Author	Thread: Being harassed
Admin	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 06:32 AM There is this christian man i used to date but i cut if off, could not work for me, I told him we could be friends just friends. He still insist that I am to be his wife and he is having all these dreams of us being married and me being pregnant, he evens wants to come by my home which never happened before. I feel wierd i am telling him those are his dreams not mine GOD has never confirmed to me that I would marry him so I cannot agree and he has his cell group praying for me to marry him. How do I truly get him to see I do not love him enough to marry him. PLEASE HELP :toomuch: Post Reply
View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 08:43 AM I know this is 'ask a girl' section,but was just pass'n through and saw you had no answers yet so I thought I could answer if I typed in a high voice : The answer is simple if you believe God hears and answers prayer; pray that God shows him and his cell group they are in error or show you he is right. chuck, 'alias charlene' Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 08:55 AM Sparrow: :ROFL::ROFL: I would add that you should be careful. If he's having "dreams" about you two being married, and you getting pregnant, and if he's wanting to come over to your house, he may not be having the most wholesome thoughts. If you ever feel in danger, I don't think you should hesitate to call a friend to come over and stay with you for awhile...or just call the police. Might not hurt to keep a tazer handy too! :boxing: Post Reply
View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 09:09 AM Contact your local non-emergency number and ask about filing harassment. It's not the same as a restraining order, but it alerts authorities of what is happening. I agree that it sounds like he might even be dangerous, and I am concerned that other "Christians" would be praying for his cause if they know you are not into it. Some sort of authority should know. Friends are nice, but law officers are better. Post Reply
View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 10:02 AM It just seems so wierd that some men cannot get a simple we cannot work into his head, I have told people even his family and friends to make it clear to him that no I will not be with him, he is a nice guy but his ways are funny to me like example he wanted to try and control every area of my life and I was like what :angeldevil: in disguise. So I cannot be with him we are not meant to be. I have told people about it, I guess i will have to bring the law into it if it does not stop I am praying for GOD to show it cannot happen. I do not believe christians should go to the police for there brothers or sisters but if it does not stop. them i will Post Reply
View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 10:04 AM I agree with "Charlene" and everyone, Val ... this could be a very dangerous, self-deceived guy ... friends ARE nice but police ARE better!!! Steve aka "Stephanie" Post Reply
View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 10:50 AM ok I agree with the others this man could become a danger. I have seen it up close and personal. Yes alert the police and everyone around you.. also it would be best if you told him you can NOT be friends with him, that just gives him hope.. sorry you are going through this Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 11:55 AM Val, I agree with what others are saying. I am wary of any man who is controlling, even in marriage. And now he's just getting obsessed and creepy. I think siylii had a great suggestion about filing harassment, but not going as far as a restraining order unless needed. That way if something DOES happen, the police will have some history on the situation. This could become very dangerous if it continues. Post Reply
View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 01:43 PM Stay away from him -he not only is a fruitloop but he is a Control freak and he needs help..those sort of men are dangerous.. Set up boundaries and break ALL ties ..you can not have a healthy relationship- even part way- with someone who is unhealthy....and you can not fix them..only God can. Someone who respects you as a woman of God- according to the word of God is someone who when you say NO...listens to you the first time I would say No once... if it keep on I would seek outside assistance ...I do not like sick games 911 works great:purpleangel: Post Reply
View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 05:42 PM Oh my! He wants to marry you, has dreams of you having his baby,wants to come by your house and is in prayer for you. How sick, demented, scary and dangerous!!! That is unless you think he incredibly nice and good looking. Then the exact same things make your heart pitter patter, face flush and brings butterflies. sorry; just thinking out loud. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Being harassed Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 07:00 PM @twosparrows. Maybe being a man you don't quite understand the potential gravity of the situation. This sounds like it has moved beyond someone having faith that they have a future together into STALKING. And STALKING is not okay. Plus, Val did say that this guy was very controlling in all parts of her life, which is also not okay. The two things together means this guy is a PSYCHO. Plain and simple. Post Reply

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