The answer lies in the question. How many of you (girls in particular) watched the movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith? Any more, I am not a big fan of movies, and nothing so intense--I have become too soft. This one, however, caught me off guard because I saw a very deep and profound spiritual truth in the plot and theme. To summarize my overview; Husband and Wife are living a lie and the truth at the same time. They have employers, however, who are set to destroy them by using each party to rid the others existence. At some point they figure this out and the last action scene they are together, battling the REAL bad guys....I LOVE how they get in the middle of the room and against the odds, and back-to-back, they overcame. This is marriage, folks! I lost my battle because I didn't have a partner who fought beside me. I wonder how many women want to be in the middle of "that"? Are you up to it? :) It is only hardest when we fight against each other, not with each other....hence, "A cord of three strands is not quickly broken". God, Man, and a Woman.
i'm sorry my brother that you could not save your marriage. I could not save mine either. but the following has helped me. I hope it helps you too.
LET IT GO...
there are people who can walk away from you. and hear me when i tell you this! when people can walk away from you: let them walk.
i don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.
i mean hang up the phone. when people can walk away from you let them walk. your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
people leave you because they are not joined to you. and if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. let them go.
and it doesn't mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part in the story is over.
and you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. you've got to know when it's dead. you've got to know when it's over. let me tell you something.
i've got the gift of good-bye. i believe in good-bye. it's not that i'm hateful, it's that i'm faithful, and i know whatever God means for me to have, He'll give it to me.
and if it takes too much sweat, i don't need it. stop begging people to stay. let them go.
if you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to let it go.
if you are holding on to past hurts and pains let it go.
if someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth, let it go.
if someone has angered you, let it go.
if you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge, let it go.
if you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction, let it go.
if you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents, let it go.
if you have a bad attitude, let it go.
if you keep judging others to make yourself feel better, let it go.
if you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him, let it go.
if you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship, let it go.
if you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves, let it go.
if you're feeling depressed and stressed, let it go.
if there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to let it go.
let the past be the past. forget the former things. let it go. God is doing a new thing in your life.
get right or get left..think about it and then let it go.
"A cord of three strands is not quickly broken". God, Man, and a Woman.
Thats says a LOT.. and that is how it should be.
we are meant to be help mates NOT hurt mates. It is however far too easy to hurt the ones you love the most and by hurting them hurting yourself. we often fail to see that until it is too late..
in an answer I would stand by my husband and fight the crowd
