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Posted : 31 Mar, 2010 09:01 AM

Praise The LORD And SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST And GOD Bless you saints of GOD. I already know what I believe concerning this situation, but I ask your opinion. Here's the situation.







A man's wife once met a man on the internet whom she was about to go on a date with but it didn't happen. They both lived in different states and still do. In the process of time, both got married to different persons. One day the husband of this woman who was once about to date this other man, but didn't, found his wife on the internet playing "scrabble" with this man. She explained who the man was to her present husband, but initially seem to be playing with this man kinda under cover (not open to her husband).







The husband noticed that his wife and this man were playing "scrabble" late at night, way after midnight, in the day, ect. The husband took issue with this and wanted the contact to cease, because of the possibility of the evil that could happen.







The wife acted as if she would stop, but continued. The husband then contacted this man and requested that he ceased to interact with his wife. The man refused stating that as long as the wife was o.k with it, he would continue. This began to cause problems in the marriage, but the interaction continued.







The husband then reached out to the man's wife and explained this situation. She didn't contact him back. All of this was done online and nothing by phone nor in person. Now the man whom this husband's wife was about to date before, but didn't became very upset that this husband had contacted his wife and demanded that this husband not contact his wife (though he was still in contact with the wife of this husband). After going back and forth with verbal exchanges, the man stated that he would cease contact with this woman whom he was once about to date, but didn't. This woman who is now married. After some weeks, the husband to whom this woman is now married done some snooping and noticed that the interaction continued. He became so stressed over this that he began to have pains in his heart area and went to the hospital. His relationship with GOD was strained. He became angry that GOD had let all of this happen and didn't stop it as he had ask GOD to do. His wife still refuses to cease interaction with this man, insisting that nothing is going on. But the husband feels disrespected that the woman wouldn't honor his request. Now the woman is saying that she wishes to have nothing to do with her husband. Still refusing to cease communication with this other man and now (she states) his wife also.







Question:



Is the present husband overreacting?



Is the wife and this other man in the wrong?



How should the husband handle this, as he still loves his wife?







I would like to comment after I've heard your viewpoints. Thanks and GOD Bless.

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Posted : 31 Mar, 2010 07:44 PM

No

Yes

Pray. Seek counseling. If his wife won't go, then he should go alone. Ask trusted people to pray about it also. Sit with her when they are playing "scrabble" and pray for them as she does.

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Posted : 31 Mar, 2010 09:27 PM

No



Yes



He should seek counseling and if she refuses or will not cooperate in repairing the relationship then he should divorce her for committing adultery.



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Posted : 31 Mar, 2010 10:31 PM

Yes



Yes



There's a little problem going on with both it seems like. Lack of trust on the man's side, and lack of understanding on the woman's side. Sounds like the guy has serious trust/jealousy issues, but I also think that if the wife was really committed to the relationship she would have stopped after seeing how much it bothered her husband...or at least do it less just to ease his mind about the seriousness of the situation.





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Posted : 1 Apr, 2010 02:16 AM

It seems to me that there was once an "Attraction" between the two (strike one)...





...and now she is "seeing" this "other man" in the shadows (strike two)...





and she has not introduced this man to her Husband and is in essence "Hiding Him" (Strike THREE!!).



That must be some game they're playing that is more important than her Marriage.

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Posted : 4 Apr, 2010 04:23 PM

Praise the LORD And SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST. Thanks for all of your replies.







Simply put, a woman is to obey her husband and love him. Walking in these two would have ended this issue before it became an issue. Yet a man should never allow anyone to come in between him and GOD.







Be blessed saints of GOD, In The Wonderful And Glorious NAME of our LORD JESUS The CHRIST, our GOD And SAVIOUR For Ever and Ever. Amen.

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Posted : 7 Apr, 2010 06:52 PM

I guess...but it could have been innocent enough on the wife's part. Women are allowed to have friends too. My girlfriend's best friend is an ex-boyfriend, but I believe she wants to be with me...and I need to trust her or the relationship means nothing. In marriage the trust should even be on a higher level. Pure partners through everything....and if you start to doubt your partner without some kind of serious evidence then it seems like you'd be setting yourself up for a divorce. Doesn't mean you just let circumstances come up that would encourage bad behavior without saying anything...but...playing scrabble on the internet isn't a big deal in my mind. I wasn't in the situation and I don't know everything...so...I'll be quiet...just my opinion...



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