulation. But not wanting to be udgmental I dismiss it. I asked the person how they are feeling now and the response was less than real. The person purport to be a structural engineer yet their English was atrocious (not saying you cannot be that qualified and have challenges with English) but something was very off. The person also accused me of not answering questions I have already answered ~~~~ they needed my contact. The person has since been removed. Ladies you have been warned. Do not be caught off guard. Even on this site God is able to guide our choices. If you feel uncomfortable do not be afraid to say NO or ask the administrators to check that person out. Men! Please understand if a lady say NO to providing her contact immediately it is not a sign of rejection. A good man should be proud that such a lady has boundaries. Both gentlemen and ladies on this site... Please set your boundaries before, they will protect you. Have a blessed day..... Post Reply
View Profile History	Should You Provide Your Contact Number Immediately? Posted : 21 Feb, 2017 05:53 PM Sorry you had this experience. I just wanted to dovetail on your idea of not giving out contact information. Another important filter is the group of men that identify themselves as: Widowed, with children but living with a family member, high paying or very qualified position, live a distance from their children. These men are not real. They will converse with you for a very long time---three months at times--and then will ask you for money to purchase airfare to have their kids come see them or so they can visit them. This is a scam. Some of them ask you to buy them clothes because they had to move away quickly and leave everything behind. OR fix a car. Some expense with a long story behind it. I have never been "taken" by such non-sense. It gives guys who have lost their wives due to cancer or other reasons an extra burden to prove they are telling the truth. As far as contact info-here is how I get around it. After meeting someone I would like to get to know, and we have determined coffee, or a walk is a good fit for meeting. I simply say-same place, same time next.....and name a day/date. No need to communicate until the next time. It gives both people time to reflect on the moment and grow. Seems too many people jump into it too soon. Open their whole week up and see each other daily until they cant think of anything else to say. Then break up. Seems the wrong way to go about it. Anyway-thanks for posting your concern. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should You Provide Your Contact Number Immediately? Posted : 22 Feb, 2017 10:38 AM I would recommend using the email here for a bit at first. Then you can always create a new gmail account just to talk with that person. I have done this more than once. Gmail has a chat app with it. You can google people's names, locations, etc. to research them. Yes, I've done that more than once too. If something seems suspicious, it usually is. That's the Holy Spirit talking to you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should You Provide Your Contact Number Immediately? Posted : 22 Feb, 2017 04:11 PM Thank you so much for contributing URmorningstar. The scammer was purportedly a widower, wife died of lung cancer, father died when he was 15 and mother in old aged home and has a 12yr old child. If it had not been for the Holy Spirit I woud have been fooled. But I've learnt to trust the voice of my Saviour. Post Reply
Chioniso View Profile History	Should You Provide Your Contact Number Immediately? Posted : 21 Mar, 2017 03:23 AM Thank you so much for the advice. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should You Provide Your Contact Number Immediately? Posted : 15 May, 2017 11:30 AM Well, am a guy. And I must say that the activities of these scammers has made dating here so difficult. Many times I have gotten to the point of quitting but something on my inside keep telling me to be patient. I share your concerns about number, I personally, don't ask but would rather give mine. I access this site on the web, so I don't receive messages real-time. So, anybody that wants to chat real time, it's either through Whatsapp or hangout. Scammers wouldn't allow people to identify genuine people and this is a huge challenge dating now. Post Reply