Author	Thread: Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked????
Admin	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 11 Aug, 2010 04:21 PM I am a successful man with a budding ministry...I am blessed and consider myself honest and caring...Yet I can't count the times I have been overlooked because of my height. I am short it is the way GOD made me... and yea I've heard over and over again how GOD created us in his image but...It seems like most women haven�t gotten that memo...hahaha Ladies what is your opinion on this??? What can I do to get noticed??? I take care of myself....I am mature yet fun loving... I feel like I have everything to offer... Frustrated in NJ Eric Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 11 Aug, 2010 04:47 PM I'm sorry if this is insensitive, but you do realize the humor in the title of this thread, right? Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 11 Aug, 2010 06:48 PM lol Oh Lord!!! hahahaha yea im going to have to change that ....but I guess you also prove my point....why should I have to watch how I say things....why should it be a joke... Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 11 Aug, 2010 08:16 PM To answer your question more seriously, it really boils down to the fact that women are often very shallow about physical appearance, but it's different than how guys are shallow towards girls, so they think it's okay. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 11 Aug, 2010 08:27 PM For the most part, the guy being taller is a social norm, although we may be slowly moving away from that trend. One thought I've heard is that some women prefer taller men because it makes them feel more secure. It is also ironic that this is a thread in the ask a girl section, but only men so far have answered it. :p Post Reply
ForgetMeNots View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 12 Aug, 2010 05:07 AM I personally, don't think the problem is why don't women like short guys. It could be, why do you like such tall girls? :P There are girls your height, why not try to go for them? Also, women like confidence, if you are insecure about height issues, and mention it, we will take notice of your insecurity and be alittle deterred. I have actually liked some guys alittle shorter than I, and they were comfortable with their height, so I was comfortable wth them in that area, cause it didn't seem like a big deal or something to avoid stepping toes on,cause I honestly didn't notice it was suppose to be a big deal. For those who are short and did have a problem with it, I have experienced them, constantly wanting a ego boost of me telling them how big and important they were to me in one way or another, to validate themselves and make sure I was okay with their height. o_O Not cool. Just shows alot of insecurity, and neither girls nor guys like insecurity when someone can't be happy with themselves, and love who God made them to be. If one person thinks that you are short and have a problem with it, then they weren't made for you and move on. There will be someone who won't be dating your height but dating You. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 12 Aug, 2010 06:44 AM "There are girls your height, why not try to go for them?" Why not also tell guys the same thing about weight? Or hair color? Or any other random physical feature? Post Reply
chakal View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 12 Aug, 2010 09:34 AM "There are girls your height, why not try to go for them?" "There are girls ugly like you, why not try to go for them?" "There are girls who have the same problem, why not try to go for them?" ..... pffffff kind of racist thing, so the answer to the problem is everyone keep dating with other who have semilar physical features? it's not that people look semilar that they will be so in other area of life too.... Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 12 Aug, 2010 10:20 AM I think she made some good points about the insecurity thing. I'm dating a girl taller than me, but I'm also very comfortable with my height. And also, when you're making your shopping list of characteristics for your future partner....you should compare yourself to what you expecting from him/her. I'm not saying, and I don't think she's saying, that it can never work any other way, but I think we need to think about whether or not we're being a hypocrite. Do we have some preference that automatically disqualifies someone else? Probably. Then should we feel like it's unfair that someone does the same thing to us? Everybody has things they're attracted to that other people will think are unfair. Why? I have no idea. I guess they think everyone they're attracted has to be attracted to them. I think men and women both have expectations that they shouldn't have. Why do we have this list of things we think we need? We might be missing out on that genuine connection because we HAVE to have blue eyes or long hair, or an athletic build. Anyway...it kind of sounds like I'm contradicting myself....but I just think we need to be able to be truly and naturally attracted to our potential partners, but also try not to limit ourselves to one line of thought. Do we really know what we're attracted to, or what we need? Are we manufacturing some of it ourselves? Anyway...everybody should give everybody(or...almost everybody:goofball:) a chance, and everybody else should not get offended if there is no connection. Expecting someone to like you is kinda unfair too. In fact...I think it's a little more selfish then having preferences. Done rambling! :peace::peace: Post Reply
ForgetMeNots View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 12 Aug, 2010 10:27 AM Sure, if they want to,then why not then? All depends on the person. I know some people on here have listed in their profile that they are looking for basically some one just like them. Same fitness, same height, similar personality, and same interests. If that is what rocks their boat then good for them. I also know people who are looking for complete opposites from themselves. It can go swell for them too. But I am talking about height, and as my suggestion was going for was, if you aren't having luck with one type of girl, then try for another. Might get different results. :) The suggestion solves the underlying problem of height, because it eliminated the problem of whose taller or not. Both would be on equal levels with each other. To me, some of the best relationships have been people of equal level,not just height wise, but relationshipwise. If there is already a underlying issue from the beginning, it will repeatedly rear its ugly head in a relationship, and since you can't fix someone's security about their height, they will have to work on it themselves. It is not something someone else can nature and make better, but is up to the individual themselves and God to help them. If he wants someone taller then he can go for it. I am not against the idea, since I have dated men shorter than myself. It's just what I said in my previous post, of how to deal well with being yourself and being confident of who you are,because height shouldnt be a problem. It might be the kind of woman you are looking for if THEY make it a problem. Because if height is the only problem with them, I'd be questioning what exactly is the kind of person they are, *if they like everything else about them. (*on a deeper note, height may not be the exact problem, and They just aren't that interested in you.) Post Reply
ForgetMeNots View Profile History	Ladies...Why are short guys overlooked???? Posted : 12 Aug, 2010 10:28 AM Sure, if they want to,then why not then? All depends on the person. I know some people on here have listed in their profile that they are looking for basically some one just like them. Same fitness, same height, similar personality, and same interests. If that is what rocks their boat then good for them. I also know people who are looking for complete opposites from themselves. It can go swell for them too. But I am talking about height, and as my suggestion was going for was, if you aren't having luck with one type of girl, then try for another. Might get different results. :) The suggestion solves the underlying problem of height, because it eliminated the problem of whose taller or not. Both would be on equal levels with each other. To me, some of the best relationships have been people of equal level,not just height wise, but relationshipwise. If there is already a underlying issue from the beginning, it will repeatedly rear its ugly head in a relationship, and since you can't fix someone's security about their height, they will have to work on it themselves. It is not something someone else can nature and make better, but is up to the individual themselves and God to help them. If he wants someone taller then he can go for it. I am not against the idea, since I have dated men shorter than myself. It's just what I said in my previous post, of how to deal well with being yourself and being confident of who you are,because height shouldnt be a problem. It might be the kind of woman you are looking for if THEY make it a problem. Because if height is the only problem with them, I'd be questioning what exactly is the kind of person they are, *if they like everything else about them. (*on a deeper note, height may not be the exact problem, and They just aren't that interested in you.) Post Reply

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