Author	Thread: stalking ??
gershonmn View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 15 May, 2012 02:06 PM ok ladies I am not understanding this. what is stalking? I was a computer geek for 15 years and never understood how you can "stalk" some one online. just block their access. or on here send a "we are not a good match" note/ part 2 if there is no contact and all you do is look at their profile how is that any kind of a threat or stalking? please educate me Post Reply
MCEV View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 17 May, 2012 03:43 PM That's true to an extent, but one does not have to physically attack someone or verbally threaten someone to qualify as stalking as far as the authorities are concerned. Restraining orders can be issued for a variety of reasons as long as cause is shown that the person is a potential threat. If someone persisted enough in a 'stalking' fashion one would have the right to seek legal protection. As for answering the original question, I think constant profile views even after a 'no thank you' of some sort is issued could be understandably unnerving. If you have told someone, male or female, that you are simply uninterested and they continue to view your profile often for many days prior then it gives the impression that they haven't accepted that refusal. Obviously continued attempts to contact you would be more concerning and that's when blocking them would be necessary especially if their attempts are crude or hostile. Simple views may be harmless but I can see where they stop being flattering and start being 'creepy' once the person has been clearly informed that you are not interested. Post Reply
gershonmn View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 18 May, 2012 02:36 PM MCEV i agree with you. however those of us that put our info on a site like this along with our pictures are giving consent to whoever wants to look at that info whenever thy like and as often as they like . . . and as I pointed out it is only the knowing they look at us that is troubling because they/ we have the ability , on this site , to see their profile 1000 times without their knowledge. G Post Reply
View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 19 May, 2012 01:36 PM Online stalking? I would say its when you view someone else's profile for more than necessary number of times, then sending messages or friend request again n again inspite of a NO, Next it is trying to get or getting into the personal info and circle of friends for reasons never known. Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 20 May, 2012 03:46 PM Viewing profiles is hardly stalking..... this is a dating site and I would like to know how else people would obain information if not by watching the profiles. Yet a profile is not a blog! And when you decide to treat it like one and update it with your day to day activities and thoughts, then you should not be surprised that you will create a list of followers who will check your profile constantly. A mere consequence of your own behaviour. Also, when you decide to join an online dating site you should be prepared to deal with people who you do not wish to have further contact with. And there is also the CDFF management. This site is fairly well monitored. Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 21 May, 2012 07:31 PM I don't agree, I don't feel someone constantly checking my profile, which of courst is to let me know he has, agian... takes one ounce of control from me, the guy has the problem. I also beg to differ with your statement of woman having to be in control of every aspect of their life. I don't want to put words in your mouth, but I have to wonder if you're saying woman are unstable (mentally) - because we should all know this is not possible and even more so as a Christian. Probably not saying that.. but that's the way it sounds. Post Reply
gershonmn View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 21 May, 2012 08:46 PM grace once again I must say it appears that it is only THE KNOWING how much a person is seeing your profile that bothers you not the fact that they are looking. so I ask if we choose to not allow people to know that we visited your profile and we did so 100 times it is the same act but you are not bothered because you did not know it so no problem. what say you? Post Reply
View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 21 May, 2012 11:37 PM Hmm let me share my experience with you. When I first came on this site there was a gentleman from my own country had seen my profile and decided to message me. I had not had time to respond that very day though I read the email, but when I checked the next day there was another message this one asking me why I had not answered the last message. It kind of annoyed me right away because I was going to respond and I just did not have the time but his message was strongly written and the tone very abrasive. I sent the "I don't think we make a good match" message hoping that would be it. He sent me another message later that day saying I had not given him a chance and that I should make time to write to him that day. That kind of did it for me and I blocked him, lo and behold the very next day I got a message from another guy, it was him under another account name. His message was very belligerent and abusive and I was accused of being a hypocrite and a horrible excuse for a Christian. I kept blocking him but he kept opening more accounts. This to me is very scary because he felt because he had messaged me I owed him my time and devotion. I do not believe in being rude or harsh but in this case I think I was well within my rights. Since I was new to the sight I did not really know about reporting him. I sent him a message apologizing for any hurt feelings but his actions towards me was abusive and that did not give me warm fuzzy feelings I asked him to never contact me again. A few days later he messaged me under another name and said he was leaving the sight that I was not worth his time. Let me tell you that was a scary ordeal for me because this guy lived on the same island I did. So, being viewed a billion times you can't help that, it's a Christian sight and i think that thinking about people who may be viewing your profile innumerably is just a way to have sleepless nights. When they start to find ways to get into your life then you should be worried. Post Reply
View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 22 May, 2012 07:40 AM I agree Kjd. I had kinda similar experience and it wasnt fun.lol. Viewing profile once in a while repeatedly is ok,but its annoying when it becomes almost everyday a couple times . I start thinking about the intent as I had a very bad experience in another networking site. Probably it could be different here though. Post Reply
View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 22 May, 2012 08:13 AM When I politely turned a guy down one time he said he was going to tell his pastor on me, that I wasn't a genuine Christian if I didn't date him! :ROFL: Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	stalking ?? Posted : 22 May, 2012 03:55 PM gershonmn, I say, my being aware or unware of excessive profile hits won't bother me. If I'm made aware of it, I'd probably block the guy. Post Reply

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