Author	Thread: Disapproval?
bcpianogal View Profile History	Disapproval? Posted : 25 Oct, 2011 08:04 AM Girls, what would you do if you found yourself in a serious relationship (perhaps even an engagement) that NO ONE approves of? In fact, the only people who think that the relationship is good are you, your bf, his parents, and people who don't know you and therefore just casually say "Oh, you're engaged? Congratulations!" Everyone else thinks that you are making the biggest mistake of your life. Everyone else = family, extended family, friends, acquaintances, co-workers, spiritual mentors, etc. Most of the people who disapprove know one or both of you relatively well as individuals, or have spent a good bit of time getting to know you as a couple. You admit that the relationship isn't all it should be. You admit that there are some serious problems. You think that marriage will solve those problems, though...even though they are getting worse in the months leading up to the wedding. How would you handle that situation? Would you end the relationship, or proceed with it? If you choose to proceed with the relationship, what would it take for you to change your mind? Guys, any input from your side? What would you do if you were in a similar situation? Post Reply
EverybodyNeedsFriend View Profile History	Disapproval? Posted : 31 Oct, 2011 05:52 AM That�s a super good question BC. I don�t have �the answer�, but knowing myself, I know what I would do. I would totally get together with the guy even if the whole world disapproved, but I felt like it was in the Lord�s will. However... When you said mentioned that the �relationship wasn�t all it should be.� That there are �some serious problems�. And �You think that marriage will solve those problems even though they are getting worse in the months leading up to the wedding�. That�s serious! First of all, if there were serious problems in the relationship, and it was not all that it should be, I would not continue to pursue the marriage. If it doesn�t glorify God, doesn�t make us happy (yes, our happiness is important if you want to survive), if we can�t be happy in God together, or even find fulfillment in the relationship individually. If it is emotionally, physically, intellectually, spiritually or verbally unhealthy or abusive, it would be wise to end it. That�s what I think. Then, I�d think myself rather silly for believing that the relationship would get better after marriage�that marriage would solve the deep-seated issue-whatever that issue may be. Possibly marriage will solve the issue of physical-sexual satisfaction or frustration, but that�s about it. Because whether married or engaged, single, friends or dating, you take your problems with you�you take yourself with you wherever you go. � � I know this assumption is dangerous and common and can be manifested in different ways. Say, for example, a husband and wife find their marriage is suffering from a serious of interpersonal problems. They then decide that having children will fix these problems. It would be nice if having children did fix the problem, but we all know that this is not always the case. So really, really pray about your relationships. Don�t let anyone use you or push you into things you�re not 100% sure you want to be pushed into. If you are letting someone push you, you may be also living in fear, and the person whom you are in relationship with may be �grabbing, not loving�. Just my thoughts on it. Post Reply
Dadajojo View Profile History	Disapproval? Posted : 17 Nov, 2011 02:28 PM I will try my best to break up and try as much as possible to forget abt her Post Reply
View Profile History	Disapproval? Posted : 17 Nov, 2011 07:02 PM End it. End it right away. The people that know you best are wiser in regards to you than strangers. Post Reply

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