RAC_Soldier

Looking for a Godly Wife

Gender
Male | 28
Country
United States
City
Havre de Grace
State
Maryland
Height
5'9"
Last Login Date
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Age
28
Eye Color
Blue
Body Type
Slender
Hair Color
Mixed Color
Ethnicity
Caucasian
Denomination
Non-Denominational
Looking For
A Marriage Partner
Church Name
Mountain Christian Church
Church Attendance
Every week
Church Raised In
Assembly of God
Do you drink?
Socially
Smoker
No
Willing to relocate?
Possibly, who knows
Marital Status
Single
Do you have children?
No
Do you want children?
Want Children
Education Level
Some College
My Profession
Student and Therapuetic Programmer for now, but I am looking to be a Pastor when I graduate from the colleges I want to go to go to and evenutally start up my political science education to be a Christian politician
Interests
Religion Studies, Video Games, Theology, Music, Autism Awareness, Social Networking, Christian Apologetics, Conservative and Libertarian Politics, Researching, Learning Disabilites Awareness, Coping Skills, IMing, Debating, Philosophy, Science,
About Me
I am a sensitive, smart and quiet young man. I graduated high school in 2011 and I am going to the local community college to study Psychology (which is close enough to Pastoring.) My main life goal is to complete my degrees from a Bible college to be a minister/pastor/preacher. I love to learn about religion, theology, science, Christian apologetics, philosophy, and politics :peace:. I love listening to God-honoring music, and playing video games are my favorite thing to do.

Even though I only drink alcohol with my extended family on special occasions to be safe, I do not need to drink alcohol, so please... do not refuse to message me over that issue if you cannot message people who drink or you can only message those men who “must not drink”. I’m not dangerous at all...!!


Three things you need to know about me is I am on the high functioning autism spectrum, have several learning disabilities like attention hyperactivity deficit disorder (and I self-diagnosed myself with having dysgraphia, because I have trouble writing, typing, but less problems with tying my shoes as an adult) and I want to be a Christian minster/pastor/preaching for a living. :angel: I am a relaxed guy looking for a girl that loves me for me, but loves God more.

There really aren't any good Christian girls that are my type or pay attention to me at my church, despite our immese growth. I think it has to do with my few, but intense interests and beliefs The young adult ministry for our age group is less active with less members than it was many years ago . I'm looking for someone at my spiritual level and calling, but it looks like that's too tall an order for a world of reality. I would like to have things in common enough that we believe the same things (religion and politics,) career goals (you can help me cope with my disabilities and help me pastor my church), we need to balance each other out where there are negatives (like my disabilities that you can help me out with and my strengths complimenting yours in a different way of thinking about it; usually more traditional thoughts, since I am an unconventional thinker) and be best friends despite our attractions to each other. We need to be a complimentary man/woman team that works for the best of everyone and everything!

I am kinda shy around girls in real life so I joined this site, but I am still looking for someone at my church. Unfortunately, asking out women out of the blue with no previous close friendship especially compared to vice versa, does not work well with people to whom you only know face-to-face who are not there to directly find a date. Most people are cliquish, standoff-ish and unwilling to risk being seen or know to be going out with you if they knew you first in real life. The career I'd like my woman to have would be in the speech, counseling, special education or social working industry to help me out with my disabilities but also loves the church ministry like me. She doesn't have to be those things I mentioned first, but I'd like some help to improve my condition and maybe even performance.

Currently, I got rejected by a girl at my church who could have helped me with my disabilities and I was crushed. She probably wasn't the one for me, but helping me out with my disabilities is the most important idea, even more so than being a minster/pastor/preacher. It will be a hard find to find not only that characteristic, but the other needs/wants that I have and probably won’t change. The other things didn't fall into place, but I was willing to accept that for a harsh world of reality that sin resides in. My social mistake was still trying too hard to be a good, platonic friend for her since this happened and it ruined what was left of our small friendship. Now, I don't know what to do since I am not connected with any women at my church, I am an only child, a very introverted male with social shyness and anxiety and I cannot treat any co-ed situation at church like a dating service or event. I think that no other women is viable for me and on dating websites (most of whom are secular, free, and without a matchmaking system) have people looking for sex outside of marriage and for me to send them money because of the catfishing. I won't ever do those things. With my age being considered, I am running out of time to marry and have healthier children (hopefully who will no be as disabled as me) quicker than most men, because I am attractive to older women. Women, who are older than me are more mysterious, intelligent wise, experienced, and mature than I am, which I am looking for. Also, waiting too long can increase the possibility of contracting autism and other birth defects (though we still don't know what causes Autism. ) That’s why I will try to have children before my wife is 35 years old. It is wrong to rush anything, but that facts are what they are.

I am looking Christian Girl who loves God just as much as me, looks to me for guidance, submits to me, has similar interests, hardcore Xbox gaming, listens to rock, rap and heavy metal mostly :rocknroll: a virgin until married, will stretch my intellect and vocabulary, will always find her beautiful and exciting, shows constant affection, interesting personality, doesn't nag, compliments my personality (especially my weaknesses like autism and LDs,) Conservative and Libertarian politically, religiously, socially and culturally (I’m a Constitutionalist, but I believe that there should be even more limited government with Mark Levin's "Liberty Amendments passing into law) is laid back but has control, and who preferably isn't autistic or learning disabled in my areas because I need help interacting socially and staying on top. I don’t want a bossy wife and mother for my children. I like similarities, (I'm not racist or discriminatory but) I'd like to preferably have someone who was Scottish (she would sympathize with my vulnerablities) and light skin tone (from the same basic countries). I defend my lack of guilty-ness (though those traits are not an essential for a successful marriage) in that throughout the history of mankind, females are considered more attractive with light skin probably because they can have more children in the cold weather. Ever since I was a child, I wished that I had more darker skin because those types of males seemed to be more attractive and I got bullied by everyone, including Caucasian Christian elementary school boys for being so pale. It would be better if I married someone from the same country as me and had a similar heritage as me, especially with our religious and political history. However, it is just a nice bonus for the easier location relatability because it is always more about the person. Stuff in common that we would both understand each other and could relate to each other, ya know? We still need to have the same values and beliefs regardless to a certain and reasonable extent. This doesn’t mean that I can’t date someone outside these ideas, it as just typically easier for me to have those things in common. People can date whoever they want, even if they are different, as long as they still love each other for who they are. It is wrong to peer and guilt pressure me to do things that I don’t want to do and call me a bigot. It doesn’t help anyone. Racially Jewish woman can be attractive to me because they know what I go through as a pale skinned person. In fact, the best relationship that I ever had was with a half-Israeli girl from the internet when I was in high school even though she was agnostic. If an opposite or any other trait that they get in another person that they’d love more, who am I to judge if they like someone more who is different from themselves....?!?!! Just don’t judge me as a racist, okay...?? Marriages tend to have more acceptance based on similarities or desired traits over societal re-engineering, ok, but it is not a guarantee of failure or social osctracizement and stress...???!!!!!!!!

My infatuated feelings jump constantly even though I want to settle down with a wife one day because that is a much happier and stablier situation for me in the long term. However, some progression of more intimate/romantic feelings should come with an improving relationship otherwise you don’t want to be in the relationship in moving forward! It should be a “suitably fit helper mate that goes alongside me” (Genesis 2:18).

I've decided I don't want to date anyone who is over 35, because we need time to date, get engaged, then get married, and finally have children. Five years after 30 is pushing it, but I don't want to block people out. Like I've said before, it turns out according to science that the longer you wait to have children, the more likely that person develops autism along with other birth abnormalities. I don't want to curse my children with what I have, but I can help them out with my experiences. It’s not impossible that I won’t end up with a woman that I started dating when she was 35 years or older, but I am just being realistic based on the laws of science that God endowed with us.

It's a well know fact that straight guys wanna really hot girl by their side and I'm no different. :excited: Sorry. I don't care about eye or hair color, but I don't want anything that looks like a man or bald. I'm usually attracted the most to voluptuous women. Voluptous women who love skinny men us the best for me. I love a woman who embraced their gender role/differences given to them by God. This being said, I am not the strongest man ever, but I still embrace fully being a man the best that I can without sacrificing my ability to relate and be sensitive to women and everyone and everything else. It’s hard for me to decide in all this. Similarities are attractive but so are opposites in a way. However, being similar in terms of our looks might be helpful in our marriage bond or I could be facinated by a woman who has a different appearance.

I am a conservative evangelical Christian who goes to a non-denominational Protestant church where our founding creed is "in essential matters of ultimate and final personal salvation, unity, in non-essential matters, no matter how controversial they are as long as those stances do not void a person's salvation, liberty or diversity and all matters should be done with love, consent and appropriateness." I feel like I have researched my political and religious views into a hole (my own grave) by not being able to have a wife who can disagree with and not support me with the exact same views: biblical literalism (young earth creationism) when it comes to Genesis chapters 1-11, complimentarian views when it comes to women being able to exercise authority, preach, teach and pray over men in my church, a double predestination 5-point Calvinist and progressive dispensationalism theology with some views of covenant theology.

Are all matched in saved Christian marriages exactly and perfectly what they are seeking in a spouse? No, certain matches are more beneficial for me, my future wife and us as a couple on the same page, but I do not want to compromise my beliefs in the Bible that are true. It would be a sin to let go of the truth for a lover, especially if there are consequences when it comes to how those sins impact my life and influences around me for the Lord.

I'm not a swinger or player, but I have made mistakes with committing to females to whom I was not wise and realistic with myself about how the "serious and official" relationship was not going to lead down a path for a functional, monogamous and hopefully happy for life marriage with at least some biological children. The females that I dated in high school were not saved or Christian, but I have had some successes with developing friendships with believing women on dating websites and applications like this platform. Unfortunately, I run into more catfish on secular/free/matchmaking system-less dating services and there have been some catfish here more likely because this is a free platform without any dating matchmaking (questionaires, usually) features. No offense to anyone, but I am still saving up some of my money for dating and it looks like eHarmony is the best system for any person to get into a serious, official and monogamous relationship that typically leads to marriage. I do have an account on there, but it there are no systems for connecting me with a woman who can help me cope with my autism, learning disabilities, my interests, theological and political beliefs. To sum this paragraph up, do *not* pressure me into committing only to you because all of my past relationships like those types of relationships lead to failure and me second guessing and faking who I was in the relationship. Yes, I believe that official, serious and monogamous relationships usually mean that the couple plans on getting successfully married in the future and it is a big, world-shattering and life-altering responsibility that should not be taken lightly because of social or religious pressure or past bullying. I am still a virgin and hope to stay a virigin until I marry other complete virgin to have sexual intercourse, lose our viriginity together and have our first biological child(ren) all to ourselves.

Please don't be afraid to talk to me. :applause:
First Date
Some where inexpensive to chat and maybe eat and/or drink without any traces of alcohol as well. If I met you online, then it would probably be a voice call. No offense, but I try to be safe on the internet by not giving away any personal information at first. Dating should take slow, but authentic and enjoying every moment forward baby steps as just friends. 👶 🦵

If we meet in person, it would be after being in a committed, serious and official relationship in front of everyone in our collective lives, we both do a through background check on each other and meet in public. 🖥 💻
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