Author	Thread: Men are simply complicated!
One_Sojourner View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 1 Aug, 2011 11:58 AM Wife's Diary: Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, 'Nothin'..' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.' When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV.He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep - I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster. Husband's Diary: Lawn mower wouldn't start, can't figure it out. Thought this was kinda funny and some of you might get a kick out of this:ROFL: Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 1 Aug, 2011 03:49 PM A great demonstration on why communication is so important. Neither sex are mind readers...so we must either verbalize or write what's on our mind....verbalizing is usually the best. I can think of times when writing out thoughts is abetted option...but not very often. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 1 Aug, 2011 04:00 PM That's the exact difference between the sexes - women will talk a problem out, men won't. I know it's light-hearted fiction, but I can understand the husband's actions perfectly - he has a problem he MUST (we're wired that way) solve and as he knows his wife won't be able to help he's decided not to burden her with it. OTOH, if she was a lawnmower engine expert, he'd probably keep pestering her for a solution. Of course, if the problem was her rather than the lawnmower, he may keep it to himself rather than risking her feelings - up to a point at least, and then he'll tell/confront her about it! Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 1 Aug, 2011 04:28 PM One, I get the Point of the Post, but... I feel that it was a bit exaggerated. Any man that allows something as trivial as a "lawn mower" not working right to Ruin his Day and Night is not "Quite There". Yes...Men and Women have difficulties Communicating but I hope that something as Trivial as that is not Tearing our Marriages Apart! Jill and John got married. John thought this would be a "marriage of the 90's" -- equal roles for equal partners. So, the first morning back from their honeymoon, he brought Jill breakfast in bed. Jill wasn't impressed with his culinary skills, however. She looked disdainfully at the tray, and snorted, "Poached? I wanted scrambled!" Undaunted, the next morning, John brought his true love a scrambled egg. Jill wasn't having any of it. "Do you think I don't like variety? I wanted poached this morning!" Dtermined to please Jill, the next morning he thought, "third time's a charm" and brought her two eggs -- one scrambled and one poached."Here, my love, enjoy!" Jill looks at the plate and says, "You scrambled the wrong egg." "And that's the way The Cookie Crumbled!" Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 2 Aug, 2011 02:44 PM (That's the exact difference between the sexes - women will talk a problem out, men won't) " Ditto " :rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 2 Aug, 2011 03:45 PM That's the exact difference between the sexes - women will talk a problem out, men won't Men will actually resolve a problem, women will just talk it to death. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 2 Aug, 2011 06:57 PM The Cobbler has a Point. When a Woman talks about a problem she is undergoing...she is not nesscessarily looking for a solution from you. Rather she most likely is just looking for "an Ear" to listen to her and to show Affinity to her Problem. I've learned to LISTEN without adding my "two cents" worth. I don't think I am Patronizing at all, but rather just being a Good Friend. I also look for those words like "What do you think?" or "Can you Believe that?" These words (and many others that are similar) are Double Edged Swords that may end up Cutting off your own Head! Communicating takes time and effort to Learn. It is One of the most Important Aspects of a Relationship. If you find that you and your Girlfriend (or Wife) have a good one...Get On Your KNEES and THANK GOD!!! (The previous comments and opinions are strickly those of my Brain and can be changed to reflect Any Woman's Opinion if deemed necessary to my Happiness and Well Being) Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 2 Aug, 2011 07:37 PM I think the biggest mistake is viewing our way of thinking to be right and the others to be wrong. It�s not about the right or wrong way to think, it is about how the other person thinks. Men should listen to women, to give them an ear, and women should understand that men wants solutions, not endless talk that leads nowhere. Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 2 Aug, 2011 08:30 PM My experience has been that men think they have the only solution. They will spend hours 'solving' something that should take a short time because they won't ask for help or read instructions or a map! My ex had never shoveled snow before...I have lived in many states that had heavy snowfalls and have shoveled out of 2 feet of snow before. When I tried to let him know not to throw the snow in front of the neighbor's driveway, he refused to shovel anymore. I see the same type of things at my work. It's like they're afraid if someone else has the solution, they have to keep going their own way to get to the same conclusion...it just can't be someone else's idea. Whether it's at work, at home, or wherever, we should all strive to see the situation through the other's view as well as use our two ears more than our one mouth! Something I continue to work on...especially when dealing with those who are reinventing the wheel for the umpteenth time! Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 2 Aug, 2011 09:04 PM Well thats easier said than done, but how can we see from anothers perspective if we wernt born with it or taught it. For instance do you know it is seen as an offence to men to give unsolicted advice to us. Its like saying "you are not capable, and I don't trust you to figure it out" Men for the most part compartmentalize their thinking...so when we are in our problem solving box distrations cause us to reboot our attention causeing a degree of agrivation. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 2 Aug, 2011 09:14 PM It�s not that hard for a guy to give a lending ear to his wife, all he needs to do is keep his mouth shut. And, it not hard to understand that a guy doesn�t want to express his �feelings� about not being able to figure out why the lawnmower is broke. You don�t have to see things from another person�s point of view, you just have to understand that they have one, and act accordingly. I guess my point is also the flip-side. Guys shouldn�t get upset when a woman doesn�t want to follow his seven step solution to her problem. And, a woman shouldn�t get upset when a guy doesn�t want to open up about how the breakdown of the car makes him feel. Post Reply

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