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DontHitThatMark
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"EMNGS" (Extreme Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome)Posted : 4 Jul, 2009 09:45 PMI have a story that's been bothering me...it's all about a little thing I like to call "EMNGS"(Yes, I had to throw an acronym in here...it stands for "Extreme Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome" if you were wondering). So...here's a Mr. Nice Guy...great with kids, strong, mildly attractive in his own way, responsible, smart/intelligent, cooks a little, principled/good morals, does dishes, doesn't get angry, never hits girls(...or anyone for that matter...and nobody hits him...he's too nice), funny/witty/goofy=not afraid to embarrass himself to get a laugh, good listener(sometimes), commitment orientated, kind/sweet, likes to clean, brave, adventurous, EXTREMELY modest...anyway, he's a good guy and will probably be sainted for his patience. This Mr. Nice Guy in particular is maybe just a little too nice...and also, he doesn't really think he's exactly "prime" material(even though he probably is compared to some of whats out there)...here's a "prime" example. So, Mr. Nice Guy(or "MNG") finds a Ms. Nice Girl(conflicting acronyms here so...moving on). They hit it off right away...she's kinda not too interested "in that way" because he doesn't "seem" too interested, and plus he's kind of a jerk(in the best way possible...he's just trying to be funny...and doing a pretty good job). So they see each other random places for awhile. Run into each other at stores and church stuff. Become friends. Little does she know that he was, of course, infatuated the first time he saw/made her laugh and realized he wouldn't be able to get enough of it. So after awhile, he(MNG) finally musters up the courage to ask her(...MNG) out to dinner. She is slightly surprised, but says "yes" after giving him a little bit of a hard time. He, of course, almost passes out because he wasn't expecting her to accept...but he pulls himself together and manages to walk away without running into anything stationary...much(he does a couple just to hear her giggle). So, the big night approaches...he takes her to a nice quaint, quiet restaurant(or at least it was before they got there). They have a great time... |
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"EMNGS" (Extreme Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome)Posted : 5 Jul, 2009 11:57 AMHey "don'thitthatmark" I'm gonna call you dhtm (an acronym for "don't hit that mark" which just takes waaay too long to write out. |
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DontHitThatMark
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"EMNGS" (Extreme Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome)Posted : 5 Jul, 2009 02:54 PMThanks for the advice. Nice acronym btw...I mean....by the way...but it's not that I think lowly of myself...maybe a little, but I have confidence in who/what I am and what I can do...maybe it all stems from the fact that I usually try to put others before myself(isn't that what we're supposed to do)? Maybe I put the girls I'm attracted to on a pedestal that's too high for me to reach? I don't know...and what scares me is that I'm starting to "not care" and to just accept the fact that the thing I want the most in this life is something I might never have. Besides...much more of this and I'll be such a complicated mess that no one will be able to get close...it'll be too much work. Maybe I just need live with it? Maybe it's God's plan anyway...not everyone gets to have what they want, eh? Questions, questions...:zzzz: |
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"EMNGS" (Extreme Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome)Posted : 14 Jul, 2009 10:44 PMHi! I just wanted to write a word to encourage you. I would not be worried about how you'll act or that you'll mess it up when dating a girl. Believe God for the person He has for you and when He sends her, don't be nervous and don't worry. God is giving her to you and God will keep her. He knows your heart and He knows what you want. Don't feel bad about yourself or assume that you'll mess something or be the wrong person or keep the young lady you date from finding someone better. As I said, believe God for the perfect person for and when He sends her to you just accept it graciously and thankfully as a gift from the Lord and know that He will take care of you and her. There is a verse I like in the Bible, (Prov. 10:22), "The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it." In other words, when God blesses you there is not going to be any bad in it. When God blesses you with the perfect person He created for you, know that you can't mess it up. |
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DontHitThatMark
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"EMNGS" (Extreme Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome)Posted : 15 Jul, 2009 08:22 PMYou get the award for best advice!:applause::rocknroll::peace::bow: |
...choking on food...embarrassing themselves...just sharing life. He takes her home, they agree to do it again at a later date(no pun intended), and he proceeds to give her a nice, big, juicy, passionate handshake "good night"(c'mon...it is the first date...and remember...he's not just "EMNGS"...he's Conservative Christian "EMNGS"..."CCEMNGS"). So this goes on for quite awhile...during which time he has had his first date, holds a girl's hand for the first time, gives her his "first kiss", his first "I love you"(to a non-related female), his first serious relationship....first relationship period...in other words...he starts to think she's amazing...he starts to care. Here's where EMNGS really kicks in...he starts to want whats best for her...and realizes that maybe he isn't. He starts to think..."How arrogant is someone when they think they are what is best for someone else "for as long as they both shall live"? How does this person know that they aren't keeping this other person from something better??" So he gets a "little" depressed, because he doesn't see how he can take this any further without a guilty conscience...and he really kinda wants to...a lot...but he can't...he has chronic EMNGS. So he tears himself apart. Is there a pill for this?? Anyway...here's the twist...none of this actually happened! Wow, I know! You didn't see that coming! This MNG is perty "special":ribbit:...he has a uncanny ability/curse to see/imagine this coming! He meets a girl, they hang out a little, he starts to like her and starts to imagine where this might possibly go. He lives through the first date, first kiss, etc. in his own mind...finds out he's going to end up in that horrible place, and skips the whole thing to save them both the pain(and that's a lot of pain...believe me)! So basically...he thinks he can see whats coming, so...because he's an EMNG, he spares them both the "terrible" experience and starts slowly ignoring her before anything starts...for their own good, right? How pathetic is that? Anyway...here's the real twist! This guy is me! Wow, I know right?! Who's surprised?? I am!! THIS SUCKS!!