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Question for ladies here who are 40+
Posted : 10 Mar, 2011 06:22 PM

I've been on this site for 1 1/2 years, hoping and praying that I will one day meet God's choice for me. I have noticed a common theme on CDFF and want to know if it is just me, or what? I have read several profiles of men my age (40+) here, where the gentleman sounds like the kind of Christian man I might like to meet. However, when I get to the bottom of his profile, the age range says 18 to 33 or 34, etc. Can someone help me to understand why a man in his 40's, who says he is marriage minded, would think this is an appropriate age range? What could a middle aged man have in common iwth someone who just graduated from high school, or college? I asked my two daughters who are in their 20's and they said they would never date someone old enoug to be their father. I just don't get it? Are middle aged men really that closed minded about women in their 40's? I believe I have actually aged well, and think I have a lot to offer. But here, it seems like slim pickins. Just wondering. Thanks for your input!

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Question for ladies here who are 40+
Posted : 10 Mar, 2011 06:48 PM

Oh yeah -- totally with you there. No, I can't explain it at all.

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Posted : 10 Mar, 2011 06:59 PM

Think how those of us who are constantly hit on by those men feel!!! It's more than a bit unnerving to receive messages, winks, and repeated profile views from men who are old enough to be my father.

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Posted : 10 Mar, 2011 07:16 PM

BCPiano.....Yes. I see your point. I imagine it is very unnerving, and a bit creepy too. It's sad that people on a Christian dating site, would think it is okay to hit on someone half their age. I'll say it again, I just don't get it.?????

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 08:12 AM

I get messaged by women half my age every once in a while. It�s a little bit flattering, but I also find it a little creepy. I�m old enough to be their father!! I can see why a guy in his 40s would want someone in their 30s, if he is looking to have a family. But to marry someone half their age? That�s is too young for me. I have nieces that age. The only things that I can think of is that they either wants some �hoty�, or are looking for someone who will not stand up to them, someone who will practically worship at their feet.



For me, I would prefer to find someone who has similar experiences. I have been in singles groups before and started to reminisce about an 80s TV and watch everyone look at me with that blank stare. I felt so out of place.

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 11:31 AM

Pro31-

Maybe these men are wanting families and they are looking to younger women for this.

I see it all the time too...



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Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 12:13 PM

River, I can see a guy in his 40s looking at women in their 30s for a family, but going all the way back into the 20s? They�re in their 40s! Having kids is for the young.

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 12:32 PM

Ya...I tryd to contact a man that is listed at 50...his settings are betwix 35-25 and he has stated on his profile " wants kids "...those ages listed are like the differance betwix a drivers licence and a tri-cycle...whats up with that ???...xo

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 04:55 PM

I think age should be 10 years younger or older. Ive seen women 45 that looked 65 and women 65 that looked 45.

My gut feeliyng for men or women looking more than 10 years younger are looking for a trophy or controlling the other.

Why would I like to raise anymore Kids whether they are the ones I would like to get involved or even herself.

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 06:31 PM

If I might add....just because this is a Christian site doesn't mean everyone coming here is Christian.

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 06:46 PM

I sympathize with you completely Proverbs! I didn't look to see where you live but I live in California and the older guy looking for youth (and perfection) in females is rampant here.



It seems with quite alot of them that they lived a single, selfish life, then they hit their forties and it's time for the trophy wife!



Best wishes that you find someone :)



Jenny

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