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DEEDEE72 View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 03:37 PM Would any of you not date someone because of the reason they are divorced? Grew apart, Fell out of love, spouse coukd not control their spending? Post Reply
View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 05:26 PM Honestly Yes I can say there are some reasons for divorce that I would avoid dating the men if I knew I am not proud to admit it but yes Post Reply
View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 05:50 PM Yes. I have one example. A man who divorced after his wife did something that made him really angry. Now, he was justified in being angry. But to divorce someone right away without trying to work things out or even seek help ---- really says something about the kind of man he is and how committed he is to marriage. Be very very careful. There are two sides to every story. Lots of prayer and discernment needs to go into deciding if a reason is "good" or not. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 06:06 PM @Lady. It's not something to be ashamed of. There are reasons for divorce that should give people pause when considering marrying that person. There are some very legitimate reasons for divorce spelled out in the Bible. Beyond those reasons spelled out by Jesus, I'm not sure if I would be able to justify marrying the man in question. @GL. Excellent point. That's exactly why I've always said that if I were going to marry a man who was divorced I would want to meet his ex-wife first and get her side of the story. I would give more "weight" to the words of the man I love because by that point there would be trust built up, but what she has to say matters to me also. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 09:31 PM Perhaps if she were divorced for being barren. Gotta make sure there are little Tulip progeny in the future, right? Post Reply
View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 09:51 PM Wrong Tulip Post Reply
View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 06:52 AM Well, I just can�t seem to stay away from this site. @Tulip � What are you going to do if the woman you marry ends up being barren? Are you going to divorce her? What if your little swimmers aren�t up to the task, are you going to give your wife a divorce? This is a very sensitive subject, but if you read the Bible, it really isn�t a book of sensitivity, but of righteousness and justice. There are really only two Biblical reasons for divorce. The first one is adultery. The second one is if your spouse is not saved, and you are being a Godly husband or wife, and treating your spouse with respect and doing everything that you can do to keep the marriage together, but they still want to be divorced, then you can grant them their request for a divorce. Those are the only two Biblical reasons for divorce. If someone who is not Biblically divorced marries someone else, they are committing adultery, and the person who marries them is also committing adultery. Therefore, it is extremely important why someone is divorced. No one likes being stuck in a marriage that they don�t enjoy, but that does not give them the grounds to divorce. Matthew 19:7-10 (NASB) 7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY?" 8 He said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. 9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." 10 The disciples said to Him, "If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry." Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 10:28 AM What about if she's divorced for burning dinner? Is that a legitimate reason not to date her? Post Reply
View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 11:02 AM I would not refuse to marry a woman because she was divorced for being barren, or burning dinner, (Tulip, you're too :ROFL:) but I would not marrry a woman who was divorced because she committed adultry. If she cheated on her first husband, what's to keep her from cheating on me? I know we are supposed to give everyone a second chance and all, but that would still be committing adultry. If I did marry a woman who was divorced for any other reason, I don't think her former husband and I would be interested in having any discussions about it. Personally, I really wouldn't care to hear his side. Post Reply
View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 11:23 AM Oh, sorry, I mean I wouldn't date a woman for the reason I stated. Post Reply
View Profile History	REASON FOR DIVORCE? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 02:12 PM I can see why in some cases you would want to talk to the ex about why things went so wrong.. I was talking to aman who is a widower and I found myself listening to his stories about his wife and thinking to myself I can never live up to that. Which would be more difficult knowing there is an ex and the reasons behind it or knowing they lost thier spouse to death? tough questions I ask myself Post Reply

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