Author	Thread: How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad?
Admin	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 24 Jan, 2011 03:04 PM Ok I just have a few questions for some ladies. I have sent a few messages, nice messages from the heart and no one ever responds. Sometimes it leaves me to wonder is something wrong with me? I have a car, house , motorcycle, I take care of myself pysical and never though of myself as being horrible looking and I have a super nice personality. And most of the females I have emailed were not out of my leauge at all. Am I missing something here???? Please help, thanks bunches!!!:) Post Reply
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 24 Jan, 2011 04:20 PM One thing I have learned from this online venue is not to take things so personally. I think what you are experiencing is quite common and in no way a reflection on you and what you have to offer. Everyone has their preferences and their own ideas of what is beautiful. Also, I used to always send a reply to all my messages until I started to get harassed by those who I had sent a "thank you for the message, blessings to you as you seek His choice". This may be the experience as well to some of the women you have been contacting.. Blessings to you and keep your chin up.. "Love is patient" Melissa Post Reply
View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 24 Jan, 2011 04:44 PM It is hard not to take it personally but you can't. I have had that happen to me as well!! You e-mail a nice messages and no response or they don't even bother reading your e-mail. I do have a problem with why can't people be at least considerate enough to answer even if they don't think you are what they are searching for? So you are not alone and hang in there!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 24 Jan, 2011 04:58 PM I read your profile and you do seem like a very nice guy. You're even grinning in your profile pic!! :) Bonus points for you!! So many guys' profile pics look scary or creepy. I don't think they realize it, but honestly, it has a lot to do with your first impression of someone. We've all been through this, so don't give up! Hang out in the forums, give your opinions on things. That way, the girl can read your last 5 forum posts and maybe get to know you a little better. :) :waving: T Post Reply
View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 24 Jan, 2011 07:06 PM The other ladies gave good advice. Also remember that not all profiles on this site are active. Just keep trying -- you are not doing anything wrong. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 24 Jan, 2011 09:53 PM Generally, what are you sending for a first message? One thing to consider is that if you send something generic or unoriginal, you're likely to get lost in the multitude of messages many women receive. I've had success with sending ridiculous messages, but for most people I recommend going the direction of being descriptive. Instead of saying, "Hi, I see that you like missions. I like missions too. Message me if you would like to get to know me better," get descriptive. "Hey, it's really cool to see that you have a heart for taking the Gospel to the nations. I actually just got back from a trip to South Africa where we spent a couple weeks getting to know and witnessing to students on a college campus. God really moved, and we saw three people come to Christ! How did you get started doing mission work?" is going to be a lot more likely to get a response. See the difference? Also, check to make sure it's an active profile. If she hasn't been on in the last day, there's a pretty high likelihood that you're messaging a dead profile. Post Reply
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 24 Jan, 2011 10:03 PM What Tulip said! Post Reply
View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 04:01 PM Tulip made good points. Catchy first time messages do pull me in. You need to remember that this is the internet and some people hide behind the computer because they cannot deal with real life relationships. The forums is a good way to get to know people better. Post Reply
View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 04:01 PM Hmm, you know some people think there's only one spouse out there for you...if that's true, then some failure should be expected lol. Anyways, if no one responds to your message, it doesn't mean you're bad at all. You have to measure yourself according to God's standard and not others'. The best thing to do to make sure you get a strong, Christian woman whom you can love is for you to make sure your own beliefs, principles and behaviors are in line with God's Word. If you're doing that, then you are not a "bad" man, perhaps it is simply not God's timing. Post Reply
theDave View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 04:55 PM I think you're cute... (not in the alternative lifestyle kind of way) Does that count? Post Reply
View Profile History	How come no one responds to me, Am I that bad? Posted : 26 Jan, 2011 06:52 AM Now let's see------ You have a car, house, motorcycle, muscles, and some guys think you're cute; also the girls not out of your league don't respond to you. My advice is: Message girls out of your league and see if you get better results. chevy Post Reply

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