This tells how demanding relationships could be. In marriages unimaginable sacrifices are made. Sometimes, it takes being out of the marriage to learn how vulnerable you have been and begin to unlearn.
Life is about learning and unlearning.
Being saved we unlearn “the acts of the flesh, those deeds are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like” Gal 5:19-21a.
In Christ we learn “the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” Gal 5:22-23.
It is good to pray for fruit bearing believer for a spouse. Because their minds would have been transformed.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2.
“I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people” Ephesians 1:18.
This tells how demanding relationships could be. In marriages unimaginable sacrifices are made. Sometimes it takes being out of the marriage to learn how vulnerable you have been and begin to unlearn.
Life is about learning and unlearning.
Being saved we unlearn “the acts of the flesh, those deeds are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like”
In Christ we learn “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” Gal 5:22-23
It is good to pray for fruit bearing believer for a spouse. Because their minds would have been transformed.
“ Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2.
“I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people” Ephesians 1:18.
“REJOICE in the LORD, O ye righteous: for praise is comely for the upright.” Psalm 33:1.
The remaining chapter informs the believers of the goodness that becomes our lot.
To praise God is to acknowledge him, it is to fear him and be committed to his righteous bidding. And to invite him into our situation and living.
v.13-15, informs us that He looks from heaven; at humans and all inhabitants of the earth and understudies us. All so that He is for us to protect, guide, bless, and reward us with His deliverance.
I’m glad that you have given your answer, I take your first four words. As it aligns with biblical standards
“But let your ‘yes’ mean ‘yes,’ and your ‘no’ mean ‘no.’ Anything more than this is from the evil one.” Matthew 5:17 CBS
When we bother our lives with others perspectives we live for them. And that’s cheating.
Nobody should be subjected to emotional blackmail which is witchcraft. Love is not pity party.
If couples are together and one gains weight the other should encourage them to lose weight. The obsessed should also know that their looks matter and is getting in the way.
When dating if you say no to obesity, you have not sinned.
To think of it, why don’t we ask all the single nurses who treat people with special needs to marry them because they care for them.
This it right for people to consider what is romantic a ministry?, what should be a love story a burden; a ministry?
I find that many Europeans and Americans from the online stories and attitudes, expect every African they meet on dating sites to be willing or persuaded to date persons with disabilities.
If they are succeeded , most times those persons end up eloping with other lovers.
I personally have experienced the assault online on a different dating site, where a guy had Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenital; this is a complex condition that presents at birth, limbs are missing, his on wheelchair, blind, ..
In his very first text he sent me an advice to go to get visa to come to the USA as his wife. It was odious, my first thought was WHO IS THIS GUYS ADVISER. They are doing him more harm than good.
It is important to first understand that African is not as it use to be. MANY in-country self-made millionaires are now in the majority of the African countries you know. Therefore, the willingness to travel abroad for any and every purpose has reduced.
Governments are working hard to create employments and social securities for the vulnerable and develop the working class.
This is why when Africans are hired into carer shortage occupation roles abroad, you may find cases of Carer Client abuse. The culture is different, they expect appreciation for doing the job; changing adult diapers, discarding the poo, for which they were paid for. The service user expects to be joyfully and sensitively supported. If the Carer is African, the service user may even put up an attitude. Conditions like dementia could also be in the way.
When a person with complex needs is seeking love, I advise that they seek love within their countries it is more practical, less chaotic.
I strongly suggest that friendships should be invested into, to give opportunities for both to relate, experience the demanding nature of the condition before any relationship started.
It is my observation that complex care carers in contact with persons with complex physical disabilities are best support persons, their roles are fixed. It is not impossible for any of them to develop attachment for their service users. Though it is professional wrong to be romantically involved.
It may be possibly to find love within groups for him, amongst persons with mild-moderate physical conditions.
Dear CDFF member, Is it right to force or persuade a person to consider persons with disabilities simply because they are religious. Is the descriptive of sacrificial love? In your opinion is that a ministry?
This it right for people to consider what is romantic, what should be a love story a ministry?
I find that many Europeans and Americans expect every African they meet on dating sites to be willing or persuaded to date persons with disabilities.
Most times those persons end up eloping with other lovers.
I personally have experienced the assault online, where a guy had Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenital this is complex condition that presents at birth limbs are missing, his on wheelchair, blind, ..
In his very first text he sent me an advice to go to get visa to come to the USA as his wife. It was odious, my first thought was WHO IS THIS GUYS ADVISER. They are doing him more harm than go.
It is important to first understand that African is not as it use to be. MANY in-country self-made millionaires are now in majority of the African countries you know. Therefore, the willingness to travel abroad has reduced.
This is why when Africans are hired into carer shortage occupation roles you may find cases Carer Clients abuse. The culture is different, they expect appreciation for doing the job; changing adult diapers for which they were paid for. The service user expects to be joyfully and sensitively supported.
If the cater is African may even put up an attitude, conditions like dementia could also be in the way.
When a person with complex needs is seeking love, I advise that they seek love within their countries it is more practical.
I strongly suggest that friendships should be invested into, to give opportunities for both to relate, experience the demanding nature of the condition before any relationship started.
It is my observation that complex care carer in contact with persons with complex physical disabilities are best support persons, their roles are fixed. It is not impossible for any of them to develop attachment for their service users. Though it is professional wrong to be romantically involved.
It may be possibly to find love within groups for him, amongst persons with mild-moderate physical conditions.
Is it right to force or persuade a person to consider persons with disabilities simply because they are religious. In your opinion is that a ministry? Is ministry romance in this way?
“Let nothing be done through strife or vain glory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.”
There are a few things you want to know about him;
First is he a Christian? Does he honour the Lord God and his Word by bearing the fruits of the spirit. I think this should be your primary concern, before considering him as an ideal date, for marriage. That said, you may not be able to find out if you do not present yourself as friendly.
How about giving everybody a seasons greeting card: New Year, Easter, Weather change, Easter, Christmas? /
You could consider Baking a cake for sharing with all. Or a chocolate box for all to share. Any activity that would allow innocent conversations. You could talk about your inability to pray very early that morning, or that just browse through Psalm 23 the previous morning. That should kickstart a conversation.
Remember the possibility that some colleagues are looking for a fling.
Another possibility is that he maybe stricken by your beauty. Not all men are that confident to say.
What are the Dating stages for Christians Vs circular in the societies?
Posted : 16 Jan, 2024 09:06 AM
I admire that your wisdom is pure wisdom. Many do not know that there are different kinds of wisdom. But the wisdom derived from the Word of God is perfect. Congratulations you have treasure that is hid from many! 🏆
What are the Dating stages for Christians Vs circular in the societies?
Posted : 16 Jan, 2024 09:05 AM
I admire that your wisdom is pure wisdom. Many do not know that there are different kinds of wisdom. But the wisdom derived from the Word of God is perfect. Congratulations you have treasure hide from many! 🏆
