Author	Thread: Are Those Who Hide...Liers?
Admin	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 9 Sep, 2011 07:07 PM Are those who hide themselves and sneak around to veiw your profile liers? This subjest has bothered me on these sites for a long time. To me it makes me feel like they have something to hide. Like the truth they may be interested, but how dare they tip their hand they may be! To me we are called to be of faith. Faith in being real and of him. Meaning not one who hides, or can't show they may have interest in someone. To me to read someones profile and look at it means nothing more then that. If the Lord wills two people together, he will in faith surly work his will...this I have faith. Then if it is not meant to be which most of the times we view one anothers profiles. There will only be one who is meant and of his will if it is. So why hide and sneak and not be open. To me someone who views my profile and hides the truth they viewed me, is someone I truly feel is not trustworthy. I truly feel lead it creates a doubt in peoples minds. Is that the goal as in desiring a marriage in and of Christ? I say no! The goal is to be open one with another in faith and when he guides us to one another, there is trust. I know many may disagree and this may even strike a bad cord with many, but I know and feel lead that it is truth of and from him. Gods Continued Blessings And Love, David
View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 9 Sep, 2011 07:52 PM My fellow followers of Christ. I did not write this to condemn, but felt lead to because he desires us to live by faith and be open. The things which build trust one with another.I pray it just blesses and opens many eyes....blessings...:)
bcpianogal View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 9 Sep, 2011 08:23 PM I guess I'm one of those who hides. If that makes me a liar, then so be it. My reason for "hiding" the fact that I've viewed a profile is perhaps a little different than you might think, though. When I first joined this site two years ago, I never "hid" when I was searching through profiles. And I looked at MANY profiles. When I read their profiles, I found that I simply was not at ALL interested in most of the guys. But you know what? Those guys would contact me just because I viewed their profiles. When I tried to explain that yes, I'd viewed their profiles, but no, I didn't think they would make a good match, several of them got rather hateful. Apparently they assumed that if I viewed their profiles, that meant that I HAD to be interested. After several unpleasant incidences, I finally chose to "hide" when I viewed profiles. Now, when I see a profile that I find interesting, I use a more direct approach: I send a message, wink, or "unhide" myself temporarily...my exact strategy depends on the level of interest. The fact that I'm here primarily for the forums is another reason that I tend to hide myself when viewing profiles. If I'm not especially looking for someone to date, why does it matter? In spite of it's downsides, I will give one story of how not hiding turned out to be a good thing in my early days on this site. I viewed a guy's profile and liked it OK, but didn't message him because he lived several hundred miles away from me. A couple days later, I got a message from him. He thought we'd have a lot in common, and wanted to know if I'd like to chat sometime. We messaged back and forth for a couple weeks, then finally managed to connect via the IM feature on here. We DID have a lot in common. Eventually, we moved from CDFF to Facebook and Skype. Of course, the distance kept us from being more than online friends. We got to meet in person a year later, but only for a couple hours. We kept in touch online and over the phone for another year. Then, this past summer (two years after I viewed his profile), we managed to spend about three days together. We still aren't dating because of the distance, but we have gotten to be good friends. If I had "hidden" when I viewed his profile, we might never have connected. BUT. That seems to be a rare exception, and I don't regret the fact that I DO hide now.
View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 9 Sep, 2011 09:21 PM "Are those who hide themselves and sneak around to veiw your profile liers?" Interesting question you pose David, ironic even considering your main profile picture is not your likeness but that of a poster depicting a cowboy up against the backdrop of the setting sun, lol. (To be fair, you do also post a picture of your likeness and that can be seen once your profile is accessed.) You state, "TO ME to read someones profile and look at it means nothing more then that." For you, I dare say it DOES simply mean just that. However, you have to realize not everyone adheres to this same mentality. Some believe the mere action of viewing their profile is in itself indicative of ongoing interest not simply initial interest. Additionally, some of these people after seeing their profile has been viewed will take it upon him/herself to contact the viewee. Depending upon HOW this contact of email or wink is received by the viewer, it can turn out to be advantages to both, or in other instances not advantages to either one. Oh well, nothing ventured, nothing gained. You also offered this up, "So why hide and sneak and not be open. To me someone who views my profile and hides the truth they viewed me, is someone I truly feel is not trustworthy. I truly feel lead it creates a doubt in peoples minds." That statement makes no sense to me at all and here's why... if someone has viewed your profile using the HIDE feature, you would NOT even know they have done so. To that end, how would you know whom to distrust if you cannot know who has viewed you? If the action of viewing your profile is hidden, can this truly create doubt in your mind if you cannot attach that doubt to an actual person's actions? I, like you, believe if the Lord wills two people to be together, they will invariably end up so. Unlike you, I don't attach opprobrious conduct to those that use the HIDE feature when they peruse profiles. People have their reasons for doing so and without knowing their intent how can you judge their actions negatively? Whilst I don't agree at all with your premise regarding the HIDE feature...since CDFF does in fact offer it, I have no problem with those that use it. What I do find problematic here are several people that use multiple profiles. One moment they are "andersgodschild" the next they are "i_have_herpes". You would think if such a person is going to go to the effort of making another profile, they would at least have the good sense to choose a name that would entice a member of the opposite gender to view them...not outright REPEL them :ROFL:. I guess THAT is another topic for another thread another day, lol. Lastly, given this is a christian website, we can only hope that the majority of people that register to use this site will have in common similar christian ideals, faithful followers of Christ and his word and to that end exemplary in their conduct and treatment of each other.
View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 10 Sep, 2011 05:33 AM No. Are you kidding me? No, absolutely not. Setting boundaries is not the same as actively lying. Stop putting false guilt on people.
JourneyCC View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 10 Sep, 2011 06:43 AM Judge not, lest ye be judged.... Not to mention, God is the only true judger. As a woman I agree with the above poster that stated men get very defensive when you view their profile and then aren't interested in them. This saves a painful step for them. I don't hide, because I view only a few profiles, but if I did, I would hide as well. I can see you have strong feelings about this, and it's very black and white to you. HOwever, I've found in life, very few things are truly black and white ......except what is printed in the Bible, and the bible doesn't touch on "hiding" profile observations. And clearly, hiding on an internet site for beneficient reasons, is clearly nowhere not lying, well not the Lord's definition of lying (even if it might be yours). PS- To answer your question, no I do not view the men that hide from me as liars, nor sneaky, nor of maleficent intent. Not all men can be as bold and extroverted as I am. It's not fair for me to expect my values to be imposed on them :angel:
View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 10 Sep, 2011 07:31 AM Hey Equally, I "Saw" you in a "Public" Place the other Day. I Looked right at you. I must have "Looked" for at least a "Few" Seconds (it's not Often I see a Cowboy on a Horse). My Question to You is: "Am I a Lier (sic)?" by not coming up to you and Telling you that "I Looked at You"? This is (in a Sense) a Public Forum. You Place your Profile for "Public Veiwing". If I wanted to...I could DownLoad your Photo and add a Mustache and Horns to it and repost it on Facebook. (Ok...I only did that Once...and I have Since Removed it...my dog Convicted me and made me Take it down) But...do you get My Point? (or is it Piont?)
View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 10 Sep, 2011 01:38 PM No, those who hid are Not liers! I view several profiles most days. However, They can see I viewed their profiles. I rarely hide but I have a few times for various reasons. What, I don't like is men viewing me over and over and not saying anything at all. :laugh: But then, I know I have few some men profiles more often, than others too. lol
View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 10 Sep, 2011 04:12 PM Godsgirl23...Hiding and sneaking around is not setting bounderies....You need to think about your asking and thinking and how you are JUSTIFYING your actions! The Holy Spirit DOES NOT call us to sneak nor hide or not disclose. Im so tired of people like yourself who dont know how to be real and go around JUSTIFYING wrongs to fit your desires. I pray that you examine your heart and seek his truth...blessings...:)
View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 10 Sep, 2011 04:22 PM I think everyone understands the point I felt lead to express. The truth is the truth. Do you all not think it is time to be real and of him and stop JUSTIFYING your own desires and thoughts and START looking to him for faith and guidance. To live in fear on these sights is crazy! We are NOT called to live in fear, but to openly follow him! Christ DID NOT hide, now did he? So what makes you think he calls you to hide and sneak around. Where is your FAITH or sense of openess that you are a Child of God through Christ? To live like the world, and follow the world, you will die in it! I DO NOT follow man or his ways...I follow The Holy Spirit of Jesus Christ who leads me. I pray you all will stop thinking in the ways of the world and seek his guidance....blessings and love in Christ to All...:)
View Profile History	Are Those Who Hide...Liers? Posted : 10 Sep, 2011 04:25 PM JourneyCC...its not about Values! Its about TRUTH!!!

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